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Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 10:38:12
Posted by lynn970 on September 10, 2005, at 10:48:37
In reply to I keep obsessing about this (Trigger), posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 10:38:12
This is so sad. In the article it said that he was a perfectionist. Perfectionist can't handle it when things are out of control.
You know, although some things were handled wrong, many things were handled right. The people who have been working hard night and day need to get their props.
This world is so sad!!!!
Dinah, try not to watch too much of the news. I know that it is hard, but try to focus on good things. Meditate on the good.
Posted by Phil on September 10, 2005, at 10:54:22
In reply to I keep obsessing about this (Trigger), posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 10:38:12
Damn.
Posted by wildcard on September 10, 2005, at 11:04:55
In reply to Re: I keep obsessing about this (Trigger) » Dinah, posted by Phil on September 10, 2005, at 10:54:22
All we can do is pray for God to give the people going through this hellish nightmare the strength to somehow find their way. Dinah, your heart is so big and i can only imagine the hurt u feel. Please try and hang on for everyone that cares about you. I no longer watch the news as it is too much for me. I wish i cld. take some of ur pain away and im sorry that i cant. Just know i care.
Posted by Gabbix2 on September 10, 2005, at 11:56:48
In reply to Re: I keep obsessing about this (Trigger) » Dinah, posted by Phil on September 10, 2005, at 10:54:22
> Damn.
yeah.
Posted by JenStar on September 10, 2005, at 12:59:24
In reply to I keep obsessing about this (Trigger), posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 10:38:12
hi Dinah,
it's a tragic story.Are you obsessing about it because you feel the same way HE was feeling...are you having "this has got to end" kind of thoughts? Are you afraid you might do what he did?
Or is it just sadness and fear at the situation?
If it's the first, please be sure to get help before your feeling get any stronger or worse. Things WILL get better. Life WILL improve again...for you and for all the survivors! And your T WILL continue to find a way to see you!
I hope you're doing OK.
take care,
JenStar
Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 13:52:23
In reply to Re: I keep obsessing about this (Trigger) » Dinah, posted by JenStar on September 10, 2005, at 12:59:24
I'm really not quite sure why, other than that it's tragic. But there were so many tragic stories. It just stuck in my head after I heard it on the radio station and that's why I looked up the news story.
I do know that I felt like I knew him sort of from hearing him so often. And I feel so bad for all the police. My husband and I are going to give to the relief fund for the NOPD.
And it probably has something to do with feeling not all that great.
But it's just looping in the background of my head.
Such a tragedy. All of it.
Posted by Gabbix2 on September 10, 2005, at 19:06:23
In reply to Re: I keep obsessing about this (Trigger), posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 13:52:23
> I'm really not quite sure why, other than that it's tragic. But there were so many tragic stories. It just stuck in my head after I heard it on the radio station and that's why I looked up the news story.
>I think it's a symbolic story.
Seeing someone who is a fairly public figure and who represents strength control and order take their life during this time, must touch about every emotion one has. It's heartbreaking, and many people probably have thought about doing what he did and now think "If he sees no hope, how can I?" Though, it seems probable to me that the disaster was his final straw. Police have a particularly high rate of suicide, and the hopelessness he felt during the flood was undoubtedly influenced by what he'd seen before.
Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 20:01:39
In reply to Re: I keep obsessing about this (Trigger) » Dinah, posted by Gabbix2 on September 10, 2005, at 19:06:23
And thank you for that. I wasn't quite sure what it was that was pushing all my buttons, but I think that was exactly it.
Maybe that will help me process it.
Posted by wildcard on September 10, 2005, at 20:25:14
In reply to I think you've articulated what I couldn't » Gabbix2, posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 20:01:39
Posted by fairywings on September 10, 2005, at 22:17:10
In reply to I keep obsessing about this (Trigger), posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 10:38:12
((((hugs)))
dinah, we are thinking about you. This is such a terrible time for so many people and gabbix was right, when someone who represents strength feels at such a loss, and so many are unaccounted for, it feels overwhelming, like things are meyhem. hang in there, pull out all the resources you have available to keep strong.
fw
Posted by Gabbix2 on September 10, 2005, at 23:32:57
In reply to I think you've articulated what I couldn't » Gabbix2, posted by Dinah on September 10, 2005, at 20:01:39
> And thank you for that. I wasn't quite sure what it was that was pushing all my buttons, but I think that was exactly it.
>
> Maybe that will help me process it.I'm so glad if I helped There is nothing I want more than to be able to help you in some way tangible right now.
Posted by Dinah on September 11, 2005, at 8:20:27
In reply to Re: I think you've articulated what I couldn't » Dinah, posted by Gabbix2 on September 10, 2005, at 23:32:57
And don't underestimate intangible.
Posted by Gabbix2 on September 11, 2005, at 17:07:14
In reply to You always help » Gabbix2, posted by Dinah on September 11, 2005, at 8:20:27
Thank you Dinah, that felt really good to hear.
> And don't underestimate intangible.
No, that I won't do, especially with what I've learned here. But when someone you care about is in a terrible situation, being able to do something a little more (solid? there's a better word I know) is good too
Posted by sunny10 on September 12, 2005, at 11:10:51
In reply to Re: You always help » Dinah, posted by Gabbix2 on September 11, 2005, at 17:07:14
it may be less cerebral than all that...
This man was in your living room repeatedly, at least on tv- so he was almost like family.
Feeling like you lost someone close to you sticks in your head for quite some time.
You have every right to be sad and mad all at the same time. You need to grieve for him.
Let yourself grieve- don't try to put him out of your thoughts and you will stop obsessing about him as the greiving process continues.
At least this is my theory...
You ARE strong, like the others have all said.
Take care of yourself,
Sunny10
Posted by Phillipa on September 12, 2005, at 13:50:32
In reply to Re: You always help, posted by sunny10 on September 12, 2005, at 11:10:51
Dinah I hope you're settling down a bit. And I agee with not watching all the news. I once read that this was bad for your mental health. To watch time and time again other's suffering. There comes a time when you have to think of yourself. Help in any way you can and yes grieve. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Gabbix2 on September 13, 2005, at 0:58:19
In reply to Re: You always help, posted by sunny10 on September 12, 2005, at 11:10:51
> it may be less cerebral than all that...
>Actually the archetypal symbolism of the story is the opposite of cerebral, it's something that affects the spirit almost directly, and subconsiously. That is why it's difficult to sometimes understand what the cause is, and that's what my point was. With all the grief Dinah has endured this past year, I was fairly sure that she'd be able to recognize that.
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