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Posted by TexasChic on August 10, 2007, at 18:25:23
In reply to Re: There is a place for coworkers who say this » texaschic, posted by Racer on August 10, 2007, at 13:44:25
Thanks everyone, yall are too sweet. The thing about it is, this chic seemed to actually be trying to compliment me by saying that with my looks, if I lost weight I'd REALLY be gorgeous - which was what made me feel bad. Which doesn't really make any sense now that I think about it. Oh well, I'm over it now.
I was talking to my friend at work today (the one I walk with at lunch) and she said, "The only reason you don't have a boyfriend is because you never leave the house!" It made me laugh because I had just said something like that in an earlier post. I was like, "I know, I know." But you can't just walk out the door and start stopping people in the street saying, "So ya want to hang out?" I mean, I know there's things I could do to interact with people, but its hard to just start from scratch. But I'll figure it out. I'm okay for now.
Thanks for the support everyone! And thanks Jay for always saying I'm hot! :-)
-T
Posted by Gabbi-2 on August 13, 2007, at 0:01:32
In reply to Re: Ooi! I'll have you know.... » Damos, posted by TexasChic on August 9, 2007, at 17:38:04
. You really know how say things. Thanks for making me feel better.
>
> -TOy! He does doesn't he.
Listen up Damos, I hope you use that talent for good and not for evil :P
The only other man I know of who could say things that beautiful, without sounding syrupy or phony, ripped my little heart right out.
He may not have *sounded* phony but...
Well, you know the rest.
Posted by Phillipa on August 13, 2007, at 19:29:18
In reply to Re: There is a place for coworkers who say this, posted by TexasChic on August 10, 2007, at 18:25:23
T too bad you and Jay are so far away since you want a relationship? Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on August 14, 2007, at 13:27:20
In reply to If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 13:57:03
Yikes - what a thing to say.
But the 'gorgeous' part is there, don't forget!!
Do you consider yourself VERY overweight? A few extra pounds, or even quite a few, don't make someone NOT gorgeous.
You must be pretty impressive, or she'd never have commented at all. Too bad she messed up!!
hugs, Kath
Posted by karen_kay on August 14, 2007, at 14:34:56
In reply to If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 13:57:03
except that girl's an idiot!
want for me to beat her up? then you can tell her, 'you'd look really pretty if you didn't have a black eye!' (except it'd still be a lie, because with a personality like that, she can't be too pretty, now can she? then again, i've said some pretty stupid things in my life too though...)
i'd tell you you're gorgeous doll, but everyone's already said it. (and you are gorgeous! listen to damos, he seems to know what he's talking aobut!) and i've seen pics as well, so i know you're gorgeous.
but, you're also pretty darn precious putting up with your family, your car, and your daily ins and outs. frankly, i think you're the whole sheBANG!
tc, i think sometimes people have downright dumb moments. this was one of hers. you don't need to lose weight (unless it's something you want to do). you're beautiful just the way you are. i'm sorry her stupid moment happened to be at your expense. the offer's still open for the black eye though. i'm willing to have my stupid moment, jsut for you dear :)
take care gorgeous,
kk
Posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 20:57:59
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » texaschic, posted by Kath on August 14, 2007, at 13:27:20
Thanks Kath. I'm actually a recovering super-insanely-low-self-esteem-oholic, so I'm not very good at accessing my own looks. But I gotten much better at avoiding the negative self talk as much as possible. I'm actually pretty embarrassed that I posted this so I could get all these assurances that I'm "pretty". I mean, how lame is that?
Thanks for supporting me no matter how superficial and silly I'm being. That goes for everyone!
-T
Posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 21:14:19
In reply to i don't even know what to say! » texaschic, posted by karen_kay on August 14, 2007, at 14:34:56
Thanks KK! You always manage to make me laugh! I'm afraid I'm too much of a pacifist to have you blacken her eye, but I VERY much appreciate the gesture! Love ya, you sexy thing you!
-T
Posted by Kath on August 15, 2007, at 14:52:18
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » Kath, posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 20:57:59
> Thanks Kath. I'm actually a recovering super-insanely-low-self-esteem-oholic, so I'm not very good at accessing my own looks. But I gotten much better at avoiding the negative self talk as much as possible. I'm actually pretty embarrassed that I posted this so I could get all these assurances that I'm "pretty". I mean, how lame is that?
>>>>>>Oh you stop it!!!!! It's not lame at all!
We reach out for help when we need it & how do you think I feel always blathering on about my son this/my son that/ on & on????I just vaugely (sp?) remember I'm pretty sure I saw your photo...you're blonde right? And if you need input about your looks what's wrong with that?
If someone had anorexia & needed help knowing that others saw them as NOT fat, there's nothing wrong with that!
Please please try NOT to be hard on yourself, or at least no AS hard on yourself, okay?
hugs, hugs, hugs, hugs, HUGS oops....hope you're not someone who hates cyberhugs!!
If so I'm in trouble.
I send masses of love, Kath
> Thanks for supporting me no matter how superficial and silly I'm being. That goes for everyone!
>
> -T
Posted by Gabbi-2 on August 15, 2007, at 15:03:03
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » Kath, posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 20:57:59
It's not lame at all!
I mean it would be so much better if we all were totally secure with ourselves, but I think 99% of women understand comopletely.
I honestly didn't give it a second thought until you brought it up.OMG TC IS REALLY JUST ASKING FOR COMPLIMENTS THE NERVE!!
No.
Posted by caraher on August 15, 2007, at 15:43:46
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » Kath, posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 20:57:59
> Thanks Kath. I'm actually a recovering super-insanely-low-self-esteem-oholic, so I'm not very good at accessing my own looks. But I gotten much better at avoiding the negative self talk as much as possible. I'm actually pretty embarrassed that I posted this so I could get all these assurances that I'm "pretty". I mean, how lame is that?
It's OK. And it's a pleasure to be able to tell you you look pretty. I've seen pictures you've linked before and if I were single I think I'd file you in the "out of my league" category based on looks.
Posted by TexasChic on August 15, 2007, at 20:35:35
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by caraher on August 15, 2007, at 15:43:46
I feel the need to correct myself, I didn't 'actually' start the post just to get assurances, I just felt like it looked that way after reading all the nice posts. That's what I meant to say, but I somehow managed to make things sound even worse. Actually I shouldn't say 'somehow' as I'm pretty good at that sort of thing. ;-)
But anyway, thanks everyone! Especially caraher, that was really sweet!
-T
P.S. Okay, now everyone assure me I'm not shallow!
(((wink wink)))
Posted by Gabbi-2 on August 15, 2007, at 20:59:06
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by caraher on August 15, 2007, at 15:43:46
P.S
I have no clue what you look like, so I can't say anything.But I like what you have to say so that must mean you're very deep ;)
Posted by Jai Narayan on August 15, 2007, at 22:44:07
In reply to Re: Ooi! I'll have you know.... » TexasChic, posted by Gabbi-2 on August 13, 2007, at 0:01:32
> . You really know how say things. Thanks for making me feel better.
> >
> > -T
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> Oy! He does doesn't he.
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> Listen up Damos, I hope you use that talent for good and not for evil :P
>
> The only other man I know of who could say things that beautiful, without sounding syrupy or phony, ripped my little heart right out.
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> He may not have *sounded* phony but...
>
> Well, you know the rest.
>
>
>I know he did. We are all vulnerable to sweetness. I guess, it's in our nature to love. You are a dear person. I'm so glad I know you.
Jai
Posted by Racer on August 16, 2007, at 14:09:31
In reply to Awww, thanks! You guys ROCK!, posted by TexasChic on August 15, 2007, at 20:35:35
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>
> -T
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> P.S. Okay, now everyone assure me I'm not shallow!
> (((wink wink)))But I wouldn't say you need a "No Diving" sign around your neck, either...
It must feel good to read all those responses. That's part of what makes Babble such a great place, isn't it? Babblers, on the whole, are so genuinely supportive, and so generous.
Then again, it might just be that you're so great...
:-D
Posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 18:28:06
In reply to Perhaps not so deep as a well..., posted by Racer on August 16, 2007, at 14:09:31
> It must feel good to read all those responses. That's part of what makes Babble such a great place, isn't it? Babblers, on the whole, are so genuinely supportive, and so generous.
Yeah, I told Gabbi if I can't shamelessly fish for compliments on babble, where else can I do
it??? Its sort of the point of the place.
> Then again, it might just be that you're so great...Awww. Thanks!
-T
Posted by cloudydaze on August 16, 2007, at 19:59:44
In reply to If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 13:57:03
My grandmother told me the exact same thing the other day. It was kinda depressing.
She meant well, but she could have been more sensitive.
I've been battling with my weight for quite awhile now. I know I need to lose some, but hearing it all the time just makes me feel worse about myself, and less likely to help myself.
I've never seen a pic of you texaschic, but I do know you have a beautiful personality :)
Posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 22:01:27
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by cloudydaze on August 16, 2007, at 19:59:44
>My grandmother told me the exact same thing the other day. It was kinda depressing.
>She meant well, but she could have been more sensitive.
>I've been battling with my weight for quite awhile now. I know I need to lose some, but hearing it all the time just makes me feel worse about myself, and less likely to help myself.
That's EXACTLY how I felt!
>I've never seen a pic of you texaschic, but I do know you have a beautiful personality :)
Oh, thank you so much! That's very sweet of you - makes me feel good! It seems like its been quite a while since I've talked to you. How are you doing?
-T
Posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 22:36:05
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » cloudydaze, posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 22:01:27
Have you been around and I've just been totally unobservant? How's your little girl (I do have that right don't I)? Are you in your own place yet? I've thought of you now and then and wondered how you were doing.
-T
Posted by cloudydaze on August 20, 2007, at 16:25:05
In reply to Cloudydaze, posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 22:36:05
I just came back, actually.
I've been struggling. I graduated college in May, and started my first real, professional design job 2 weeks before graduation. I was on top of the world during my last semester.
I quit my job after 2 months. I was having problems related to bipolar. I had too much trouble adjusting. My memory had been deteriorating, I was hardly eating (lost 6 pounds), I was a nervous wreck, and I HATED life. I would have probably eventually been okay, but I was working in place with about 6 other men, and no women, and they were complete jerks. A few of them treated me like scum, I imagine simply because I am a woman. The senior designer (my supervisor) was the worst, and he was trying to get me fired, i think.
So since the middle of June, I've been unemployed and horribly depressed. I was concerned about my memory problems (it has been deteriorating over time - I can't remember important events in my life, forget things five seconds after hearing them, long term & short) so I went to see a neurologist. My dad thought I was having absence seizures. Everything came up normal except that they found a large cyst in my sphenoid(sp?)sinus (behind my left eye). This couldn't have been causing the memory loss, but it has been giving me vertigo, and it's gotten worse. I'm going to see an Ear-nose-throat specialist soon to figure out what can be done. It may require surgery on my head....EEEK.
The neurologist said that my memory issues are probably the cause of my sleep apnea or my bipolar, or maybe both. My apnea is not being helped by my CPAP machine. I don't know what else to do. It's really the only apnea treatment.
Anywho- the neurologist did refer me to a new pdoc. I started Lamictal about a week ago. I may get on Abilify as well. I haven't needed meds in so long.
Now that THAT's out of the way - my daughter is doing beautifully. She started her first day of 2nd grade today, and is really excited about this year!
I am still living at home. I am now out of money, and trying to get stable and WELL enough to find a job. I did interview at a place that I really wanted to work, but they weren't sure they'd hire someone right away. And there aren't many other options for designers around here.
I've been making a little bit of money (very little) doing freelance work, including selling a line of clothing I designed for my Thesis project.
Here's the website:
www.cafepress.com/fresh_cutI'm proud of my work :)
unfortunately I've only sold 7 t-shirts.So I've just kinda been sleeping a lot (but not well) and wallowing in my self-pity. I'm pretty good at that. I'm afraid my bf is going to tire of it soon. Hopefully he doesn't abandon me.
Wow that's a long post.
> Have you been around and I've just been totally unobservant? How's your little girl (I do have that right don't I)? Are you in your own place yet? I've thought of you now and then and wondered how you were doing.
>
> -T
Posted by Racer on August 22, 2007, at 12:14:24
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » cloudydaze, posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 22:01:27
> > I know I need to lose some, but hearing it all the time just makes me feel worse about myself, and less likely to help myself.
>
> That's EXACTLY how I felt!
>
I've had weight issues in both directions, and heard about it on both sides. At one point, my husband told me he thought the reason we never had sex was that I had gained too much weight, and he just didn't find me attractive anymore. I told my aunt about it, and rather than making any sort of kind noise, she said, "You did get very heavy you know..." (She, by the way, has been obese for decades.)Then, at the other end of the spectrum, she felt it necessary to tell me that I was too thin, and couldn't eat what I had for dinner, had to eat something else instead. Gee, I didn't know that there was a problem with my weight, it never occurred to me that there was anything wrong with being fifty pounds underweight...
Some people lack the tact gene, I think. For that matter, I think some people lack the common sense gene. (Many of those people are related to me...) And it doesn't help. I think it's safe to say that most people with weight issues are not unaware of those issues.
Besides, honestly, as an anorexic who feels ginormous all the time, I see women who are larger than I am, women most of the Western world would call large, heavy, plump, etc -- and I envy them so much! I wish I could look as good as many much heavier women I see. So, it's all a matter of perspective.
And TC? You look great from here... CD, I don't know you, but I'm sure you're lovely, too.
Posted by TexasChic on August 22, 2007, at 21:59:56
In reply to Re: Cloudydaze » TexasChic, posted by cloudydaze on August 20, 2007, at 16:25:05
> I graduated college in May
Congratulations!!! That is a MAJOR accomplishment!
> and started my first real, professional design job 2 weeks before graduation. I was on top of the world during my last semester.
> I quit my job after 2 months.Aww, I'm sorry. My first job out of school lasted 3 months. The place closed down.
> I was having problems related to bipolar. I had too much trouble adjusting. My memory had been deteriorating, I was hardly eating (lost 6 pounds), I was a nervous wreck, and I HATED life. I would have probably eventually been okay, but I was working in place with about 6 other men, and no women, and they were complete jerks. A few of them treated me like scum, I imagine simply because I am a woman. The senior designer (my supervisor) was the worst, and he was trying to get me fired, i think.
Sometimes its best to just bail on a bad job situation. I've had a few myself. Other times its worth toughing it out - you just have to use your best judgment (that's really all any of us can do).
> So since the middle of June, I've been unemployed and horribly depressed. I was concerned about my memory problems (it has been deteriorating over time - I can't remember important events in my life, forget things five seconds after hearing them, long term & short) so I went to see a neurologist. My dad thought I was having absence seizures. Everything came up normal except that they found a large cyst in my sphenoid(sp?)sinus (behind my left eye). This couldn't have been causing the memory loss, but it has been giving me vertigo, and it's gotten worse. I'm going to see an Ear-nose-throat specialist soon to figure out what can be done. It may require surgery on my head....EEEK.
Oh wow! Let us know how that progresses.
> The neurologist said that my memory issues are probably the cause of my sleep apnea or my bipolar, or maybe both. My apnea is not being helped by my CPAP machine. I don't know what else to do. It's really the only apnea treatment.
Well that sucks! But it kind of makes sense that lack of sleep would effect your memory.
> Anywho- the neurologist did refer me to a new pdoc. I started Lamictal about a week ago. I may get on Abilify as well. I haven't needed meds in so long.Hey, nothing wrong with needing meds. Personally I couldn't do without them. I hope they help you feel better.
> Now that THAT's out of the way - my daughter is doing beautifully. She started her first day of 2nd grade today, and is really excited about this year!
Aww, that's so cool! My nephew is starting 3rd grade. I had him over last weekend and took him to get shoes and jeans and a haircut. The lady spiked his hair up with gel, and when we got home he kept looking at himself in the mirror, doing that 'you the man' hand gesture saying, "I look so cool!"
> I am still living at home. I am now out of money, and trying to get stable and WELL enough to find a job. I did interview at a place that I really wanted to work, but they weren't sure they'd hire someone right away. And there aren't many other options for designers around here.
So are you a graphic designer, a fashion designer or an interior designer? I'm a graphic designer.> I've been making a little bit of money (very little) doing freelance work, including selling a line of clothing I designed for my Thesis project.
> Here's the website:
> www.cafepress.com/fresh_cut> I'm proud of my work :)
> unfortunately I've only sold 7 t-shirts.I will definitely check that out!
> So I've just kinda been sleeping a lot (but not well) and wallowing in my self-pity. I'm pretty good at that. I'm afraid my bf is going to tire of it soon. Hopefully he doesn't abandon me.I understand, I've been there. Hopefully the meds will help with that.
> Wow that's a long post.Not a problem. I'm very glad to here how you're doing. Hang in there, okay?
-T
Posted by TexasChic on August 22, 2007, at 22:02:18
In reply to Tell me about it! ))CloudyDaze » TexasChic, posted by Racer on August 22, 2007, at 12:14:24
>And TC? You look great from here... CD, I don't know you, but I'm sure you're lovely, too.
As are you! Thanks for all the support!
-T
Posted by cloudydaze on August 23, 2007, at 18:15:53
In reply to Re: Cloudydaze » cloudydaze, posted by TexasChic on August 22, 2007, at 21:59:56
I'm a graphic designer. I live in a tiny town with the closest big city being about 2 hours away. There are very few jobs, especially after the students come back (the university I graduated from is in the next town over, about 8 miles from where i live).
I'm hoping to try out a new CPAP mask to see if it makes a difference. I'm so freakin tired. I wonder if the dizziness could be because of the lack of sleep instead of the cyst? My doc seems to think it's the cyst though.
What I thought was strange is that when the neurologist told me I had a cyst, she thought it was no big deal, but when my regular doc's office got the MRI results, they FRANTICALLY called me and let me know they wanted to put me on antibiotics...and now they referred me to an ear-nose-throat specialist to figure out what to do about the cyst.
So apparently my neurologist thinks it's dismissable, but my regular doc doesn't...hrrmm.
Did I also mention that my eye doc thinks I have glaucoma? Last time I went in, they detected thinning in my optic nerve, and I'm going back in for tests in September - if my pressures go up, then they're starting me on treatment for glaucoma . My mom has it as well.
There could be a chance that the cyst is putting pressure on my optic nerve, emulating glaucoma. I'm a bit worried I'll lose my sight. My eyes have been deteriorating.
I feel like I'm falling apart, physically and mentally. I'm too young for this!
The Lamictal is treating me well so far - I do feel a bit hypomanic from it though. It's a bit more difficult to fall asleep, but I like the antidepressant qualities in it.
Posted by Phillipa on August 23, 2007, at 18:37:59
In reply to Re: Cloudydaze, posted by cloudydaze on August 23, 2007, at 18:15:53
Gee that is so difficult for you to deal with and being a parent too. I'm sure in the end that all tests will turn out fine. And great the lamictal is working so well for you. Phillipa
Posted by Phillipa on August 23, 2007, at 20:26:07
In reply to Re: Cloudydaze, posted by cloudydaze on August 23, 2007, at 18:15:53
Who is treating you now the neurologist or regular doc? I'd think the neurologist would be the expert. ENT good idea too cover your bases the best to you. Phillipa
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