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Posted by txtoolgirl on March 26, 2006, at 21:09:25
My spouse of 20 years recently left me. All the therapy in the world cannot help me through this. How do you start over?
Posted by rjlockhart on March 26, 2006, at 21:40:22
In reply to lost, posted by txtoolgirl on March 26, 2006, at 21:09:25
Im, thats hurts, 20 years? god. Have you considered antidepressant medication, or antianxiety meds such as Xanax? I take Xanax it works very well,. But your sitaution sounds bad.
Well i do understand that therpy sometimes cannot seem to be any help, even years. I think medication and praying to the lord may will help.
write a journal maybe every week about whats going on, how you feel, what you want, and how to get there, maybe like a recovery journal. And someday you will look back on (that is if you keep it ROFL) it, and well its just good because i read my journals from 2-3 years ago and just rermber that time period of crisis I was going through (back then i thought i was going crazy, and things that where happening, and i look today.
Just a though.
take care
Matt
Posted by Phillipa on March 26, 2006, at 22:15:50
In reply to Re: lost, posted by rjlockhart on March 26, 2006, at 21:40:22
Actually that is good advise. First talk to family and friends to help you sort things out. Then a good therapist can help. And if the therapist thinks it's necessary meds can helBut If I were you I'd post this on psychology board. You will find more help there. I'm so sorry. My first marriage ended after 2l years and three kids. Love phillipa
Posted by special_k on March 27, 2006, at 0:34:45
In reply to lost, posted by txtoolgirl on March 26, 2006, at 21:09:25
oh wow that has gotta be hard.
hugs for you.
i'm so sorry.
i think... it is something that will take some time... a lot of time...
maybe this will come to seem like a better thing. i guess your relationship wasn't going so well... you might have a chance to really think about what you want in life... and it could work out for the best.
but right now... when it is so fresh... it really will take a while to adjust to things being different. it will take a while. but i'm pretty sure you will be able to move on from this.
do you have anyone to talk to?
you can talk about it here...
but do you have anyone to talk to about it in real life too?
would you be able to go to a therapist to talk about it? sometimes therapists can be good for helping you process how you feel. and getting you thinking about what you would like to do with your life. and helping you find the confidence and courage to meet people and find some friends to spend time with and stuff so you get some good social supports in your life.
Posted by milly on March 27, 2006, at 6:33:52
In reply to lost, posted by txtoolgirl on March 26, 2006, at 21:09:25
> My spouse of 20 years recently left me. All the therapy in the world cannot help me through this. How do you start over?
Oh wow, my heart breaks for you, that must be so hard.
I think special K's advice is good
I can't imagine how you feel but if a hug would help here
(((((((txtoolgirl)))))))))Keep posting,
milly
Posted by txtoolgirl on March 27, 2006, at 7:11:50
In reply to lost, posted by txtoolgirl on March 26, 2006, at 21:09:25
thanks for your support. i didnt know what board to post this on.
Posted by special_k on March 27, 2006, at 7:17:46
In reply to Re: lost, posted by txtoolgirl on March 27, 2006, at 7:11:50
I think it is okay here, though it could also be okay over on relationships. but i think... people tend to find they get more responses here so that is cool.
how are you doing? silly question... sorry... don't really know what to say. do you want to talk a bit more?
it is okay to do that you know.
and if you want to make some friends... i reckon you have probably come to the right place. other people here will have been through some similar kinds of stuff. and sometimes it can be good just to talk a bit and feel heard. and know that people care.
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