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Posted by Fallen4MyT on May 1, 2004, at 20:38:58
Are you OK?? You seem very quiet and that has me concerned Please let us know how you are..I miss you
HUGE HUGS
Posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 11:16:52
In reply to ((( CRUSHED ))), posted by Fallen4MyT on May 1, 2004, at 20:38:58
you are so sweet, fallen. my computer got a terrible virus and it was down for about 36 hours. I was miserable without it. you have no idea how lost i felt without my computer! it's like my lifeline. and i missed you guys.it's so nice to be missed also. and cared for. thank you.
Posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 11:21:40
In reply to ((( CRUSHED ))), posted by Fallen4MyT on May 1, 2004, at 20:38:58
I've been feeling extremely depressed, lost, lonely and out of sorts and I can't quite figure out why. Oh, I think I'm anxious also. I know I am.It's been rough.
Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2004, at 11:52:57
In reply to how i am, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 11:21:40
Posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 11:56:53
In reply to (((((Crushed))))) (nm), posted by Dinah on May 2, 2004, at 11:52:57
Posted by karen_kay on May 2, 2004, at 13:33:10
In reply to how i am, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 11:21:40
crushed,
take care of yourself dear. it's tough, but things will get better.
((((crushed))))
sending you warm wishes,
kk
Posted by Ilene on May 2, 2004, at 19:55:32
In reply to how i am, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 11:21:40
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> I've been feeling extremely depressed, lost, lonely and out of sorts and I can't quite figure out why. Oh, I think I'm anxious also. I know I am.
>
> It's been rough.I'm sorry you feel that way. I hate that feeling. Especially when there seems to be no reason for it. People often say, "It will get better" and I used to have a hard time believing it, because things had been awful for so long (years). But it *did* get better. Not 100% better, but maybe 25-50% better. The trend seems to be up, too.
So--here's hoping it gets better.
I.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on May 2, 2004, at 20:08:16
In reply to ((( CRUSHED ))), posted by Fallen4MyT on May 1, 2004, at 20:38:58
Thanks on saying I am sweet...hubby may not agree lol....I am thinking maybe you may want to calll your T
Posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 20:12:53
In reply to Re: ((( CRUSHED ))) » Fallen4MyT, posted by Fallen4MyT on May 2, 2004, at 20:08:16
> Thanks on saying I am sweet...hubby may not agree lol....I am thinking maybe you may want to calll your T
I'd like to but I wouldn't know what to say, so it would just end up making me feel bad. And it's too late, I already cut tonight. Although I'm feeling much better than yesterday, when I didn't cut. I think when I feel really, really awful, I don't even see the point in cutting. Today I only felt a little awful so it made sense.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on May 2, 2004, at 21:14:32
In reply to Re: ((( CRUSHED ))) ****likely trigger, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 20:12:53
It's really not to late to call and tell her you were concerned on the time to call as well as if you should call...after....she may see it's valid to call and you will find out IF she has too late to call rules so to speak...you said...you would like to call so do :) I can call my T even at 4 A.M I bet you can too...and too late cause you already cut.its still good to call....When do you see her next????????
HUGE HUGS AND USE THE 3 STEPS DEAL...I CARE <3 <--- thats a pitiful heart :)
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> I'd like to but I wouldn't know what to say, so it would just end up making me feel bad. And it's too late, I already cut tonight. Although I'm feeling much better than yesterday, when I didn't cut. I think when I feel really, really awful, I don't even see the point in cutting. Today I only felt a little awful so it made sense.
Posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 21:44:42
In reply to Re: ((( CRUSHED ))) ****likely trigger » crushedout, posted by Fallen4MyT on May 2, 2004, at 21:14:32
you're sweet fallen, no matter what your hubby says.maybe you forgot: my T got mad at me once for calling her on the weekend. i think i see her on tuesday next. she said she'd call me if something opened up tomorrow but since i haven't heard from her, i assume i'm outta luck.
i dunno what i would say if i call her, what i'd be looking for. you know what i mean?
Posted by Fallen4MyT on May 2, 2004, at 22:00:03
In reply to Re: ((( CRUSHED ))) ****likely trigger » Fallen4MyT, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 21:44:42
Aw Thanks :) my pets would agree..Now on your T maybe she was in a bad mood that time? I mean recently she did say..try three things then call me before...sooooo she didnt say..except on weekends...so I would always call when you even think you want too..well not if its hourly but :P
Does she ask you why and what you want outta that call? I would just say..I dunno I just hurt and feel bad....she may stun you with some ideas, thoughts kind words...etc...I know all T's work different but when I called my T once cause I hit an animal with my car..by accident..he didnt ask me what I wanted out of the call nor did I ask myself..sc*&w that I just NEEDED some comfort that I wasnt crap on the shoe of life ya know?
May I also suggest that you reask her when you see her Tuesday that you ask AGAIN if weekends are still off limits and state why I bet she will say..I WISH YOU HAD CALLED..LATE OR NOT
HUGS AND DONT BE SCARED TO CALL...
> you're sweet fallen, no matter what your hubby says.
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> maybe you forgot: my T got mad at me once for calling her on the weekend. i think i see her on tuesday next. she said she'd call me if something opened up tomorrow but since i haven't heard from her, i assume i'm outta luck.
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> i dunno what i would say if i call her, what i'd be looking for. you know what i mean?
Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2004, at 22:01:12
In reply to Re: ((( CRUSHED ))) ****likely trigger » Fallen4MyT, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2004, at 21:44:42
You might want to talk to her about her expectations about calls on Tuesday. My therapist *wants* me to call before I SI, although admittedly if I call he pretty much expects me *not* to do it. If I call and still do it, he gets irritable. And honestly, he's really not very good over the phone so the only reason I call him is to remind myself of my promise to him. He hasn't forbidden me to call him after I SI, but he's generally not happy about it. I guess it makes him feel helpless. In DBT, the rule is that you *can't* call after you SI, only before. I'm guessing a fair number of therapists go by that rule.
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