Posted by Penny on January 16, 2004, at 8:39:02
In reply to Re: I just love my therapist... » Penny, posted by tabitha on January 16, 2004, at 5:12:53
Oh - my relationship with my former T was 'good' - but just not as good as the one I have with my current T. Or perhaps just different. It's hard to say.
I do think, in many ways, that my former T was the perfect mom (in my mind) to my 'little girl' self, hence avoiding the sex topics, etc., plus she had (has) a little girl and was pregnant and a new mom during part of my time with her. So very much the ideal 'young mother', though she was in her early 40s.
My current T is the ideal mom for my adult self. She has an adult daughter, is older than my former T (50s), and I can talk to her about things that I couldn't bear to bring up with my former T.
I think, perhaps, that it all just fell in line the right way. I still deal with a lot of childhood issues in therapy, but I also feel more secure than I used to. My current T is actually more accessible to me than the former was, but perhaps having a little more rigidity in the early part of my therapy was better. And she wasn't overly rigid, she just wasn't as open.
Hmmm...
Did I ever post about why I chose my current T when I was interviewing? She did a free 30 min. consultation, and I had met with one other T at the time and had one more to go. And at the end of the consult I told her that I had someone else I was meeting with and I would let her know. And she said, "Please do, because I want to be sure you're in someone's good hands if not in mine." That was the clincher. I think I knew before I left the room, even though I had liked the first T I met with. I didn't like the third at all, so my decision was made. Sometimes it's the small things...
P
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