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Posted by Damos on February 21, 2005, at 15:47:45
A long overdue letter to a child I never met.
Dearest Katie,
I'm sorry it's taken me so long to write. I'm sorry for so many things the truth be known.
Sorry that I never cradled you in my arms; never got to count your fingers and toes.
Sorry that we were never a family, you and mum and me.
Sorry I never got to read you rhymes and tuck you in at night
Sorry that I'll never know the beautiful young woman you would have grown up to be.
Sorry that it was only last year that I held your mum and cried.
Forgive my tears precious girl, it's been 17 years but it just doesn't get any easier. But at least mum and I have finally cried our tears. I'm just sorry it took us so long. We've really made a mess of things but I hope you can understand. I hope you know that we both loved you with all our heart and soul. We wanted you more than either of us have ever wanted anything in our lives. But it wasn't enough.
We blamed each other and ourselves and the pain just proved too much and it ate us up inside. God, I miss you both so much. Especially today. It's been a while since I've seen her and we don't talk that much anymore, but there is so much love between us and that'll never change.
Please forgive me for failing to live a single day and go with God and love.
Dad
Posted by Susan47 on February 21, 2005, at 16:59:02
In reply to Dear Katie, posted by Damos on February 21, 2005, at 15:47:45
Ouch, oh ouch. I have two Katies. Two.
Posted by Damos on February 21, 2005, at 17:12:40
In reply to Re: Dear Katie*TRIGGER*, posted by Susan47 on February 21, 2005, at 16:59:02
I'm really sorry Susan47. Typical of me, I can be such an idiot at times. I just wasn't thinking. Not managing to do much at all actually other than just be sad.
Really hope I haven't upset you.
Sorry,
Damos
Posted by AdaGrace on February 21, 2005, at 17:57:26
In reply to Dear Katie, posted by Damos on February 21, 2005, at 15:47:45
What a beautiful letter, and heart-renching way to deal with your loss.
Thinking of you, Katie, and Mum,
AdaGrace
Posted by alexandra_k on February 21, 2005, at 19:03:49
In reply to Re: Dear Katie » Damos, posted by AdaGrace on February 21, 2005, at 17:57:26
Yeah. That was beautiful. I can't even begin to imagine how hard that must be.
(((Damos)))
(((Susan)))and of course
(((Adagrace)))
Posted by Susan47 on February 21, 2005, at 19:59:50
In reply to Re: Dear Katie*TRIGGER* » Susan47, posted by Damos on February 21, 2005, at 17:12:40
You don't need to apologize to me. These boards are for that sort of thing, so post whatever you need to. I would've read it with or without the trigger warning in any case, and I've triggered other people in the past, certainly. Probably do it all the time and don't know it. We all do I'll bet. Pain needs to be brought to the surface, to be dealt with, to be lived through.
Posted by alexandra_k on February 21, 2005, at 20:56:52
In reply to Re: Dear Katie*TRIGGER* » Damos, posted by Susan47 on February 21, 2005, at 19:59:50
Posted by Damos on February 22, 2005, at 15:54:08
In reply to Re: Yup, I agree. (nm) » Susan47, posted by alexandra_k on February 21, 2005, at 20:56:52
Was struggling to keep my head above water yesterday and just wanted to say a big thank-you to each of you for your kindness and support it means a lot.
So 'Thank-you' Susan47,AdaGrace and Alexandra_K.
Big wishes for happiness to each of you,
Damos (The blunder from down under)
Posted by Damos on February 23, 2005, at 20:03:57
In reply to Re: Dear Katie » Damos, posted by AdaGrace on February 21, 2005, at 17:57:26
Spoke to mum (Michelle) today. Still struggling but okay. Just hoping the tide is beginning to turn in her favour. At least now she's only an hours flight and 90 min drive away rather than 6+ hours in a plane (2 time zones) and a drive. Her son from her 1st marriage (B4 we met) has just moved down to Sydney and she's missing him heaps, they've only ever been apart when he was at his Dad's. He called too which was nice as we're really close in a son, brother, best mate kinda way.
So today is officially a good day.
Posted by AdaGrace on February 28, 2005, at 7:44:09
In reply to Re: Dear Katie » AdaGrace, posted by Damos on February 23, 2005, at 20:03:57
I'm happy things were better for you the other day. I wanted to ask though, if it's not too personal....is Michelle your wife? or are you all split up?
Thinking of you kindly,
AdaGrace
Posted by Damos on February 28, 2005, at 15:14:26
In reply to Re: Dear Katie » Damos, posted by AdaGrace on February 28, 2005, at 7:44:09
Hey AdaGrace,
Note to all. Nothing is too personal. Somethings might just be too hard for me to answer.
Brother, how do I explain this. Wait for it, Michelle and I have never even actually been on a date! No we never married ( I really wanted to though), but have tried to live under the same roof twice, but couldn't make it work. We're both complicated and didn't really just didn't know how so at the time.
We're both kinda at point where we look back and think "we really blew something good didn't we." Her son Jace actually came to see me yesterday (can't believe he's 26 now). Makes me feel very old :-) Sweet, sweet kid, just love him so.
I honestly can't explain how or why we got together, because I just don't know what she saw in me - cause I sure as h*ll didn't see anything. Can't explain why we're still friends it's like there's this bond that has survived everything we've put each other through.
Hope that goes some way to answering the question. Thanks for asking.
Thinking kindly of you too AdaGrace.
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