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Posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 18:42:30
Saw the new T today. My first reaction to seeing her was, "Wow, you look hot" (in my head -- not out loud). That freaked me out a little but it was also almost reassuring. Like, OK, this is not about the Ts -- this really is about me. And that means that I did not have to walk by and pass up the love of my life (i.e., the old T was just a pawn in the psychological game my mind is playing on me). So maybe I *can* fall in love again. And if it unfortunately has to be another T first (before it can be a "real" person), at least this one has good boundaries and maybe will be able to help me figure out what the heck this is all about. So I can move on and have a real life instead this imaginary, therapy-centered one.It was also good to talk about how hard I've been working and how much pain I've been in and how much I've been missing the old T. She was really empathetic, without being overly involved. Which is how therapy is supposed to be.
I'm still struggling but I feel like I've got both nostrils out of the water right now, rather than only one breathing through a straw (sorry for the unfortunate metaphor).
Posted by Dinah on January 3, 2005, at 19:20:43
In reply to Therapy today, posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 18:42:30
That sounds like a really good development, crushed. Therapy is best when we can see the patterns, and more importantly when we have a therapist who doesn't get caught up in playing a part in them.
Posted by messadivoce on January 3, 2005, at 19:47:51
In reply to Therapy today, posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 18:42:30
Wow crushed, I'm really glad for you! I hope you get your whole head out of the water eventually, and that you float. I hope you keep us posted about how things are going for you.
Posted by 10derheart on January 3, 2005, at 20:22:21
In reply to Therapy today, posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 18:42:30
Hi Crushed,
You sound really terrific in this post. I am so glad for you. It's spooky how much of this mirrors my own experience right now. Your descriptions of T's attitude, boundaries, empathy sounds much like my new T's also. Everything but the hot part ;) My old T. - oh, yeah, new T. - nope, just fatherly and kind.
I sense such good things are going to start happening for you. I really do. Hope we all get to follow along with that journey too. I think it will be one filled with growth and new beginnings, with far, far less pain, frustration and disappointment. Way to go, Crushed!!
--my best, 10derheart
Posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 20:29:25
In reply to Re: Therapy today, posted by 10derheart on January 3, 2005, at 20:22:21
Gosh, I hope you're right 10derheart. Your post was so uplifting and really sweet. Thank you.
Posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 20:35:30
In reply to Re: Therapy today, posted by messadivoce on January 3, 2005, at 19:47:51
I hope I do, too. And that I keep up with you guys even if things start going well. Historically, I've tended to be a foul-weather Babbler, but I'm kind of hoping that will change.
Posted by 10derheart on January 3, 2005, at 20:56:30
In reply to Re: Therapy today » 10derheart, posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 20:29:25
You're very welcome, and thanks for making time to say that. You may have just made my day! :-)
Posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 20:57:52
In reply to Re: Therapy today » crushedout, posted by 10derheart on January 3, 2005, at 20:56:30
Posted by fallsfall on January 3, 2005, at 21:07:04
In reply to Therapy today, posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 18:42:30
Wow, Crushed!
That sounds wonderful. Good for you!!!!!
Posted by Annierose on January 3, 2005, at 21:08:55
In reply to Therapy today, posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 18:42:30
Happy for you Crushed. Baby steps. That's all you can asked from yourself right now. So ... she's hot too? If I could find your first post about this T, I don't think that was your first impression :)
I'm glad you like her and are beginning to connect.
Posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 21:14:11
In reply to Re: Therapy today, posted by Annierose on January 3, 2005, at 21:08:55
No, she's really not my type. Neither was the old T at first, or so I thought. They grow on me. Well, she was wearing a really sexy shirt today. It embarrassed me, it looked so good on her.
Posted by annierose on January 3, 2005, at 21:58:05
In reply to Re: Therapy today » Annierose, posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 21:14:11
Posted by daisym on January 4, 2005, at 1:33:49
In reply to Re: Therapy today » Annierose, posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 21:14:11
It is nice to "hear" a smile in your post. What I want to know is did you TELL her she looked sexy in her shirt?!
Keeps things out in the open. Maybe that way they won't get too big.
Hugs. Keep up the good work. And no worries about when/how much you post. We all love you, you know that!
Daisy
Posted by crushedout on January 4, 2005, at 18:17:44
In reply to Re: Therapy today » crushedout, posted by daisym on January 4, 2005, at 1:33:49
Daisy,No! I didn't! i think you're right and i should have, but eek, how embarrassing. how could i?
i don't feel comfortable telling her that kind of stuff. i barely know her! i guess i ought to force myself. how to do it?
Posted by Daisym on January 4, 2005, at 19:19:02
In reply to Re: Therapy today » daisym, posted by crushedout on January 4, 2005, at 18:17:44
Take in your post. Hand it to her or read it too her. It is important.
OR..."I found myself thinking about how nice you looked after out session last week. It is amazing to me how quickly those feelings have come up again."
Be brave. You, yourself, recognized this. And besides, who doesn't like to be told they look nice?
Posted by Aphrodite on January 4, 2005, at 19:21:57
In reply to Therapy today, posted by crushedout on January 3, 2005, at 18:42:30
Wow, you sound incredibly healthy and insightful. This feels like progress! I know there are always steps forward and then back, but I hope you can keep the momentum. I hope you learn a lot about yourself that will make your future relationships more of what you deserve.
Posted by crushedout on January 4, 2005, at 19:31:53
In reply to Re: Therapy today » crushedout, posted by Daisym on January 4, 2005, at 19:19:02
you're right. i don't know why it's so embarrassing. i'll try my best. i'm scared i'll chicken out, but i'll try my best not to.
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