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Posted by mellymel_d on September 21, 2005, at 21:53:50
Should I be letting my husband just how depressed I'm feeling and how stressed out I am over all of these changes I'm going through??? I feel like it's not his fault I'm all screwed up so why should he have to deal with this...I just feel like I can't keep faking being alright, he see's something in my face but he just thinks I'm stressed over finances (which I am too)
I know I should be able to share this with him but I don't want to drag my family down with me. I wanna feel better so bad.
Posted by maddy4 on September 21, 2005, at 21:56:33
In reply to should I tell hubby???, posted by mellymel_d on September 21, 2005, at 21:53:50
yes - def. tell hubby - will make you feel better to vent and come out with it! it will make you more depressed to deal w. all of this alone - w/out DH
Posted by mellymel_d on September 21, 2005, at 22:16:56
In reply to Re: should I tell hubby???, posted by maddy4 on September 21, 2005, at 21:56:33
> yes - def. tell hubby - will make you feel better to vent and come out with it! it will make you more depressed to deal w. all of this alone - w/out DH
However, I feel like if I tell him then it's just another thing he has to stress over. And this isn't the first time I've gone through this. I feel like he might be like "geez, what is it this time? or what is it now?" I'm tired of complaining in the past but this is so hard to deal with right now. I'm so depressed and I was starting to get anxious again tonight so I just took a xanex too.
Now I'm off to google wellbutrin and nightime itching... This itchyness is a new thing for me. No rash, little bumps here and there but lots of itching.
Posted by UgottaHaveHOPE` on September 21, 2005, at 22:17:02
In reply to Re: should I tell hubby???, posted by maddy4 on September 21, 2005, at 21:56:33
its the right decision to let your husband know. however, i know in my situation, the most important person i had to tell still doesnt understand. its like speaking chinese.
do you have someone at church you can talk with? or a best friend? you definitely need an outlet to talk these things out with ... i hope u find someone.
Posted by platinumbride on September 22, 2005, at 8:49:01
In reply to should I tell hubby???, posted by mellymel_d on September 21, 2005, at 21:53:50
I go through the same thing you describe, but I always tell him in the end. I do this because inevitably he starts to wonder why I withdraw and then snap at him. I feel badly when he gets that worried look - like "what have I done?", so I tell him it's not his fault. Yeah, he worries, but at least he knows he is not the cause.
Hoping you feel better....
Diane
> Should I be letting my husband just how depressed I'm feeling and how stressed out I am over all of these changes I'm going through??? I feel like it's not his fault I'm all screwed up so why should he have to deal with this...I just feel like I can't keep faking being alright, he see's something in my face but he just thinks I'm stressed over finances (which I am too)
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> I know I should be able to share this with him but I don't want to drag my family down with me. I wanna feel better so bad.
Posted by Racer on September 22, 2005, at 10:51:46
In reply to should I tell hubby???, posted by mellymel_d on September 21, 2005, at 21:53:50
Yes.
My husband recently told me that the worst part of my depression for him has been that I haven't communicated to him how bad I was feeling. He said that that hurts him terribly.
While your husband may not be quite as wonderful as my Best Husband In The World -- since, really, who is? ;-0 -- I'd bet that he'd prefer to have some idea of what's going on with you. If nothing else, he's going to sense that something is wrong, and it's all too easy to respond to that by withdrawing himself, assuming it's about him. Telling him that you're very depressed, that it's hurting you a lot, that it's not his fault or responsibility, etc, will be reassuring to him, and thereby improve your marriage.
Hope that helps.
Posted by Phillipa on September 22, 2005, at 19:52:34
In reply to should I tell hubby???, posted by mellymel_d on September 21, 2005, at 21:53:50
As usual I agree with Racer. He probably would be relieved to know it's not him. Fondly, Phillipa
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