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Posted by Hollygirl on April 12, 2003, at 20:36:16
Ok, here is my dilemma with my pdoc. I casually mentioned to him one time how his office isn’t very “welcoming” and that he might want to consider investing in a good interior decorator. Sure, it wasn’t the most polite thing to say, but his bare office was really getting on my nerves. So, he then proceeds to go into this lengthy diatribe about how he hates the office because the landlords screwed him over and so he has never really moved in because he is waiting for the chance to move to a different building. I accepted his explanation and moved on. But now every time I go visit him he starts complaining about his office! Hello, I think I am paying to talk about me! Moral of the story? Never insult your pdoc’s office…
Posted by noa on April 12, 2003, at 21:44:25
In reply to accidental insult, posted by Hollygirl on April 12, 2003, at 20:36:16
He gave you way too much information!!
You're right. He shouldn't be talking about his issues.
Yikes!
Posted by Miller on April 12, 2003, at 22:13:12
In reply to accidental insult, posted by Hollygirl on April 12, 2003, at 20:36:16
Try and use his dissatisfaction with his office and relate it to you. Such as when he says his landlord frustrates him because he is being ignored, reply "That's exactly how I feel about my mom, boyfriend, boss, and PDOC!!"
-Miller
Posted by Hollygirl on April 12, 2003, at 23:09:57
In reply to Re: accidental insult » Hollygirl, posted by Miller on April 12, 2003, at 22:13:12
> "That's exactly how I feel about my mom, boyfriend, boss, and PDOC!!"That's a v.g. idea! I have been trying to be all understanding and I say things like "oh, that must be rough" and "it is a shame you had to lose $5,000 on a down payment" when really I just want to say "I don't give a rat's ass about you, I am the crazy one here!" But your suggestion is much nicer...
Posted by Miller on April 12, 2003, at 23:49:02
In reply to Re: accidental insult » Miller, posted by Hollygirl on April 12, 2003, at 23:09:57
I'm glad I could help. Good luck. When do you see him/her again?
-Miller
Posted by jane d on April 13, 2003, at 0:07:18
In reply to accidental insult, posted by Hollygirl on April 12, 2003, at 20:36:16
Throw up your hands and say "OK! I surrender! I'm very very sorry I insulted your office and I promise I won't do it again." ?
Posted by noa on April 13, 2003, at 11:47:18
In reply to Re: A psychs office is his ...... » Hollygirl, posted by jane d on April 13, 2003, at 0:07:18
Is this your therapist or your psychopharmacologist?
Posted by WorryGirl on April 13, 2003, at 16:00:47
In reply to accidental insult, posted by Hollygirl on April 12, 2003, at 20:36:16
Hi Hollygirl,
I know how you feel. The therapist I saw last year always managed to start talking to me about his family, etc., which I didn't mind for about 5 minutes or so, but when you're paying a lot of money to talk about YOUR problems it's frustrating.
I quickly learned not to even mention any parenting issues because if I did, almost the rest of the session was spent with him relaying stories about his kids and how he handled stuff, much of which didn't really end up helping me with my problem anyway.No one wants to pay money to be someone else's venting board!
I tried to gently butt in (is that possible?) and get him to change the subject. Usually he would just look at me like I was crazy (lol) and kept on talking about his personal stuff but occasionally it worked.
Posted by noa on April 13, 2003, at 16:48:57
In reply to Re: accidental insult » Hollygirl, posted by WorryGirl on April 13, 2003, at 16:00:47
It sounds so incredibly unprofessional! You're right, you are paying them to treat you--not to gab about their families.
Posted by Hollygirl on April 13, 2003, at 21:05:20
In reply to Re: accidental insult » Hollygirl, posted by Miller on April 12, 2003, at 23:49:02
> I'm glad I could help. Good luck. When do you see him/her again?
>
> -Miller
>I see him this Thursday. I am going to try out your tactic then :)
Posted by Hollygirl on April 13, 2003, at 21:07:32
In reply to Re: A psychs office is his ...... » Hollygirl, posted by jane d on April 13, 2003, at 0:07:18
> Throw up your hands and say "OK! I surrender! I'm very very sorry I insulted your office and I promise I won't do it again." ?
>
lol :) The funny thing is that I did tell him "I am sorry for insulting your office, that was rude of me." but he just kept saying, "no, it's ok, you are right" and then he proceeds to discuss his office for the next 15 minutes of our 45 minute session! Crazy guy...
Posted by Hollygirl on April 13, 2003, at 21:08:54
In reply to Re: A psychs office is his ......, posted by noa on April 13, 2003, at 11:47:18
> Is this your therapist or your psychopharmacologist?
It is my psychologist. I probably wouldn't have put up with him as much as I have but, quite frankly, he is rather cute
Posted by Hollygirl on April 13, 2003, at 21:12:58
In reply to Re: accidental insult » Hollygirl, posted by WorryGirl on April 13, 2003, at 16:00:47
I am glad you can relate to what I am going through :) Maybe at the end of our sessions I should tell him, "Sweetie, I have an extra 15 minutes if you would like to discuss your problems...mmhmm and how did that make you feel?...how so?...what do you mean by that?" Don't you just love when doc's ask those kind of questions?
Posted by Miller on April 13, 2003, at 21:19:15
In reply to Re: accidental insult » Miller, posted by Hollygirl on April 13, 2003, at 21:05:20
Let us know how it goes. It will be interesting if he picks up on his callousness. Good luck. :)
-Miller
Posted by Phil on April 14, 2003, at 19:51:30
In reply to Re: A psychs office is his ...... » noa, posted by Hollygirl on April 13, 2003, at 21:08:54
That seems like 2 reasons to leave this guy, if not more. He's totally unprofessional and lazy.
Plus, if you're getting a touch of transference with him, do yourself a favor and leave.
This sounds like more trouble than meets the eye.
He has an office that patients are uncomfortable in and I bet he chats with them about his office too. Ask him.
Plus, he must make his office a safe warm place for his patients!
Therapy is expensive so it's good to work with the best psych's as possible.My 2 Pesos,
Phil
Posted by Hollygirl on April 17, 2003, at 22:32:27
In reply to accidental insult, posted by Hollygirl on April 12, 2003, at 20:36:16
Thanks to all of you who responded. I am somewhat new to the board, but have really enjoyed reading your posts and getting to know y'all. Ok, here is the update on my follow up visit to the crazy doc's office. We managed to go a whole session without discussing his "office issues" but when the time was up he asked, "any questions, concerns, complaints about my office?" So once again I apologized for my unseemly remark and even offered to give him decorating tips. He informed me he found a new office and will be moving shortly. I asked if he was going to move without inviting me along? He said no, he enjoyed my visits...i told him he just needed me to pay for the new office. awww, the strange complexities of the relationships between psychologists and their patients. It is weird to think that I have told him things I have never told anyone else...
Posted by noa on May 21, 2003, at 17:53:28
In reply to Update on accidental insult, posted by Hollygirl on April 17, 2003, at 22:32:27
So, how is the new office?
Actually, I was reveiwing old posts, catching up, etc. and this thread reminded me of the ad for The Great Indoors (Sears owned decorating superstore). Have you seen it? Woman in shrink's office, sitting on black leather sofa, distractedly describing a dream, as she fidgets on the sofa. Shrink says, "this dream seems to make you uncomfortable." Patient: "No, it's not that, it's just that I can't help thinking that this sofa would look so much better over there by the window."
Cracks me up, as do the other ads in the series.
Posted by shar on May 27, 2003, at 1:13:17
In reply to Re: Update on accidental insult, posted by noa on May 21, 2003, at 17:53:28
lol! haven't seen those, they sound great!
Shar
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