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Posted by 10derHeart on September 9, 2005, at 16:31:23
Hope you feel like saying how it went today.
I think I'm nervous *for* you, lol!
((rainbowbrite))
see, I can spell it right..when I feeeeel like it ;-)
Posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 0:12:05
In reply to Hey, Rain, posted by 10derHeart on September 9, 2005, at 16:31:23
LOL
10derHeart, Im touched...Well....it was hard. There were heaps of current magazines in the wating room btw.
The appointment left me feeling kind of empty and it was only the initial meeting! It seemed to go on forever, almost 2 hours.. The T was nice, looked nice too :-)Its hard to talk about things. I suggested making it as short-term as possible and he said that it was not good for me to focus on that so much and he also inferred at the end that it was unrealistic for me to think I could work through things so quickly. I like blunt and he was. But, do you agree with that? Im happy with myself for going, really. And he was a nice T, not like the "oh poor you" type T. I know that this is going to be hard. and it is supposed to be. Today was difficult.
Thanks for checking in with me, sorry I feel like my post is disapointing.
rain
Posted by gardenergirl on September 10, 2005, at 0:52:45
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » 10derHeart, posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 0:12:05
Good for you for going. And I think your reactions are genuine and honest. Sounds like he was too. For a first appt. it sounds like it went okay. I say give it a solid chance, say about six sessions, and then assess from there.
Unless he does something horrible like pick his nose, fall asleep or answer calls during your time. Or calls you Edna.
((((edna)))) tee hee
gg
Posted by All Done on September 10, 2005, at 1:56:42
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » 10derHeart, posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 0:12:05
(((((rain))))),
You're post isn't disappointing at all. Were you left feeling disappointed?
I do wonder if you become very focused on getting done quickly, you might not talk about the things that will actually help your progress. Maybe you can try put that concern to the side and just save a time after your session each week to evaluate how things are going instead. That way, you won't interfere with your session, but you'll still give yourself an opportunity to look at what you want and feel you need.
It sounds like you're on a good track, though. I hope it works for you.
Laurie
Posted by Annierose on September 10, 2005, at 7:30:30
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » 10derHeart, posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 0:12:05
So glad you went! Maybe the empty feeling was also exhaustion. Your brain is saying, "do I really have to work that hard again?". But you know it will be worth the journey.
Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 8:02:05
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » 10derHeart, posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 0:12:05
First sessions are rarely spectacular. Too much that needs to be done in a particular format, though some are less obvious than others.
But if you thought he was nice, and if he appeared to be honest, that's a good start.
Posted by Poet on September 10, 2005, at 11:37:32
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » 10derHeart, posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 0:12:05
Hi Rainbowbrite,
At my second session, my T told me that first sessions are the hardest. You made it through the toughest one.
Plus your T is kind of cute. You won't have to stare at your shoes when you are afraid to talk like I do. You can stare at him. ;)
Poet
Posted by 10derHeart on September 10, 2005, at 16:43:22
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » 10derHeart, posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 0:12:05
I didn't feel at all disappointed with your post. That would require some sort of expectation, I think, and I didn't have one. Just a hope you would feel like telling us...nothing more :-)Well, thinking back over 4 years, I've had the *first session* experience 7 times! Never counted before....wow! Now, only 2 of those Ts didn't stay my T. because it was a bad fit - one male, one female. With all the other changes, it was because it was a military clinic, where T. left to go to a new base, retire from the military, or in one case, deploy to Iraq. So....don't freak about that number 7!
Anyway...I think this sounds about right. Mine were all a bit differnt differnt, yet had a few things in common. Draining, weird, kinda good but kinda not...all that. I think spending 2 hours with you is impressive. No one did that with me.
I'm proud of you for going - sticking our heads in the sand and saying, "oh....never mind," feels a lot easier sometimes. It IS a lot easier, sometimes. But usually only for the short term.
I think gg is wise...give it around 6 sessions or so. You know, I HATED my former T. (pdoc) when we first met. Thought he was arrogant, too quiet and mysterious, annoying, infuriating. This is a man I now love dearly, who kept in email touch with me for 4 months after a painful termination until I found my current T. (actually, I still email him every couple months and he's very warm and responsive)
Moral of story = I judged him too harshly, too quickly, and I was filterng through my own junk, too. This is where these relationships are just like any other in life, IMO. Sometimes, our first impressions are wrong. Although, sometimes, they're right. My instincts never said ex-T. didn't care and wasn't going to help me, just that he was sort of...incomprehensible! (sp.?)
Anyway...I'm rambling. Hang in and share with us. With all these awesome Babblers, we may have just about seen and heard it all! You can do it, even though it IS hard.
You can do hard stuff - you're RaNEboughBRIghT! lol
Posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 16:48:47
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » rainbowbrite, posted by Poet on September 10, 2005, at 11:37:32
gg,
>>Good for you for going. And I think your reactions are genuine and honest. Sounds like he was too. For a first appt. it sounds like it went okay. I say give it a solid chance, say about six sessions, and then assess from there.
Ok, I will
>>Unless he does something horrible like pick his nose, fall asleep or answer calls during your time. Or calls you Edna.
((((edna)))) tee hee
lol
Laurie,
>>You're post isn't disappointing at all. Were you left feeling disappointed?
A little. Maybe its the feelings I was left with after.
>>I do wonder if you become very focused on getting done quickly, you might not talk about the things that will actually help your progress. Maybe you can try put that concern to the side and just save a time after your session each week to evaluate how things are going instead. That way, you won't interfere with your session, but you'll still give yourself an opportunity to look at what you want and feel you need.
yes, you are right. I do get really focussed on that.
Thanks
Annierose,>>So glad you went! Maybe the empty feeling was also exhaustion. Your brain is saying, "do I really have to work that hard again?". But you know it will be worth the journey.
Thanks, I hope so
Dinah,
>>But if you thought he was nice, and if he appeared to be honest, that's a good start.
Yeah Im hanging onto that because it was nice
Poet,
>>Plus your T is kind of cute. You won't have to stare at your shoes when you are afraid to talk like I do. You can stare at him. ;)
lol thats true, I guess that alone is worth the visit :-)
thanks everyone
Posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 20:53:50
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » rainbowbrite, posted by 10derHeart on September 10, 2005, at 16:43:22
we must have posted at the same time.
> I didn't feel at all disappointed with your post. That would require some sort of expectation, I think, and I didn't have one. Just a hope you would feel like telling us...nothing more :-)I think It was me, I was feeling down about it and I didnt feel like I was sounding all that upbeat about it.
> Well, thinking back over 4 years, I've had the *first session* experience 7 times! Never counted before....wow! Now, only 2 of those Ts didn't stay my T. because it was a bad fit - one male, one female. With all the other changes, it was because it was a military clinic, where T. left to go to a new base, retire from the military, or in one case, deploy to Iraq. So....don't freak about that number 7!
>
> Anyway...I think this sounds about right. Mine were all a bit differnt differnt, yet had a few things in common. Draining, weird, kinda good but kinda not...all that. I think spending 2 hours with you is impressive. No one did that with me.
Yeah, 2 hours is along time. He seemed very intererested and wanted to know a lot of info. His interest is good I guess, maybe it scared me.> I'm proud of you for going - sticking our heads in the sand and saying, "oh....never mind," feels a lot easier sometimes. It IS a lot easier, sometimes. But usually only for the short term.
Thanks :-) I do like th easy way at the time lol
> I think gg is wise...give it around 6 sessions or so. You know, I HATED my former T. (pdoc) when we first met. Thought he was arrogant, too quiet and mysterious, annoying, infuriating. This is a man I now love dearly, who kept in email touch with me for 4 months after a painful termination until I found my current T. (actually, I still email him every couple months and he's very warm and responsive)
thats so nice. i will stick it out. Im not sure if I will do 1/week or 1 every other week, Im booked for next week.
> Anyway...I'm rambling. Hang in and share with us. With all these awesome Babblers, we may have just about seen and heard it all! You can do it, even though it IS hard.:-)
>
> You can do hard stuff - you're RaNEboughBRIghT! lol
>
:-D lol
Posted by fairywings on September 10, 2005, at 21:57:37
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » 10derHeart, posted by rainbowbrite on September 10, 2005, at 0:12:05
Hi rain,
Well, at least you won't have to dread looking at him, since he looked nice, and then he was interested in what you had to say, that is very promising. Two hours, wow! it's great that he was honest about not trying to rush through things, you'll know going into it that you can't expect a quick fix with him, and that he's willing to be there for the long haul.
It's good that you went, you should give yourself a pat on the back! i hope your feeling better!
(((hugs)))
fw
Posted by rainbowbrite on September 11, 2005, at 18:51:18
In reply to Re: Hey, Rain » rainbowbrite, posted by fairywings on September 10, 2005, at 21:57:37
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