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Posted by Speaker on January 26, 2004, at 23:13:43
I have been with this T about 3 months now and it is in a clinic setting. Last week I asked my T if I could see my chart ( I know legally they have to show it) and of course he wanted to know why. I told him there are so many people in the office that can read it that I should be able to read it myself. He suggested I didn't trust that what he says about me is what he has written about me...could be some truth there. Then I asked him what the big deal is that he didn't want to show it to me and he said he was uncomfortable with me seeing it. I laughed inside...I'm uncomfortable every week I go in there so I don't feel to bad about him being uncomfortable. I know I'm a bit parinoid about others knowing my business but thats my option. Today I asked if he brought my chart to his office...NO, but he said he would go get it. I told him I would wait until my next appt. I didn't say this but I pay 2.20 a minute so I didn't want to pay for him to walk to the front office and back...I know I'm BAD. I have a medical background and I know people often read charts...he acts like nobody would read my chart...get a clue he is a man and the office is full of women! Am I being to hard on him???
Posted by Poet on January 27, 2004, at 11:10:18
In reply to Made my T uncomfortable!, posted by Speaker on January 26, 2004, at 23:13:43
Hi Speaker,
If patients/clients aren't allowed to keep secrets, neither should therapists.
What is in there? Is he afraid you'll get mad: "I am not _____, you jerk, pay attention when I talk!"
Mine works independently so she doesn't really keep records other than billing. Then again maybe she has secret notes...
Poet
Posted by judy1 on January 27, 2004, at 11:38:31
In reply to Made my T uncomfortable!, posted by Speaker on January 26, 2004, at 23:13:43
I think all therps feel this way, they're afraid that you will be harmed if you read what they have written. (and as someone who has seen my chart- with another therp helping- I have to agree). I think the bigger issue is your lack of trust towards him, is that something that can be addressed rather thean looking at your chart?
take care, judy
Posted by Speaker on January 27, 2004, at 16:34:02
In reply to Re: Made my T uncomfortable! » Speaker, posted by Poet on January 27, 2004, at 11:10:18
Poet,
Your T has to keep a chart on you legally. They usually do it after you leave...mine never takes notes when I'm there either. It just bugs me that others can read about me and I don't know what they are reading.
Posted by Speaker on January 27, 2004, at 16:38:15
In reply to Re: Made my T uncomfortable! » Speaker, posted by judy1 on January 27, 2004, at 11:38:31
Judy,
Thanks for the thought. Yes, I do have trust issues and we have talked about those. I had to change to the new T after several years with my old T and the circumstances made a real lack of trust of the whole system. In fact I tend to trust the T but I want to see what he writes. I know how they chart and have read all the notes from my old T. I know it is very impersonal...I appreciate that! I guess we will see what he does on Fri.
Posted by EmmyS on January 27, 2004, at 19:13:35
In reply to Re: Made my T uncomfortable! » judy1, posted by Speaker on January 27, 2004, at 16:38:15
When notes are written for the file, they are supposed to be very professional, impersonal, and lacking in emotional content. They do not reflect the T's feelings about the client. From a patient's perspective they would sound heartless and cold. Some office's may not even use your name, and simply refer to you as "the patient". If you decide to go through with this, prepare yourself for that. If you are doing this just for control and curiousity - maybe you could think about those as symptoms that need addressing, instead of needing satisfaction...? I'm just not sure it's healthy for you or good for your relationship building with your T.
Emmy
Posted by Speaker on January 27, 2004, at 19:20:02
In reply to Re: Made my T uncomfortable!, posted by EmmyS on January 27, 2004, at 19:13:35
You have a pt. that I never thought of! I don't look at it as a control issue or even curiosity but a right to know what others in the office see about me. However, I never thought of it as udermining my T who I do respect and would like to build a good relationship. I think I will ask him before I look at the file if it would have an affect on our relationship. Thanks for the insight! I do look at the T as the control person and that does bother me. I feel like they hold the power but I know that is an issue from my past :). Its no fun!
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