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Posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
I asked my T about his schedule for the holidays, assuming, since we meet on Saturdays, we'd have to try to reschedule my sessions from Christmas and New Year's Eve. Nope. He's working. :-o
Well, I've had at least a few sessions in a row that have been kind of tough. I've felt like crying after each one and this last one's had me feeling pretty lousy all week. My T suggested that we're on the verge of something, but I guess my conscious hasn't quite figured it out, yet.
So, do I risk going on Christmas Eve hours before I have to see my family and a day before I have twenty people at my house? Do I reschedule for the Wednesday before and give myself a few days to recuperate? Or the Wednesday after and then I have to get through the holiday missing him even more than I already do each week?
I'm not exactly sure what to do, but, although it doesn't seem to be the wisest choice, I will admit, there's something really nice about the thought of seeing him on Christmas Eve.
What would you do?
Laurie
Posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:43:39
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
Sorry I haven't been around much. I've read some and I've had a lot I wanted to say, but I just can't seem to post. :(
Posted by Tamar on December 15, 2005, at 4:28:19
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
I saw my therapist on Christmas Eve last year. I was very attached to him, so I found it a really good thing. We kept the session fairly light; didn’t get into anything messy. I’d reckon you could see your T, talk about your plans for Christmas, keep it fairly easy, and the hard stuff will wait until after the holidays.
Just my two cents.
Tamar
Posted by annierose on December 15, 2005, at 5:11:29
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
Hi Laurie -
I would keep my Christmas Eve appointment too. I can't believe he is working both pre-Holiday days. Lucky you. And do you ever add an additional Wednesday appointment if you feel you need the extra support?
I hate that feeling of something looming in my subconscious that's stuck, and you're not quite sure what it's all about.
Consider your Christmas Eve appointment a present to yourself.
Posted by ClearSkies on December 15, 2005, at 6:51:45
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
I'd go on Christmas Eve too, and keep it light for yourself.
ClearSkiesp.s. I have missed you.
Posted by gardenergirl on December 15, 2005, at 7:07:55
In reply to Re: My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by ClearSkies on December 15, 2005, at 6:51:45
I think seeing him on Christmas Eve would be good, too, if you can keep is easy. If you feel like it might be rough, as the recent ones have been, you might want to make it a bit earlier.
I know that crying after feeling. I always want to (and often do) crawl into bed for some nice, restorative sleep. I'd call it a nap, but I'd be lying. It's at least 2 hours each time.
It sounds like it will be stressful, even if it's the good kind of stress. I know in my case, it might be too much, but only you can really gauge your response. How's that for advice? Sorry.
I also know the reading but not posting deal. It's okay.
Hmmm, now I'm kind of wishing I could see my T on Christmas eve.
Oh, and have you considered that your T is both fantastic and crazy? :-D
gg
Posted by daisym on December 15, 2005, at 10:13:17
In reply to Re: My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy. » ClearSkies, posted by gardenergirl on December 15, 2005, at 7:07:55
I saw my therapist Christmas eve and it was really nice -- he's Jewish so we talked about our different traditions, etc. I gave him a Pandora's Box for Christmas so we talked a lot about what therapy has meant for me and sort of back tracked over the year. It wasn't a "productive" session in the sense that I went deep but it was a bonding session. And that helped with all the holiday stress.
On the other hand, if you are on the verge of something, letting it get buried again for a few weeks might set you back. If you want to keep pushing, I'd go Wednesday. And then call on Saturday. :)
Good luck. Let us know what you decide. I'm with GG -- maybe he is fantastically crazy!
Posted by fairywings on December 15, 2005, at 12:44:40
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
I think a Christmas eve appt. would be great. The suggestion of making it a present to yourself sounds like a good one. You do have a very special T. This is a really hard time of year for so many ppl, so I'm sure it's a busy time for him.
Good luck, I hope it's a good session, and I'm glad you're back.
fw
Posted by zenhussy on December 15, 2005, at 13:04:37
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
Therapy and hostess duties rarely mix well from our experience........that's just us.
Daisy's idea of going Wednesday and then calling to check in on Saturday sounds wisest. That way you have recoup. time and also time to connect on Christmas Eve day.
Being on the verge of something *IS* important but pacing out when you reach that important issue can be delicate especially during the holidays. Sounds like you are trusting your T well and he's shown himself to be there for you.
Go with your gut on this. Only you know whether or not you can truly handle twenty ppl the day after your session.
Wed. visit and Sat. phone call sounds best to us.
__zh
Posted by Poet on December 15, 2005, at 13:16:44
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
Hi All Done,
I would keep both appointments. Not that seeing you is work :) but maybe your T looks at it as sessions as usual, because neither is really a recognized holiday day off. I would be working if they weren't on a Saturday.
I think your T is fantastic, probably a little crazy, too, both are okay with me!
Poet
Posted by fallsfall on December 15, 2005, at 20:00:49
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
It would be simple if you weren't on the verge of something (in that case I'd keep the *eve appointments). But I'm sure that neither of you will mess up the holidays, so it probably isn't risky in any event.
Make sure that you enjoy the fact that he is available to see you those days. That should feel good.
Posted by Dinah on December 15, 2005, at 21:55:57
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
My therapist usually works the first half of New Years Eve and Christmas Eve, but breaks around one or so. Not this year, since it falls on a weekend, but usually.
I've had several Christmas Eve appointments and they've been some of my favorites. He's relaxed, we stick to bonding, and it's really quite nice.
I don't even think we've ever had to openly state the "no can of worms" rule on Christmas eve, though I do before trips.
Posted by All Done on December 18, 2005, at 1:52:41
In reply to My T is either really fantastic or a little crazy., posted by All Done on December 15, 2005, at 2:39:36
Thanks for all of your great ideas, thoughts, and for sharing your experiences!
I probably could schedule extra sessions, but it's the end of the year and I'm over my 30 session max. With all the Christmas shopping I've done and have to do, I can almost hear my bank account crying, "give me back my money!"
And the phone call idea is a good one, but it's been a pretty sensitive subject for me lately. Without getting into all of it, I'm really hesitant to call him for anything. Not because he hasn't made it clear that I *can* call, but...
Anyway, I talked to him today about next week's session. He kind of ruined the "specialness" of it before I had a chance to explain anything :(. In any event, though, he listened and now he understands how I feel. He offered to reschedule, if I want to, but I told him I'll keep my regular sessions...for now, at least. It was another tough session today, though.
He did seem amused with my subject line for this thread and laughed when I told him the consesus seemed to be that he was both fantastic and a bit crazy. And I will admit, I don't think I'd want him any other way. :)
Thanks, again, everyone!
Laurie
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