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Posted by babbgal on May 25, 2004, at 19:54:58
I have a job interview tomorrow, after not working for almost five months. I left my last job in January with the assistance of an attorney...I filed an ADA claim because of my diagnosis of bipolar II and ongoing, awful harrassment from my boss. She would say things to me like, "I don't know how you'll be able to work another job with your mental problems." The good news was that I got a financial settlement and got out of there. (And boy, seeing the look on her face when I told her I had an attorney was priceless...she thought I was so wimpy, she had no idea...)
Though my husband has been great and technically we can go a few more months before I MUST start working, starting sooner rather than later won't hurt. So I have this interview tomorrow, just a preliminary one with an HR person at a software company. The thing is, I can ace interviews. I'm not trying to sound smug, but I'm a good interviewer. If I want to land a job, I can. In a way, I'm nervous and scared about landing this job, even if it turns out to be the job of my dreams. I'm jumping three steps ahead, terrified that it will turn out like my last job...what if the people turn out to be horrible, what if they screw with my head so bad that I will become cognitively impaired...what if, what if, what if.
I have done this kind of work before (financial analysis) and had great job performance. I did this kind of work at my last job and it was a nightmare. How can I focus on the positive -- my good skills, my personality, my MBA -- and not doom a potentially very good situation by thinking it will just turn out to be my last job? Help. I'm scared.
Posted by DaisyM on May 26, 2004, at 1:31:37
In reply to Job interview tomorrow...scared/nervous, posted by babbgal on May 25, 2004, at 19:54:58
I think you answered your own question..."I am jumping ahead."
Tell yourself to take it one step at a time. That this job IS different, with a new group of people and a new environment. It is unusual for people to be hostile "just because."
And, if this *isn't* what you hope it to be, you aren't a slave. You quit. You have confidence in your ability to land a job. So you aren't stuck forever in a job that someone "gave" you. You earned your credentials: MBA, experience, attitude, etc. Noone can take that away from you.
So go in there and KNOCK 'EM DEAD!I'd love to hear how it goes. I'll be rooting for you!
Daisy
Posted by gardenergirl on May 26, 2004, at 8:20:24
In reply to Job interview tomorrow...scared/nervous, posted by babbgal on May 25, 2004, at 19:54:58
Good luck to you. Job interviewing and the prospect of starting somewhere new, particularly after time off, not to mention your last experience--of course you are anxious! But look how well you handled that awful situation last time. You can do this. One step at a time. Trust your gut. If it's not right, there will be other opportunities.
Take care,
gg
Posted by babbgal on May 26, 2004, at 18:55:20
In reply to Re: Job interview tomorrow...scared/nervous » babbgal, posted by gardenergirl on May 26, 2004, at 8:20:24
well, I survived the interview with the HR person. There was a last-minute change, and the interview was at the company's offices, NOT at my recruiter's office, like originally planned. Nice office, casual atmosphere. The HR person told me as I left that they want to bring me back to talk with the CFO. I am cautiously optimistic since the job tasks sound very similar to a job I held a couple of years ago...a job I really liked and was successful at.
I'm just trying to breathe and take things one step at a time. thank you SO MUCH for your kind words.
Posted by Speaker on May 26, 2004, at 22:27:52
In reply to had the interview..., posted by babbgal on May 26, 2004, at 18:55:20
Posted by Possibility on May 29, 2004, at 10:07:59
In reply to Job interview tomorrow...scared/nervous, posted by babbgal on May 25, 2004, at 19:54:58
Wow. I really relate to your message Babbgal. My situation is a little different. Im a recent grad from university, and am currently doing a few interviews with potential employers. I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety/panic, and this has really gotten in the way of my performance during co-op/interships that I have had during my university years. I know that I have skills but for me, but I feel too scared to do anything. Too scared to move forward with my career to the point that I want to cancel excellent interview opportunities. Plus, my field is working with children/families... a job that forces you to constantly be positive. I feel shunned by my field because I am not always feeling so happy. Far from it. Im very intimidated by everything. Any strategies that have worked with you to deal with this overwhelming fear?
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