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Posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 20:50:12
He called me, he's been there 2 days already. I told him he did the right thing (he's bipolar and has been getting worse and worse over the years). He wanted me to bring him some cigarettes, but I have a quarter of a tank of gas and two dollars to last me until Friday, so I had to say no. He asked me to call Mom and ask her to bring him some, as well as some long sleeve shirts because he's always cold there, and some quarters so he can call people. I feel bad that I can't help him out. Especially since Mom probably won't bring him smokes, and as an ex-smoker I feel for him.
My brother talked to our cousin, who is a total moocher, and he's supposed to bring him some cigs, as well as drive our mom over. But he's just so unreliable. Its really the least he can do, he borrowed money from my mom and never paid her back and has been living with my brother rent free for months. I hope he follows through.
I just spoke to my mom and she told me she went to my brother's apt and was cleaning it all day. I was like, oh great. She is so controlling and used to drive me crazy doing stuff like that. But she said it was 'awful' and 'he'd feel better if it was clean when he came back'. I just refrained from commenting, I couldn't change her mind anyway.
On top of all that I slipped and fell at the pool today, and although I'm alright, I have a bruise as big as my hand on my back and just feel sore all over.
And of course I had one glass of wine left, which I already drank. So I'm just like a big crazy ball of conflicting emotions right now. I'm going to lay down and rest and watch Finding Nemo (my favorite movie to watch when I'm upset), but I'll check back in later. Thanks for listening to me rant, I'm tired and don't know if this completely made sense.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 21:18:10
In reply to My brother checked himself into the hospital, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 20:50:12
Well, I did a bad thing. I wrote a check for some wine even though I know its gonna bounce. But this was just one of those times it seemed worth it. I didn't include in my previous post that I also have a sunburn and a nice case of pms, so physically I just feel rather crappy. If ever I needed some self medicating its now.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on June 23, 2007, at 22:07:14
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 21:18:10
T your brother did the right thing checking into the hospital. Does he have any friends to get him some cigarettes he must be very upset. And I have to say if he's bipolar his place must have been a mess if he was bad enough for the hospital so this time I think your Mother did the right thing. Of course I don't know all the circumstances. Hope someone will lend him some cigarettes although I'm against smoking if he's used to them they will help sooth him. give an up-date tomorrow. Love Phillipa
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 23, 2007, at 22:07:22
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 21:18:10
> Well, I did a bad thing. I wrote a check for some wine even though I know its gonna bounce. But this was just one of those times it seemed worth it. I didn't include in my previous post that I also have a sunburn and a nice case of pms, so physically I just feel rather crappy. If ever I needed some self medicating its now.
>
> -THi TC...
I am sorry for your crappy predicament. I hope your brother gets good care, and I know that is hard to find in the U.S. unless you have lots of *cash*. Actually, your mood sounds like it would have been good company with mine tonight. My mother still thinks I am 17, and I just told her off.
I am unorganized and a bit sloppy, but I am not 'dirty', and she yells at me about leaving some wash out and having some pop cans laying around. I really can't wait until I buy my own house. Anyhow...do you have any benzos? They might be better then wine. I just gulped back 4 mg's of clonazepam, and my nightime meds. I hope I can calm down. Best wishes to you and your brother. People don't seem to care about people like you and me, (all of us on here..I guess) with mental health problems. I know what you mean about the controlling mother. I love her, but she can be the most obsessive person going.(She was like that when I was a kid too. I remember her telling me she wanted to die because she was 'never asked to be born'.) Anyhow...best wishes and cyber hugs...Jay
Posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 22:43:09
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital » TexasChic, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 23, 2007, at 22:07:22
Thanks you two, I appreciate the support. I didn't explain I'm out of Xanax and can't get anymore until I see the doctor (I have to find a new one because I've moved). So hence the self medicating.
Phillipa, you may be right about my mom's cleaning, but I just remember how intrusive she always was with me and how it felt. My brother will probably be torn between being pissed at the invasion of privacy and relieved at not having to tackle it himself.
Jay, I know exactly what you mean about your mom. The only solution for me was to GET AWAY. She was literally driving me out of my mind. It was the only way to save our relationship.
Anyway, thanks yall. I'm going to crash now. I'll check in tomorrow.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on June 23, 2007, at 23:03:07
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 22:43:09
No lectures on self medicating as beer always got rid of my anxiety. Never drank hard liquor though and I knew my limits. As I said only you know all the circumstances. Good luck Love Phillipa
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 24, 2007, at 14:31:38
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 22:43:09
> Thanks you two, I appreciate the support. I didn't explain I'm out of Xanax and can't get anymore until I see the doctor (I have to find a new one because I've moved). So hence the self medicating.
>
> Phillipa, you may be right about my mom's cleaning, but I just remember how intrusive she always was with me and how it felt. My brother will probably be torn between being pissed at the invasion of privacy and relieved at not having to tackle it himself.
>
> Jay, I know exactly what you mean about your mom. The only solution for me was to GET AWAY. She was literally driving me out of my mind. It was the only way to save our relationship.
>
> Anyway, thanks yall. I'm going to crash now. I'll check in tomorrow.
>
> -T
TC, are you feeling better today? I hope so. I know what that 'out of control' feeling is like. Sh*t happens, and it seems like a plague. You just wish you had control over other people's lives. Is there a 'walk-in' clinic you could go to? Even if you can get some clonazepam, or lorazepam...any benzo.So how about a little 'get together'...you and I?:-) I think we have some 'issues' we could help each other with. :) Okay, I sound like a tramp..and yes, I am one. hahaaa. You are really cute, ya know!:)
Peace and love
Jay
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 24, 2007, at 16:04:38
In reply to My brother checked himself into the hospital, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 20:50:12
Tex, sorry I don't have time to read the entire thread, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your whole family. I hope he gets the help he needs.
The most important thing is to take the best care of yourself right now. You're hanging by a shoestring, so keep things simple and try not to get overwhelmed by a tide of guilt.
You'll make it up to him when things are easier for you, I know you will.
Take good care,
-Ll
Posted by TexasChic on June 24, 2007, at 17:41:39
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on June 23, 2007, at 23:03:07
Thanks Phillipa. I didn't think you were lecturing or anything. I really do appreciate your non-conditional support. You're a good friend to me.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 24, 2007, at 17:49:36
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital » TexasChic, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 24, 2007, at 14:31:38
Thanks Jay. I do feel much better today. I just have a way of absorbing and reflecting other people's emotions. So I was feeling the panic and despair my brother was expressing to me. It does eventually go away though. It didn't help that I was feeling bad physically as well.
So do you live near me? Thanks for the compliment. It made me feel good when I was feeling crappy.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on June 24, 2007, at 20:42:36
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by TexasChic on June 24, 2007, at 17:49:36
Ahhh two babblers meet for romantic endeavor. Love Phillipa
Posted by karen_kay on June 25, 2007, at 11:30:23
In reply to My brother checked himself into the hospital, posted by TexasChic on June 23, 2007, at 20:50:12
always stinks dear. i know i always got on better with my family when i lived furthest from them. i'm already considerign moving very far from them (and i've only lived 'closer' to them for about a year, if that).
at least when you live further from them, you only have to hear about things on the phone, and you can choose to answer the phone when you want.
((((tc)))))
mothers are frustrating (and the worst, if you ask me).
wine's the best (if you ask me).
bouncing a check is fine dear (especially for wine, not so good if it's for a mother though).
and i think you do a beautiful job of handling your family. i just flipped out at my sister for not helping with dinner last night. and i mean FLIPPED! (she had it coming for a while, but she got it good, the whole 'inconsiderate' speech, lecture, with a few good curse words thrown in. of course, we got thigns worked out, but i'm not taking care fo her kids after the lease is up. then again, i told her if she didn't have another person lined up, she coudl brign them by and i'd watch them, setting myself up never to graduate college, but i'm anythign but consistent and i jsut can't stick to my word. oh, how i wish i had a backbone!)(((((tc)))))) mind if i get one too? (((((kk))))
Posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2007, at 17:40:12
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital » TexasChic, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 24, 2007, at 16:04:38
Thanks Lurspie. I appreciate the support.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2007, at 17:47:56
In reply to family trouble » TexasChic, posted by karen_kay on June 25, 2007, at 11:30:23
Thanks KK. I know what you mean about dealing with your sister. Its so hard when kids are involved! You want to take up for yourself, but you don't want the kids to suffer as a result of it. Of course we know its not our fault, we're not the parents, but that doesn't change the guilt you feel. I'm sure there's some way to deal with that type of situation correctly, I just don't know what it is. Anybody?
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2007, at 18:09:11
In reply to Re: family trouble » karen_kay, posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2007, at 17:47:56
I haven't talked to him, his phone at home got turned off. But he left me a message before he left the hospital. I hope he does better now. Maybe this will get him to stay on his meds. That seems to always be what starts a downward spiral for him - he stops taking them.
This whole situation is so weird because he was always the most promising of all us kids. He got straight A's, got a college degree, got married, stayed loyal to our religious upbringing, spent his spare time volunteering and helping the homeless, etc. But I guess it just goes to show that all the brains, faith, and willpower in the world doesn't make a difference when you have a mental illness.
-T
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 25, 2007, at 19:58:30
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by TexasChic on June 24, 2007, at 17:49:36
> Thanks Jay. I do feel much better today. I just have a way of absorbing and reflecting other people's emotions. So I was feeling the panic and despair my brother was expressing to me. It does eventually go away though. It didn't help that I was feeling bad physically as well.
>
> So do you live near me? Thanks for the compliment. It made me feel good when I was feeling crappy.
>
> -T(((((TC)))))
(I know..hugs seem corny..but I like the...umm..close physical intimacy. ;-)Glad to see you feeling better. No, sadly I live way up in Ontario, Canada...near Niagara Falls. :( I'd certainly like to meet you...not just because I think you are HOT :)...but you seem to encounter problems like mine, and react the same way. Maybe I should make a trip down to Texas...no, I don't want to scare you..hahaaa. Take care..
Jay :)
Posted by TexasChic on June 25, 2007, at 21:59:10
In reply to Re: My brother checked himself into the hospital » TexasChic, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 25, 2007, at 19:58:30
To backtrack a little, when my brother left me a message earlier he not only told me he was released but also asked me to call my mom and cousin and make sure they were coming to pick him up. So after I had tried them both with no answer, I tried the hospital and the guy who answered said my brother had already left. So I hung up thinking they had gone and got him.
Then a few hours ago I noticed that my phone had run down completely, so I plugged it in and it didn't show that I had gotten any calls. Then a little while ago I got a call from an unfamiliar number and when I listened to the message I realized there was a previous message from my brother begging me to come pick him up because my mom and our cousin weren't answering their phones. The next message (the unfamiliar number) was him saying he finally got a ride from a friend of a friend and was on his way home. So I called back that number and got him, and it turns out when I called him earlier, the guy said, "he's already gone home", then said, "no wait, here he is", but by then I had said "okay" and hung up.
So between now and then he's been calling our mom with no answer, and our cousin (who's been living with my brother rent free for months, and lived with my mom for months before that, AND he borrowed money from her when she's on freaking food stamps!!!) and he told him he didn't have enough gas and then turned off his phone. So the craziness ensues! But at least he's on his way home.
-T
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