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Posted by gardenergirl on December 18, 2005, at 22:38:24
I know this sounds nuts, but wahhh. I want my alone time!!!! Four days in a row????
Help!
I know this sounds so disloyal and such, but I hate long weekends when he's home more. I NEED my alone days.
sigh
gg
Posted by LegWarmers on December 18, 2005, at 22:56:42
In reply to Husband was off Friday and now Monday--grrrr, posted by gardenergirl on December 18, 2005, at 22:38:24
> I know this sounds nuts, but wahhh. I want my alone time!!!! Four days in a row????
>
> Help!
>
> I know this sounds so disloyal and such, but I hate long weekends when he's home more. I NEED my alone days.
>
> sigh
>
> ggCompletely understandable! It doesnt sound disloyal at all, we need our space. Could you go to the library or a coffee shop or some other quiet place to get some space?
Posted by ClearSkies on December 19, 2005, at 7:35:11
In reply to Husband was off Friday and now Monday--grrrr, posted by gardenergirl on December 18, 2005, at 22:38:24
My husband works from home and I don't work. Togetherness took on a new meaning when I quit my job.
I schedule my own activities independently of his during the weekdays and we reserve the weekends for doing stuff together. I used to think of it as the "carry on!" way of living, just going about my business.
Posted by fallsfall on December 19, 2005, at 7:55:32
In reply to Husband was off Friday and now Monday--grrrr, posted by gardenergirl on December 18, 2005, at 22:38:24
Did you see that LegWarmers suggested that you go to the library? I'll go with you. It is peaceful at the library.
Posted by gardenergirl on December 19, 2005, at 8:11:49
In reply to Re: Husband was off Friday and now Monday--grrrr » gardenergirl, posted by fallsfall on December 19, 2005, at 7:55:32
That's exactly what's in the plans for today. That and go to my ex-workplace and turn in my keys and such.
gg
Posted by Dinah on December 19, 2005, at 9:02:59
In reply to Husband was off Friday and now Monday--grrrr, posted by gardenergirl on December 18, 2005, at 22:38:24
I know what you mean. :)
Can you send him on an errand?
Posted by gardenergirl on December 19, 2005, at 17:32:31
In reply to Re: Husband was off Friday and now Monday--grrrr » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on December 19, 2005, at 9:02:59
I went to the library.
I talked about this a bit in therapy today. I think I've figured out what really bothers me. When I'm home alone, (Kevin!!!!) sorry, just had a movie flashback. ;) Anyway, when I'm there by myself, I am in the "let my hair down" really relaxed, unselfconscious mode. I didn't realize this. But when anyone is there, hubby included, I feel more self-conscious. I feel observed in some way. Not that he is actively "watching me", but I am not in the "let my hair down" mode.
And apparently, I really like and need that feeling. I guess the challenge is to feel free enough and unselfconscious enough to be authentically me, albeit maybe a bit more proper, in public and/or around other people.
It's sort of a subtle difference in the case of my hubby being home. T said I am projecting my super-ego onto him. And boyo, does he take that up and run with it at times (hubby).
Anyone else get like this?
gg
Posted by fallsfall on December 19, 2005, at 17:44:32
In reply to Re: Husband was off Friday and now Monday--grrrr, posted by gardenergirl on December 19, 2005, at 17:32:31
I feel differently when I am home alone. Then nobody knows if I eat a whole big chocolate bar by myself. Or if I talk to myself. Or ... Well, I don't need to tell you ALL the things I do when I'm alone!
Posted by gardenergirl on December 19, 2005, at 18:19:11
In reply to Re: Husband was off Friday and now Monday--grrrr » gardenergirl, posted by fallsfall on December 19, 2005, at 17:44:32
Sliding across the hardwood floors in my socks.
Singing random songs at random moments off-key.
Putting my feet up on the desk.
Going to the bathroom with the bathroom door open*
*note, check to make sure the blinds in the front room aren't up first! :Dgg
Posted by LegWarmers on December 19, 2005, at 19:43:31
In reply to Things I do, posted by gardenergirl on December 19, 2005, at 18:19:11
> Sliding across the hardwood floors in my socks.
now that sounds like fun!
> Going to the bathroom with the bathroom door open*
> *note, check to make sure the blinds in the front room aren't up first! :Dhave you done this?? I have, and is it ever embarrassing!
Posted by annierose on December 19, 2005, at 22:00:29
In reply to Things I do, posted by gardenergirl on December 19, 2005, at 18:19:11
I totally get the wanting to be alone thing AND the feeling like I need to be productive when he's home thing too. Afterall, I don't want him to think on my day off, I sit in front of the computer and check in on my babble friends, or ...
put the stero on really loud and sing (badly, not by choice) AND DANCE ... sometimes it even involves jumping on the coffee table (now I'm even cracking myself up, how pitiful am I?)
I also like to eat raw cookie dough when no one else is watching.
Posted by gardenergirl on December 19, 2005, at 22:20:34
In reply to Re: Things I do » gardenergirl, posted by annierose on December 19, 2005, at 22:00:29
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