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Posted by Susan47 on June 23, 2005, at 20:56:46
is better than never to have loved at all. Something like that.. Shakespeare? I used to think of that and think it was the saddest thing I ever heard. That the one who's lost, is forever living in grief, and pain. But now I've been there, I'm on the other side of the road looking back at where I was, and I can see it now, that this is actually a joyful way of being. Losing isn't what matters, being alone, being without the loved one. What matters and what makes everything okay is the forever love you feel, that keeps going.. because losing, not having what you love, makes every life moment from thereon in, more poignant, each moment more fully felt. Who wrote that? Because it's brilliant, absolutely brilliant. It looks sad on the outside but it's full of joy and wonder, on the inside.
Posted by crazyteresa on June 23, 2005, at 21:31:27
In reply to An Expression of Joy... To have loved and lost, posted by Susan47 on June 23, 2005, at 20:56:46
Posted by partlycloudy on June 24, 2005, at 7:36:15
In reply to An Expression of Joy... To have loved and lost, posted by Susan47 on June 23, 2005, at 20:56:46
Yes, it adds to our experiences, and that's something that can never be taken away. I think of experience as a richness that gives us depth and complexity; nooks and crannies. I want to be interesting, not just happy, you know?
I feel like I'm earning my grey hairs and happy and sad wrinkles. I wouldn't really want to back in time, because I'd lose my perspective.
Posted by Susan47 on June 25, 2005, at 20:28:26
In reply to WOW! Never thought of it like that! (nm), posted by crazyteresa on June 23, 2005, at 21:31:27
Posted by Susan47 on June 25, 2005, at 20:30:41
In reply to Re: An Expression of Joy... To have loved and lost » Susan47, posted by partlycloudy on June 24, 2005, at 7:36:15
No I wouldn't want to be back in time either, but I could sure as hell do without the signs of aging. I HATE IT.
Posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 21:45:17
In reply to An Expression of Joy... To have loved and lost, posted by Susan47 on June 23, 2005, at 20:56:46
Our third daughter was stillborn (cord accident) and I thought I would die from grief. I'm still here, and my life is so much richer because I had Holly. Even though she never took a breath, she taught me more about life through death than any of my other kids have.
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Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 22:54:09
In reply to Re: An Expression of Joy... To have loved and lost » Susan47, posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 21:45:17
That might be a different kind of grief. But maybe the results are the same, sometimes? Bitter, then bittersweet, the sweet and the bitter together make everything so richly textured, everything that comes after. And you still have times, maybe, when you just sob, the grief comes as though the wound happened yesterday, it's consuming and intense and inescapable.
Posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 23:12:03
In reply to Re: An Expression of Joy... To have loved and lost, posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 22:54:09
Sounds the same to me.
Posted by Susan47 on June 29, 2005, at 19:01:08
In reply to Re: An Expression of Joy... To have loved and lost » Susan47, posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 23:12:03
It's amazing, incredible, that such different experiences can lead to similar results, that awakening comes in so many different forms. It's exciting to know that, too, because it means that in our lives as long as we're open it it, the opportunity for awakening is endless! And that each awakening, if we remember it well and take it with us always, brings us much closer to a certain ease, a peace with living.
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