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Posted by Deneb on June 8, 2005, at 19:34:20
If so, please kindly let me know. :-)
I forget sometimes that other people do not feel the way I do. My cheerfulness and jesting is not intented to make anyone feel badly. I remember people saying once that being around happy people can make one feel more depressed. I really hope I'm not doing that. I really am learning how to behave here. Sometimes things are not obvious to me. So, just let me know if I'm being annoying. :-)Deneb (Shy_Girl)
Posted by Pamela R on June 8, 2005, at 20:10:12
In reply to Am I getting annoying?, posted by Deneb on June 8, 2005, at 19:34:20
Well, obviously I can only speak for myself and I just got here, but I will say no, you are not annoying. I have heard and somewhat agree to what you are referring to about others but I think that;s only when they are OVERLY cheerful, to the point where it seems fake anyway. i do not get that impression from you. :)
> If so, please kindly let me know. :-)
> I forget sometimes that other people do not feel the way I do. My cheerfulness and jesting is not intented to make anyone feel badly. I remember people saying once that being around happy people can make one feel more depressed. I really hope I'm not doing that. I really am learning how to behave here. Sometimes things are not obvious to me. So, just let me know if I'm being annoying. :-)
>
> Deneb (Shy_Girl)
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 21:35:19
In reply to Am I getting annoying?, posted by Deneb on June 8, 2005, at 19:34:20
> If so, please kindly let me know. :-)
Let me ask you. Was I annoying when I was smart-alecky with your raccoon and kitty thread?
> I forget sometimes that other people do not feel the way I do. My cheerfulness and jesting is not intented to make anyone feel badly. I remember people saying once that being around happy people can make one feel more depressed. I really hope I'm not doing that. I really am learning how to behave here. Sometimes things are not obvious to me. So, just let me know if I'm being annoying. :-)
>
> Deneb (Shy_Girl)Lar the Geek
Posted by Deneb on June 8, 2005, at 22:01:52
In reply to Re: Am I getting annoying? » Deneb, posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 21:35:19
> Let me ask you. Was I annoying when I was smart-alecky with your raccoon and kitty thread?
> Lar the Geek
Nope, it was hilarious! Made me LOL and almost make beeping noises. :-)Deneb
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 22:25:57
In reply to Re: Am I getting annoying? » Larry Hoover, posted by Deneb on June 8, 2005, at 22:01:52
> > Let me ask you. Was I annoying when I was smart-alecky with your raccoon and kitty thread?
> > Lar the Geek
>
> Nope, it was hilarious! Made me LOL and almost make beeping noises. :-)
>
> DenebGood! Great, even.
Now, why do you judge yourself more harshly than you do me?
Immediately following my question to you, still shown above, there was some more of what you originally posted:
"My cheerfulness and jesting is not intented (sic) to make anyone feel badly."It's a good exercise, sometimes, to compare your self-talk to that you offer others. I think you are sometimes stricter (more biased?) with yourself than you are with me, for example.
Lar
Posted by Deneb on June 9, 2005, at 9:41:56
In reply to Re: Am I getting annoying? » Deneb, posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 22:25:57
>I think you are sometimes stricter (more biased?) with yourself than you are with me, for example.
>
> LarWow Lar, did anyone ever tell you you sure have a lot of insight into things? I wish I did as well...it seems like magic.
P.S. Your raccoon and cat joke did somewhat made me think about what my joking around does...perhaps it was a little unexpected, but it was funny all the same! I just can't believe you could link that to what I said later about being annoying...even I couldn't do that.
I'm just amazed by your insight. :-)
Deneb
Posted by justyourlaugh on June 10, 2005, at 0:26:15
In reply to Am I getting annoying?, posted by Deneb on June 8, 2005, at 19:34:20
no one feels like you..no one feels like me?
do not group us like a group...
do not feel you are on the outside...you are 1 of us...feel..vent...jest..
j
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 10, 2005, at 12:41:25
In reply to Re: Am I getting annoying? » Larry Hoover, posted by Deneb on June 9, 2005, at 9:41:56
> >I think you are sometimes stricter (more biased?) with yourself than you are with me, for example.
> >
> > Lar
>
> Wow Lar, did anyone ever tell you you sure have a lot of insight into things?It's been said, once or twice before.
> I wish I did as well...it seems like magic.
I've ridden the Earth around the Sun a few more times than you have. That adds up.
I've had a lot of therapy. I've read a lot of books. I've done a lot of thinking. I've done a lot of thinking about thinking.
Cognition has a profound effect on how you feel. And you can have a profound effect on cognition.
Wisdom isn't wisdom unless it's passed along. I don't own it, and what I have I've borrowed.
Recovery. Coping. Management. Whatever you want to call what you do to smoothe the rough edges of existence, you find it where you find it. One hope is to find it in a concentrated form, in a therapist's office. But it's all around you.> P.S. Your raccoon and cat joke did somewhat made me think about what my joking around does...perhaps it was a little unexpected, but it was funny all the same! I just can't believe you could link that to what I said later about being annoying...even I couldn't do that.
Yet.
It's a very small word, but a very powerful one.
> I'm just amazed by your insight. :-)
>
> DenebI'm glad. I like hearing about other people's light bulb moments. My words would be meaningless, without your own willingness to consider them in your own context. The insight was yours.
Lar
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