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Posted by crushedout on January 7, 2005, at 20:33:08
It's very hard for me to come here because every time I read something about you guys and how you feel close to your Ts, it makes me think of my old T and miss her and think I made a huge mistake. It's very painful. I've been very sad today.
Posted by Dinah on January 7, 2005, at 20:53:31
In reply to I miss my T so much, posted by crushedout on January 7, 2005, at 20:33:08
I can only imagine...
(((crushed)))
Posted by crushedout on January 7, 2005, at 21:01:42
In reply to Re: I miss my T so much » crushedout, posted by Dinah on January 7, 2005, at 20:53:31
Thanks, Dinah. I'm not sure what made me so sad today. It might be because I wrote her a long letter last night (one of many that I'll possibly never send). I cried (of course) writing it. I think it was super corny amd melodramatic and I was probably trying too hard but a lot of it was also heartfelt. Could be why I'm feeling so sad today, I dunno.
Posted by annierose on January 7, 2005, at 22:24:09
In reply to Re: I miss my T so much » Dinah, posted by crushedout on January 7, 2005, at 21:01:42
Crushed -
Try to keep reminding yourself that this is a long struggle. You seem to feel better after seeing T2. Is it at all possible to see her more often? Don't beat yourself up. There is no quick fix. And it's okay to feel sad about a loss, especially someone that you felt so close to. I've noticed that weekends seem especially hard for you.I used to feel sad on Sundays because as a child, I got to spend time with my grandma every Sunday. She was the only person in my childhood who loved me for who I was. After she died, I was 13 years old, I could barely get through a Sunday without feeling depressed. Even now they are hard, but easier with children. My husband plays tennis Sunday mornings with his father. So the kids and I typically put on some loud (sometime bad) music and dance. It's very uplifting, even for a crabby mom, who just wants to go back to bed!!
Keep posting. I work tomorrow but I'll try to sneak a peek at my computer.
Posted by daisym on January 8, 2005, at 1:37:59
In reply to I miss my T so much, posted by crushedout on January 7, 2005, at 20:33:08
I'm sorry crushed. I actually have wondered sometimes about all the sharing we do about our therapists and if by reading everyone else's experiences we don't wish our therapists would do stuff different. Or be different. I wonder if that makes therapy harder for some of us in some ways.
I know you are struggling. Hang in there. It is OK to feel sad. It is grieving a loss. A huge loss, even if a necessary one.
Hugs,
Daisy
Posted by Aphrodite on January 8, 2005, at 4:45:27
In reply to I miss my T so much, posted by crushedout on January 7, 2005, at 20:33:08
I am so sorry. The grieving process is so hard and long. I think writing it out is a good thing unless it floods you too much. Be sure you are letting your new T in on all of your grief. You need that support, and she'll understand.
Soon enough, you'll be writing here about closeness with your new T. I hope that it sooner rather than later.
Take care this weekend.
Posted by crushedout on January 8, 2005, at 8:49:04
In reply to Of course you do! » crushedout, posted by Aphrodite on January 8, 2005, at 4:45:27
I know it's going to be a bumpy road, with many ups and downs. So I just post here to let you know whether I'm on the up or the down. And it helps to have your company and support and sympathy. So thanks for that.
Posted by crushedout on January 8, 2005, at 9:45:07
In reply to Re: I miss my T so much, posted by annierose on January 7, 2005, at 22:24:09
Thanks, annierose. I think you're right that it would help to see the new T twice a week. She thinks so, too. It's hard right now with my schedule, but I'm going to try to see her more often.
Posted by Annierose on January 8, 2005, at 10:54:52
In reply to Re: I miss my T so much » annierose, posted by crushedout on January 8, 2005, at 9:45:07
I know how expensive therapy is (everyone here can relate) but I feel it is so worth it, to have that support. I'm glad your T is willing to see you more often, if you are able to make that work for you. (Now I need to get back to work).
Try to keep yourself busy. Time seems to go faster when one is occupied ... at least for me.
Annierose
Posted by fallsfall on January 8, 2005, at 13:57:31
In reply to I miss my T so much, posted by crushedout on January 7, 2005, at 20:33:08
I know that feeling.
For me, it came and went, and came and went, but eventually lessened. I hope that happens for you soon.
(((((Crushed)))))
Posted by crushedout on January 8, 2005, at 16:35:01
In reply to Re: I miss my T so much » crushedout, posted by fallsfall on January 8, 2005, at 13:57:31
How long ago did you switch Ts again, falls? Were you on Babble at the time?
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