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Posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 2:23:41
I am so unmotivated. I just really battle to get going. Even simple tasks require some effort and nothing is fun or exciting to do. And then, when I'm doing nothing I'm bored anyway.
I haven't left my house in more than a week. I need to get a life!
Sabrina
Posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2005, at 7:23:35
In reply to Not unhappy but, posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 2:23:41
I think that when this happens, it's your soul telling you that it needs some attention and nuturing. Chores can wait - do something restorative for yourself!
I know that even though I'm not a working a paid job any longer, I still do alot and I try not to discount that. I don't go out for pedicures often, but I'll take time and do it myself as a treat. I light candles and take a soothing bath with lavender oil. I give myself a facial.
All these little things lets me tell myself that I am worthy and cherished, a message that I must repeat or entropy sets in as this goes against the things I heard and learned while growing up. It isn't easy for me - sometimes it feels like I am spoiling myself. Really, though, what I am doing is treating myself with caring and respect. Very motivating!!ClearSkies
Posted by wildcard on October 22, 2005, at 7:38:04
In reply to Not unhappy but, posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 2:23:41
Hey girl! To bad you don't live close to me..lol I feel the same way all the time. I went weeks w/o leaving the house. I have no motivation what so ever and I know how it is to battle just getting out of bed. I have started to do more at home(clutterbug), and little by little I am going through things. Someone may look and say,"What have you done today?". It may not look like much to them, but to me it was a lot. Baby steps will get you somewhere and if you need some inspiring, I'm an email away. ; )
Posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 7:41:45
In reply to Re: Not unhappy but » sal0805, posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2005, at 7:23:35
I indulge in plenty of the feel good things such as pedicures, aromatherapy baths and so on. They sooth my body at the moment and that is about it. I agree that something in me needs attention and nuturing and somehow I don't know if it needs to come from me. Does that make sense?
I think I am also feeling guilty for going back to sleep when my husband has left for work instead of getting up and 'doing something'. But everything I do is feels boring.
Wish I could find a hobby that consumes me.
Sabrina
Posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 7:47:55
In reply to Re: Not unhappy but » sal0805, posted by wildcard on October 22, 2005, at 7:38:04
After I left my job in March I spent so much time throwing myself into household things that had not been done over the years. And it felt good. I felt such a sense of achievement. Don't understand why I don't feel that anymore.
When my husband gets home he doesn't ask me what I did that day but rather how my day was and that I appreciate. But it has become tiresome telling him how many times a day I clean the taps or wash the kitchen floor and having feeling that *I* have achieved anything.
I think I'm surfacing a couple of issues here.
Sabrina
Posted by Phillipa on October 22, 2005, at 21:16:56
In reply to Re: Not unhappy but » wildcard, posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 7:47:55
Well I'll extend the invitation to you too. Come over and help me pack to move. Fill some boxes with books. And wrap glassware and box them up. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Susan47 on October 22, 2005, at 22:06:41
In reply to Re: Not unhappy but » wildcard, posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 7:47:55
> After I left my job in March I spent so much time throwing myself into household things that had not been done over the years. And it felt good. I felt such a sense of achievement. Don't understand why I don't feel that anymore.
It makes complete sense. Why did you ever leave your job? Can you get another? Go to school? You need a schedule that interests and motivates you, and perhaps your husband will then also find you interesting. Maybe it isn't a hobby you need. Maybe it's mental stimulation. How old is your child?
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Posted by sal0805 on October 23, 2005, at 2:03:35
In reply to Re: Not unhappy but » sal0805, posted by Phillipa on October 22, 2005, at 21:16:56
I'd snitch to the books to bring home and read!!
Sabrina
Posted by sal0805 on October 23, 2005, at 2:08:21
In reply to Re: Not unhappy but » sal0805, posted by Susan47 on October 22, 2005, at 22:06:41
I left my job because of my illness. The job was slowly killing me.
No - I do not wish to get another as I work from home now and enjoy it, but am still bored.
I agree on needing mental stimulation but working from home does not exactly pay me and with that in mind whatever I choose to do cannot cost any money.
My son turns 8 in December and I have recently been well enough to take over his after care. I have enjoyed helping him with his homework and have made it as creative as possible for him. But as he is ADHD - my patience is somewhat frazzled.
I'm on the constant look-out - I'll find something.
In the mean time - it is up to me to try and make my house imprisonment interesting!
Sabrina
Sabrina
Posted by ClearSkies on October 23, 2005, at 6:51:24
In reply to Re: Not unhappy but » Susan47, posted by sal0805 on October 23, 2005, at 2:08:21
Thinking about that nuturing thing.
I think that besides the facials, pedicures, etc. that we can "gift" to our selves, our souls need that treatment even more. I'm not a religious person (attn: Please Don't Redirect Me!) but i do consider myself spiritual. Paying attention to that aspect of myself has made me much more content.I meditate, journal, use an inspirational daybook, attend my weekly sobriety meetings... all things that my soul requires to thrive. I try many different things, take what I want from what I see, and work it to suit me. Trusting my instinct has become key to success - and it's been the most difficult work I've done. The fact is that deep down inside, I *do* know what's best for me. If I take the time to reflect instead of immediately react to my anxieties, I feel much better.
Posted by sal0805 on October 23, 2005, at 6:58:31
In reply to Re: Not unhappy but » sal0805, posted by ClearSkies on October 23, 2005, at 6:51:24
Sound advice - as usual. I have started many journals but never follow through. I need to try this again!
Love Sabrina
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