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Posted by Penny on January 15, 2004, at 19:21:18
She really takes such good care of me, and I trust her so much and feel like she really really really understands me! It's so nice.
I loved my former T, a great deal. I was so attached, I think for a while it bordered on obsession. On Feb. 8 it will be a year since I've seen her - hard to believe.
But as much as I thought of her - as attached as I was - I realize now that my current therapist 'gets me' better than my former T did. And I was worried that I wouldn't be able to bond with my 'new' T. That I wouldn't find someone as good. Who knew?
Just had to say that...
:-) P
Posted by DaisyM on January 15, 2004, at 19:53:53
In reply to I just love my therapist..., posted by Penny on January 15, 2004, at 19:21:18
I'm so glad for you.
I like mine a lot too. He REMEMBERED that today was birthday, he was appropriately sympathetic that my husband forgot and he gave me homework: take myself out to dinner with my kids since hubby has to work late. Sweet, huh?
And, he has a new little side table in his office for tissues, "tools of his trade" he told me. Mine too, I said, but for a different reason (snotty noses). He laughed...I love that he jokes.
Posted by Karen_kay on January 15, 2004, at 20:18:20
In reply to Re: I just love my therapist... » Penny, posted by DaisyM on January 15, 2004, at 19:53:53
I'm so happy for you! It's great that you really feel such a connection to your therapist, but not an obsession. It's nice when you feel that they understand what you are saying and where you are coming from.
It almost makes you wonder what these people are really like though, doesn't it? I mean I prefer to think my therapist is *Just like me* outside of the office, but I'm sure he isn't anything like me in "real life." He probably wears Bermuda shorts and sits in an inflatible pool smoking a cigar drinking Pabst during the summer. Well, maybe he is just like me.
Posted by Penny on January 15, 2004, at 20:51:52
In reply to Re: I just love my therapist..., posted by Karen_kay on January 15, 2004, at 20:18:20
Ya' know, though, I think I have a good sense of who my T is. My former T - she was more of a blank slate - kept her personal life pretty private. My current T - she's divorced with a grown daughter, 2 cats and goldfish in her pond outside. She's a birdwatcher, and she drives a volvo wagon and she dresses casually and she shops at Walmart. She's an animal lover, like me, and she enjoys reading, like I do - and she loves Harry Potter! She took a trip to Scotland last year, which is at the top of my list of places I want to go, and we both graduated from the same university (she got her B.S., M.S. and Ph.D. there). She's struggled with weight issues like I have (though I'm heavier than she is), and I suspect she's dealt with body image issues, though I've never officially asked her. OH - and she seems very comfortable with herself now at any rate - she even told me about a website that sells 'adult toys' that is run by women and tastefully done. I found it a bit amusing that she knew about that site - which, of course, means she's probably been on the site at some point, but that's as far as I'm going with that!!! lol.
Anyway, I have a pretty good idea of what she's like outside of the office. I don't hear about her personal life per se, but she tells me things about herself and sometimes we just end up sitting there talking - and she really understands me. It's truly amazing. I do feel quite fortunate.
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Posted by Dinah on January 15, 2004, at 20:59:53
In reply to Re: I just love my therapist... » Karen_kay, posted by Penny on January 15, 2004, at 20:51:52
Would that be www.blowfish.com?
I'm really happy you landed with someone you like at least as much. I can't imagine not seeing my therapist. :( I know stories like yours *should* be inspirational for me....
But I'm really happy for you! :)
Posted by Penny on January 15, 2004, at 21:28:01
In reply to Re: I just love my therapist... » Penny, posted by Dinah on January 15, 2004, at 20:59:53
> Would that be www.blowfish.com?
Actually, it's www.babeland.com (toys in babeland. hee hee...)
Posted by tabitha on January 16, 2004, at 5:12:53
In reply to I just love my therapist..., posted by Penny on January 15, 2004, at 19:21:18
That's really encouraging Penny.. to hear somebody go from a not-so-good relationship to one that's nurturing and good. I'm so glad it worked out for you.
Posted by Penny on January 16, 2004, at 8:39:02
In reply to Re: I just love my therapist... » Penny, posted by tabitha on January 16, 2004, at 5:12:53
Oh - my relationship with my former T was 'good' - but just not as good as the one I have with my current T. Or perhaps just different. It's hard to say.
I do think, in many ways, that my former T was the perfect mom (in my mind) to my 'little girl' self, hence avoiding the sex topics, etc., plus she had (has) a little girl and was pregnant and a new mom during part of my time with her. So very much the ideal 'young mother', though she was in her early 40s.
My current T is the ideal mom for my adult self. She has an adult daughter, is older than my former T (50s), and I can talk to her about things that I couldn't bear to bring up with my former T.
I think, perhaps, that it all just fell in line the right way. I still deal with a lot of childhood issues in therapy, but I also feel more secure than I used to. My current T is actually more accessible to me than the former was, but perhaps having a little more rigidity in the early part of my therapy was better. And she wasn't overly rigid, she just wasn't as open.
Hmmm...
Did I ever post about why I chose my current T when I was interviewing? She did a free 30 min. consultation, and I had met with one other T at the time and had one more to go. And at the end of the consult I told her that I had someone else I was meeting with and I would let her know. And she said, "Please do, because I want to be sure you're in someone's good hands if not in mine." That was the clincher. I think I knew before I left the room, even though I had liked the first T I met with. I didn't like the third at all, so my decision was made. Sometimes it's the small things...
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Posted by mair on January 16, 2004, at 13:34:33
In reply to Re: I just love my therapist... » tabitha, posted by Penny on January 16, 2004, at 8:39:02
Penny - the thing that's particularly cool about this is that I remember how miserable you sounded when you were trying to endure your last T's leave. It's wonderful to see that things really have turned out for the best.
Posted by Penny on January 16, 2004, at 15:26:30
In reply to Re: I just love my therapist... » Penny, posted by mair on January 16, 2004, at 13:34:33
Of course, it was my former T's maternity leave that led me to find Babble! So I guess things sometimes happen for a good reason...
I suppose I am a stronger person now. Though I don't always feel like it. I'm just glad my current T won't be taking maternity leave! ha!
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