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Posted by Deneb on March 9, 2006, at 15:21:03
I'm just upset. I won't get into the details. How do I deal with this?
Deneb*
Posted by wildcard11 on March 9, 2006, at 16:54:30
In reply to I'm upset over something someone wrote to me, posted by Deneb on March 9, 2006, at 15:21:03
I would let the person know that i am upset. Then i would prob. ask myself why i was upset. Did i think what they said was true and to help me or just to be hurtful. Depending on who it was (close friend, family or acquaintance), i would decide if i wanted the relationship to continue. Hope that helps some...
Posted by James K on March 9, 2006, at 17:42:57
In reply to I'm upset over something someone wrote to me, posted by Deneb on March 9, 2006, at 15:21:03
> I'm just upset. I won't get into the details. How do I deal with this?
>
> Deneb*---If you mean, you are upset right this second, first breathe in and out slow and deep. In through the nose to the belly, then out the mouth, belly first to empty then chest. repeat several times.
As for the hurt and anxiety that won't always go away immediately, think of the good things people have said to you lately. Say in your mind, "Who cares what so and so thinks".
Later, without adrenaline in system, you can calmly go over whatever was said, and logically pick it apart. Is this true? does it apply? did it need to be said? but save the logic until you are over the upset.
Give yourself a time limit to be mad, fret, hurt, etc. then say times up, moving on.
Try. I try and sometimes fail but I think it is good advice nonetheless.
James K
Posted by Deneb on March 9, 2006, at 18:18:34
In reply to Re: I'm upset over something someone wrote to me » Deneb, posted by James K on March 9, 2006, at 17:42:57
Thanks for the advice. I'm not upset anymore. I re-read what the person wrote a second time in a different tone of voice and the message seemed different. Maybe the person was just trying to help me out.
Deneb*
Posted by Phillipa on March 9, 2006, at 23:28:26
In reply to Re: I'm upset over something someone wrote to me, posted by Deneb on March 9, 2006, at 18:18:34
I'm glad that's settled. fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Susan47 on March 12, 2006, at 10:35:08
In reply to Re: I'm upset over something someone wrote to me » Deneb, posted by Phillipa on March 9, 2006, at 23:28:26
If it's something I wrote, which I hope it isn't, but if it were and you were upset by it, then I didn't say it properly. Just in case it's something I wrote, Deneb.
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