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Posted by Chicklet on October 7, 2003, at 6:24:28
In reply to Re: Brevity is the soul of wit. ;) (nm) » gabbix2, posted by Sabina on October 7, 2003, at 3:58:11
Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 7:36:27
In reply to Re: P.S. Dinah, posted by gabbix2 on October 7, 2003, at 1:30:56
Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 7:37:50
In reply to Re: Chuckle » Dinah, posted by Tabitha on October 6, 2003, at 23:57:17
Posted by Chicklet on October 7, 2003, at 7:42:58
In reply to Re: Same thing :) (nm) » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 7:37:50
Have a good day, Dinah
*
Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 11:48:16
In reply to Re: starting over under a new name, posted by Dr. Bob on October 6, 2003, at 16:12:34
Have changing names, without good reason and without notice on admin be against the rules. Ask anyone who you discover to have switched names to contact you by email. Find out if it is a safety issue, and if not, have the rules be that you will at least disclose that the fact that they are a new identity will be disclosed on Admin.
Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 12:46:55
In reply to Re: Another proposal » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 11:48:16
Further clarification. We already have a rule discouraging a poster from posting under two names at once. If it happens, you post "please choose a name and stick with it". The new rule could be discouraging changing identities, with exceptions being allowable with administrative approval (that puts you on the hook too Dr. Bob). So if you discover that someone has changed names (and I know that you won't always know, but if you find out) you could post a generic "please email me about a problem with your registration". At that point, if administrative approval is not forthcoming, you could post a "Please inform others when changing posting names." You wouldn't actually have to rat anyone out, any more than you currently tell us the identity of people who are posting while blocked. We have to figure it out the old fashioned way, but dividing the block by two, and seeing who was currently blocked for that period.
I know it's a bit more trouble for you, but I bet it would make for a more welcoming place for genuine newcomers, and would leave the rest of us feeling less betrayed by you.
And it would be interesting to see what you would consider to be exceptions. Personal safety is clear. But what about "I said and did such hurtful things before that if anyone knew who I was, no one would talk to me."
Posted by Susan J on October 7, 2003, at 12:52:34
In reply to Hi Bob- can we chat?, posted by Chicklet on October 6, 2003, at 13:19:32
>>Does accepting count as sanctioning?
<<Yeah, I think so. Implicit sanctioning. But I was going to suggest the same thing Dinah did. If someone changes their name here on the board, could you require full disclosure of the name change?
From what to what.... how about setting up yet *another* board for the disclosures so people could check them easily? :-)
Posted by Tabitha on October 7, 2003, at 14:02:58
In reply to Re: Another proposal » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 11:48:16
it's nice when people disclose the change. Why not make it a requirement? It can't be good for the community to allow people to hide their past.
Posted by Sabina on October 7, 2003, at 14:04:57
In reply to Re: I second Dinah's suggestion, posted by Tabitha on October 7, 2003, at 14:02:58
Posted by galkeepinon on October 7, 2003, at 14:25:24
In reply to Re: Another proposal, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 12:46:55
Posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 15:10:33
In reply to Re: starting over under a new name, posted by Dr. Bob on October 6, 2003, at 16:12:34
too angry to comment now
......
...
...
what do we call someone who allows the wolf to put on the sheep's clothing the better to frolic in the flock?
... and what if that someone was the shepherd?
... i ... ...
(... being civil ...) !!!!
Posted by Chicklet on October 7, 2003, at 15:24:28
In reply to re: starting over under a new name » Dr. Bob, posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 15:10:33
Is that your new posting name, Jim?
:D>> ... and what if that someone was the shepherd?
metaphorical genius.
Scary though, huh?
I'm mad too.This is kinda like a G. Dubya situation. The administration used to be a little ittle bit funny because of the silliness and all- (you know, with the naughty swear words like ass and shit) but now, none of it is funny anymore. It's ludicrous. I can't laugh about GW's actions anymore either.
Posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 15:53:18
In reply to To: Too angry 2 comment » lil' jimi, posted by Chicklet on October 7, 2003, at 15:24:28
oh, babe !
... you're calling the gendarmes down on yourself again ... please don't ... for me?my new posting name would have to be
... "Late For Supper" ...
... if only because i always tell folks to call anything they please, just don't call me late for supper ...
... but i have to keep my "lil' jimi" for a while longer . ..
~ jim
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 7, 2003, at 16:41:43
In reply to To: Too angry 2 comment » lil' jimi, posted by Chicklet on October 7, 2003, at 15:24:28
> (you know, with the naughty swear words like *ss and sh*t)
Please don't use language that could offend others. The last time you were blocked, it was for 2 weeks, so this time, it's for 4.
Bob
Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 17:17:16
In reply to Re: blocked for 4 weeks » Chicklet, posted by Dr. Bob on October 7, 2003, at 16:41:43
Posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 17:42:03
In reply to Is that your only comment? (nm) » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 17:17:16
... to threads they've contributed to
Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 17:44:44
In reply to do banned posters get notified by e-mail of posts? » Dinah, posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 17:42:03
I really have no idea of the inner workings of Babble. I would guess that all that is affected is their posting ability. I'm not sure how many people utilize that feature. But I am well aware that most blocked posters continue to read the board. :) So if you have something to say, I'm sure the message will be received.
Posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 18:29:40
In reply to Re: Hi Bob- can we chat? P.S., posted by Dinah on October 6, 2003, at 14:37:04
Example, Mechschample ....
> Dr. Bob. Just an example.
>
> Poster Fred just arrived on the board. Unknown to me, Poster Fred is really Poster George. My previous relationship with Poster George has been less than stellar. (Just using these names from Harry Potter, so any resemblence to real posters is purely coincidental). Poster Fred receives my welcome and subsequent replies with silence or icy coldness. If I didn't know it was really George, I'd feel pretty hurt and upset and confused about what I had done wrong.
>
> I know this is going to happen on the internet. But it's different when it has your official sanction. Don't ask me how, but it just is. >thank you very much Dinah ... ... you are being much more articulate than i am capable of right now ...
... but your hypotheticals
... are my current living and breathing reality... and as you and Dr. B know all too well
... i _was_ _directly_ affected... am being directly affected
... exactly as you hypothesized
... now
... help... comment on this "example", please, Dr. B ?
~ jim
Posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 21:31:37
In reply to Re: do banned posters get notified by e-mail of posts? » lil' jimi, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 17:44:44
thanks again Dinah ...
... i'm feeling really hopeless
... betrayed
... i've been pretty civil, haven't i ?... how can this be civil ... for me ?
... for anyone
... i'm calling in for more lexapro
... <big sigh>take care,
~ jim
Posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 21:34:13
In reply to re: wolves in sheep's clothing dressed by shepherd » Dinah, posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 21:31:37
i'm not angry anymore ...
just very sad
Posted by fallsfall on October 7, 2003, at 22:01:44
In reply to re: wolves in sheep's clothing dressed by shepherd, posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 21:34:13
Jimi,
Please remember, we have an important job here. Say it with me. One, Two, Three: "Kara, Don't call him!"
Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 22:47:56
In reply to re: wolves in sheep's clothing dressed by shepherd, posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 21:34:13
aaaahhhh, Jim. I am so sorry. Sigh. I know that I was among the least affected.... But I hurt for you, and for the others.
Maybe that's a good step, to move from angry to sad. It's got to hurt to carry around the anger. Or maybe it hurts worse to admit to the sad underneath.
I hate to give Dr. Bob more credit than he deserves, but maybe he was waiting for our anger to give way to sadness before he responded.
If so, I think we should whip our anger back up into a frenzy and blister him with a few carefully chosen words. But that's just me. I hate being "handled"....
Posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 23:31:51
In reply to re: wolves in sheep's clothing dressed by shepherd » lil' jimi, posted by fallsfall on October 7, 2003, at 22:01:44
redirecting ourselves to the task(s) at hand and away from my petty annoyances and belly aching ....
... ... see you at psocial
... ... and, oh yeah ...kara kara kara !
oh, no no no ... don't you dare!thanks,
~ jim
Posted by kara lynne on October 8, 2003, at 0:15:42
In reply to okay » fallsfall, posted by lil' jimi on October 7, 2003, at 23:31:51
...and don't you dare-a
go anywhere-aMuch love from your adoring kara
Posted by lil' jimi on October 8, 2003, at 0:23:47
In reply to re: wolves in sheep's clothing dressed by shepherd » lil' jimi, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2003, at 22:47:56
hi Dinah,
> aaaahhhh, Jim. I am so sorry. Sigh. I know that I was among the least affected.... But I hurt for you, and for the others.
>
> Maybe that's a good step, to move from angry to sad. It's got to hurt to carry around the anger. Or maybe it hurts worse to admit to the sad underneath.
>
> I hate to give Dr. Bob more credit than he deserves, but maybe he was waiting for our anger to give way to sadness before he responded.
>
> If so, I think we should whip our anger back up into a frenzy and blister him with a few carefully chosen words. But that's just me. I hate being "handled".... >... ... there is that certain kind of desolation from knowing it does not matter what i feel ... ... no matter how important it seems to me .. ... .. angry or sad ... ... except that i lose the ability to make sentences or conjugate verbs when i'm mad ... ... so sad's really better ... ... because at least i sound somewhat less (i Hate this word!) stupid ... (and i hate the word 'hate'!) ... and i get no thrill from venting when i'm hacked ... i can't have the presence to savor it ... ... and there's no sport in it ... it's like enjoying a day when it's all bright and sunny ... where's the challenge in that ? ... ... i find that when bringing grief, misery works better than rage ... ... and if we learn anything from other(s) it's that rage burns up too much compassion ...
... besides no one owes me no explanations about nothing ...
dean martin once said, "It's Sinatra's world. The rest of us are just living in it."
this is dr. b's world ... he's letting us live in it.
no one said it had to be easy.i wouldn't really mind if i was being handled that much ... i can appreciate people wanting to be delicate about things ... i try to be ... in my own way ... and i can use any exta time to cool off ... really, my anger is useless ... ... plus the meds for anger can't be any fun ... and i'm better prepared for the depression kind of dope ... ... speaking of which, seems about time to start titrating on up ... these 10 milligrams are getting overloaded ... ... or i'm getting underloaded .... HA!
too dang lazy to carry anything, let alone something as heavy as anger ... ... really tired too ... still, need to go to social and tell fallsfall how much i love her ...
i guess i do feel a _little_ homicidal ... not much ... and no one here anyway ... oh, i could _be_ angry, but i'd rather not, really ... ... too boring
but i could be wrong about any and all of this !
what do you think?
you or anyone else reading this ... ... of course~ jim
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