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Posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 8:40:45
I don't know weather to be overjoyed for the relief of the drought and horrific heat, or e saddened and depressed over the lack of sunshine or the innability to enjoy the cool rainy weather by curling up on the couch with my dog....the only creature on this earth who loves me without question.
Geeze, how's that for the run on sentence of the day.
I want so much to have some time to recover from life's trials this past year.
Posted by Toph on August 15, 2005, at 9:44:31
In reply to Rain Finally Came, posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 8:40:45
Posted by 10derHeart on August 15, 2005, at 11:32:03
In reply to Lucky dog (nm), posted by Toph on August 15, 2005, at 9:44:31
Posted by ClearSkies on August 15, 2005, at 11:38:08
In reply to Rain Finally Came, posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 8:40:45
Don't know what I'd do without the love of my cat. She doesn't seem to mind if my hair is greasy or that I can't get off the sofa. Or that I can't be bothered to brush my teeth.
Enjoy the weather, AdaGrace. Healing comes in its own sweet time, and no sooner, unfortunately.
ClearSkies, formerly known as PartlyCloudyToph!! Lovely to see you here. Mwah!!! I changed my name while you weren't looking.
Posted by Toph on August 15, 2005, at 11:52:14
In reply to Re: Rain Finally Came - Toph, » AdaGrace, posted by ClearSkies on August 15, 2005, at 11:38:08
ClearSkies, how positively positive of you PC, I mean, CS. I wish my forecast were so sunny. But this is Gracie's thread. Mwah back.
Posted by Toph on August 15, 2005, at 12:21:13
In reply to Toph!!!! :-) (nm) » Toph, posted by 10derHeart on August 15, 2005, at 11:32:03
Posted by Damos on August 15, 2005, at 16:44:00
In reply to Lucky dog (nm), posted by Toph on August 15, 2005, at 9:44:31
Posted by Damos on August 15, 2005, at 16:45:16
In reply to Rain Finally Came, posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 8:40:45
I know what you mean Gracie, my dog is a gift from G*d and gets me through so many things. Don't know where I'd be without her.
Posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 17:04:01
In reply to Re: Rain Finally Came - Toph,, posted by Toph on August 15, 2005, at 11:52:14
Feel free to supplement my threads anytime. They are pretty bare, lean, and void of substance these days.
Nice to see you. Miss reading your posts.
Posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 17:09:13
In reply to Re: Rain Finally Came - Toph, » AdaGrace, posted by ClearSkies on August 15, 2005, at 11:38:08
And you know there are some.....
I often think I am borderline diabetic because I bleed like a stuck hog and the wounds take forever to heal. Same way with bruises. They pop up from nowhere and stay for weeks.
It must be the same way with my heart.
Just can't seem to find enough Neosporin.
Posted by ClearSkies on August 15, 2005, at 17:49:03
In reply to Re: Wounds that wont heal » ClearSkies, posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 17:09:13
I can't stop hugging you!
Hope that is OK, sweetie.
I think some of our medications make us more bleeders than we used to be. I bruise quite beautifully if I move my furniture in the smallest way. On the other hand, it is also a reflection of our hearts, yes?
May yours continue to heal,
ClearSkies
Posted by Toph on August 15, 2005, at 20:19:10
In reply to Re: Threadbare Gracie » Toph, posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 17:04:01
> Feel free to supplement my threads anytime. They are pretty bare, lean, and void of substance these days.
>
> Nice to see you. Miss reading your posts.I've missed you a lot Gracie. There's nothing empty about you dear. You've laid everything out there on the table. Most everyone I know here loves you and hopes that you will find more contentment in your life. You are a delight to be around, even in your empty moments.
Posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 23:39:08
In reply to Re: Threadbare Gracie, posted by Toph on August 15, 2005, at 20:19:10
Toph.
Yes I have bared my soul, yet feel no better for doing so. Embarassed yes. Humiliated of course, but no peace is gained from revealing sins that cannot be forgiven or pain that cannot be erased.
I hurt so badly and even though there are some days I make it without crying a single tear, there are so many others that I do.
My foolish ideals of a better life filled with joy, peace and love is constantly squashed by daily living. It's too late really. I'm 40. By the time I get the nerve up to do something about my unhappiness, I won't look or feel good enough to put forth the effort.
Posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 23:40:58
In reply to Re: Rain Finally Came » AdaGrace, posted by Damos on August 15, 2005, at 16:45:16
I wish my dog was the man I once knew. Maybe then I wouldn't feel so foolish for holding her and crying.
Posted by Damos on August 16, 2005, at 1:04:00
In reply to Re: Rain Finally Came » Damos, posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 23:40:58
Mine sleeps at the foot of my bed in her own pile of pillows, and I don't feel at all foolish when I crawl down there and curl up with her and bawl my eyes out every now and then. Sometimes she just knows how I'm feeling and comes up my end and just rests a paw on my arm to let me know she's there.
Posted by Toph on August 16, 2005, at 7:28:59
In reply to Re: Threadbare Gracie, posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 23:39:08
Girlfriend, you're talking about a different kind of dog here. One that bites you in the *ss and tries to drag you down. I know that bite, it's hard to shake. But you've gotten free before and you can again. I have heard a song in your voice, here, just in your words. You are a playful, beautiful woman. I love dogs, but its time to put that dog down.
Posted by Toph on August 16, 2005, at 7:32:18
In reply to Re: Rain Finally Came » AdaGrace, posted by Damos on August 16, 2005, at 1:04:00
Posted by AdaGrace on August 17, 2005, at 9:27:34
In reply to Re: Threadbare Gracie, posted by Toph on August 16, 2005, at 7:28:59
Are you suggesting that my "dog" is not a physical tangible object that I cuddle with, but rather a psychotic state in which I revert to where I cuddle with the demons that haunt my soul?
If you answered yes to the above, then I can only say......."I resemble that remark"
Toph, you are right. So very right.
I have cut and pasted something that I was told yesterday. See if this rings true.
The following quote is in regards to a recent "row" between myself and a companion.
"Let's talk about that ball. Everytime something happens between us where I have to get stern, rude, or down right mean, it's like a piece of gum - which you stick together in a nice ball. And now you have a big ball of gum (hurt feelings, feelings of inadequacy, lonely feelings, etc.) that you carry around. You THINK you toss it away, but each time a new incident happens, your ball of gum is right there.""
However, I am disturbed by the abuseve nature of the "you did this, which caused me to do or say this" bullsh*t
AdaGrace
Posted by Toph on August 17, 2005, at 11:28:22
In reply to Re: Metaphorically Speaking » Toph, posted by AdaGrace on August 17, 2005, at 9:27:34
That must be why I always seem to have gum stuck to my shoes. My first wife used to preserve and store all of her dissappointments, hurts and resentments of me until one day she decided the cupboard was full and that was the end of it. My current partner is more likely to make me sleep on the couch for while until I've properly paid for my transgression. Then we somehow return to equilibrium. I don't know if its healthy but it seems to work for us.
Oh, and the dog analogy isn't mine. I'm told the "black dog" was Churchill's name for depression. Real dogs are for embracing, black dogs are for putting down.
Posted by AdaGrace on August 17, 2005, at 17:35:07
In reply to Re: Metaphorically Speaking » AdaGrace, posted by Toph on August 17, 2005, at 11:28:22
Seems remotely satanistic to me.
Does the dog have long sharp fangs, and gooey saliva dripping off his protruded tongue?
Posted by AdaGrace on August 17, 2005, at 17:39:14
In reply to Re: Metaphorically Speaking » AdaGrace, posted by Toph on August 17, 2005, at 11:28:22
But if a man (or woman for that matter) never recognizes that they spit the chewed up gum at your face, and they keep spitting it at you, are you supposed to just stand there and hope that some of the gum doesn't stick, but rather falls to the ground for someone else to step on?
It's the same piece of gum Toph.
It keeps coming at me. I keep standing there feeling it hit my face and I think I am human in my response to request that the gum be spat in another direction.
But of course, I do bring up old stuff all the time. I harbor grudges. I can't forget. And in reality, I can't forgive. Yet, I don't seem to be walking in the other direction either.
Posted by AdaGrace on August 17, 2005, at 17:41:47
In reply to Re: Rain Finally Came » AdaGrace, posted by Damos on August 16, 2005, at 1:04:00
I am not allowed to sleep with my dog. Hense my ever popular couch for bedtime. Nobody likes my dog like I do. Nobody wants to even try to help take care of her. I should have never gotten her, because I am never home anymore.
Work has consumed me like the Alien.
Posted by Toph on August 17, 2005, at 21:45:43
In reply to Re: Gumshoe » Toph, posted by AdaGrace on August 17, 2005, at 17:39:14
> I don't seem to be walking in the other direction either.
Leaving's a choice, so is sticking around. Then there's keeping an eye out for something better in the mean time. Some might say its cowardly to stay in an unhealthy relationship until something better comes along. Then call me a coward, cause that's what I did. I call myself fortunate.
Posted by AdaGrace on August 19, 2005, at 22:59:10
In reply to Rain Finally Came, posted by AdaGrace on August 15, 2005, at 8:40:45
Well here's a thread that I just whined to death and killed.
This is the end of the thread.
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