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Posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 0:10:58
Something needs to change in my life...I need a boost. I have the life experience of a small child...I've never been on my own. I cannot even drive, I hope I can finally learn and get my license this summer. I hate cars though...I hate polluting the environment...but driving is a must in this society.
I thought about just travelling today...just heading out with a backpack, sleeping bag and map. Maybe I'll hitchhike! I want to visit California again...where I was born. I left when I was 11 yrs old. I can't believe I've been in Canada so long and I still haven't applied for citizenship yet! I really should...if I want to travel. I need to renew my US passport. I need to get out of the rut I'm in...I'm in the middle of nowhere...I need to get some perspective on life. Maybe that is what is causing my "affliction."
I got super excited just thinking about travelling...I felt like jumping with joy...bubbly...I want to experience an adventure!
Hmmmm...right now, I'm not doing anything...I'm stuck. I'm afraid to start things...afraid of school, afraid of working. I need to prove to myself that I can do things...I need to travel....not travel like tourists...travel like a traveller...not knowing where I'll end up. If I can do that, I'm sure I'll know that I can do anything I want to in life.
Maybe I should start right now. Maybe I should get my passport renewed tomorrow and apply for Canadian citizenship immediately (can I re-enter Canada with only my Landed Immigrant Papers???) It's wierd how I can be myself in this on-line forum. I haven't been here long, but I already feel like I want to meet people in person here. I'm actually quite bold when it comes to meeting people who are online IRL...I met my first and only boyfriend online and then very quickly IRL. Conversing with the astronomy club online also lead to me actually heading out with them IRL. It is a little ackward at first because you really don't know people until you've met them in person. The way I figure it is that once people meet IRL, it is easier to relate to them online.
Hehe, tonight, I have the fantasy of hitchhiking my way to Chicago to meet some of you guys and then hitchhiking my way West until I reach California. I'll stay there a while. I'll then head north to British Columbia and then east back to Ontario. I'll pass through many states and provinces and I'll have a grand adventure! Maybe I'll work along the way. Maybe I'll live in youth hostels, or sleep out in the open road. I'm sure I'll find some great dark skies. I'll observe the heavens with a pair of binoculars and a star map.
Hmmm...problem is, if I travel this way, I'll surely look like a bum when I meet you guys. LOL
Posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 0:16:50
In reply to Thinking of travelling, posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 0:10:58
Posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 0:23:44
In reply to Thinking of travelling, posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 0:10:58
Hmmm...the b*m I used is meant to mean "vagrant."
That definition is not vulgar.However, there is another definition for b*m that is *sometimes* vulgar...but not "often" vulgar as with the word f*rt
So, what's the call here? Vulgar or not? Does degree matter? or alternate definitions for a word (forget what that's called).
Posted by alexandra_k on May 16, 2005, at 1:16:29
In reply to Re: Question about vulgar words..., posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 0:23:44
It'll either get asterisked automatically or it won't. We don't have to worry about it.
I wish I could come with you.
I would love to travel around like that.
Lots of visitors to NZ do that.
Just hitchhike around the country.
They see more than I ever have in two weeks.
Why don't I go do that?
Because Im chicken of going by myself...
I wish I could come with you.
But it is a long swim :-)
Posted by rainbowbrite on May 16, 2005, at 6:36:09
In reply to Thinking of travelling, posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 0:10:58
that sounds like a great idea Shy_girl!! But I would avoid hitchhiking and sleeping on the streets. You can get some last minute cheap flights or take buses. it would definately be an independent experience, but at the hostel you would meet tons of people I bet. Sounds fun!!
Rain
Posted by rainbowbrite on May 16, 2005, at 6:39:37
In reply to Re: Question about vulgar words..., posted by alexandra_k on May 16, 2005, at 1:16:29
>>Why don't I go do that?
Because Im chicken of going by myselfOMG I think I am too, but I may give it a try LOL ;-)
Posted by TamaraJ on May 16, 2005, at 10:21:05
In reply to Thinking of travelling, posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 0:10:58
Travelling sounds like a lot of fun!!! Even seeing the country you live in on a budget can be fun. Hitchhiking to do it, well. . . When I was a teen, from about 13 - 17, I hitchhiked almost everywhere. We were living in a place that really didn't have much public transportation, so it really was the only way my friends and I could get around and do the things we wanted to do. But, there were a couple of scary experiences, and I was glad when at those times that I hadn't been hitchhiking alone that day. So, personally, in this day in age, I would think twice about the hitchhiking. But, there are options to travel cheaply and have a non-tourist experience. The train has very good rates for students and specials for cross-country travel. Even the bus isn't too bad. And, you can usually find youth hostels to stay in that don't cost much money.
Tamara
Posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 14:48:46
In reply to Re: Question about vulgar words..., posted by alexandra_k on May 16, 2005, at 1:16:29
> I wish I could come with you.
> I would love to travel around like that.
> Lots of visitors to NZ do that.
> Just hitchhike around the country.
> They see more than I ever have in two weeks.
> Why don't I go do that?
> Because Im chicken of going by myself...
> I wish I could come with you.
> But it is a long swim :-)I wish you could come with me too! I'm afraid of heading out on my own as well, even though I usually prefer to be alone. I wouldn't mind at all if you could join me though. :-)
Posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 15:00:42
In reply to Thinking of travelling, posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 0:10:58
I don't think I would ever have the guts to actually hitchhike. :-P Heck, I hardly have the courage to order food at a restaurant. Ideally, my life would involve as little talking as possible.
I think it's strange that I'm pretty social here, not to mention affectionate. IRL, I'm not very social at all and hugs make me extremely uncomfortable. I like to do things alone. I like seeing movies alone (friends make me unable to relax and get into the movie). I like to go shopping by myself...I like not having to worry about where the other person wants to go.
If I were to travel, I would probably plan things out quite a bit first. I'll take the train or bus. I think I'll be a nervous wreck the whole time. I can't sleep in unfamilar surroundings. Sigh...it is only a fantasy. I should probably start small...like taking the bus to one place and back. That would be an adventure for me!
Posted by alesta on May 16, 2005, at 17:46:42
In reply to Re: Hitchhiking dangers, posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 15:00:42
> Heck, I hardly have the courage to order food at a restaurant.
sounds like you have social anxiety, possibly?
if so, that might explain the extraversion online and the introversion IRL. you might truly be an extravert (meaning, you don't really *prefer* being alone like an introvert would, but prefer it b/c of anxiety with people)...your post really reminds me of me..shy at times IRL, but oddly occasionally i'll have these extreme bursts of extraversion, expecially at parties...i'm a bonified party animal (maybe the alcohol has something to do with it, lol..in fact, i *know* it does..) well, just speculating...you could be an introvert..maybe i'm speaking more for myself? and maybe i should stop psychoanalyzing..:)
amy:)
p.s. yeah, yeah, i'm still here..:)
Posted by rainbowbrite on May 16, 2005, at 18:45:25
In reply to Re: Hitchhiking dangers, posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 15:00:42
it could actually be a very therapuetic experience for you. Have you ever thought of one those group trips? Group trips with people of a certain age group and they plan your schedule for you etc. It is a great way to meet people and find yourself.
Just an idea.
Posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 20:25:30
In reply to Re: Hitchhiking dangers » Shy_Girl, posted by rainbowbrite on May 16, 2005, at 18:45:25
> it could actually be a very therapuetic experience for you. Have you ever thought of one those group trips?
Hmmm...interesting...no actually, I've never really thought of that. It would probably be a lot safer than just heading out on my own. It would be a little scary, being with people. It sounds like a very fun experience. Wow, I can just imagine me going out on a trip...I would be soooo excited. I tend to get very excited about things! I would be literally jumping up and down with joy! Hehe, you guys should have seen me when I found out someone in my astronomy club was willing to drive me to see the Perseid Meteor shower last August. It wasn't a meteor storm...but boy was I excited! Unfortunately I was so excited, I totally forgot about a pdoc appt. that day! Yikes!
I was and still am very new to the whole camping experience. I wore a down jacket (it can get pretty darn cool at night in the middle of nowhere even during the summer) but I think the dew made it lose it's insulative properties. I think I was mildly hypothermic (couldn't stop shivering, stumbling a bit) by staying outdoors the whole night...but it was worth it! Eeeek...I love being out at night, camping out...it's soooo fun!
I love being me sometimes. My sister is not nearly as passionate about things as I am. I can't wait to do something really adventurous!
Maybe I'll look into that group trip thing. In fact, any trip anywhere right now would be extremely fun. Eeeek, I'm so excited right now just thinking about this! I wish you guys can see me so giddy with glee!
There are so many things I have to try! Everything is new and exciting to me! I wish someone could show me around and "make" me do some "crazy" things...maybe even go bungee jumping!
You know, I think I am an extrovert at heart! I certainly feel like exploding right now...wanting to share and interact. :-P
Posted by rainbowbrite on May 16, 2005, at 21:36:38
In reply to Re: Group Trips and exploding jenny :-P, posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 20:25:30
that is great you are feeling so good. There is so much out there to experience it is a shame not to enjoy it. If you really are interested in travelling that would be a great place to start. They have all kinds, biking tours, hiking tours, touristy trips etc. I may check one of those out this summer as well, maybe they have shopping tours LOL.
Posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 22:38:36
In reply to Re: Hitchhiking dangers » Shy_Girl, posted by alesta on May 16, 2005, at 17:46:42
> sounds like you have social anxiety, possibly?
Yep...I think I've had it my whole life. It gets pretty bad at times.
I'm glad you're still here :-) Please stay a while if you're feeling up to it. You have given me great comfort and advice. Thanks so much for being here.
Posted by alesta on May 16, 2005, at 22:57:26
In reply to Re: Social anxiety » alesta, posted by Shy_Girl on May 16, 2005, at 22:38:36
thanks jen :) i've had so many changes lately that i don't think leaving babble is such a good idea after all. i just keep sinking and sinking. wish i could borrow one of your happy moods!:) just kidding. there is like no warmth to my aura right now. i feel dead. i think it's just all piling up finally. taking me under. i know i'll be better tomorrow. nights are the worst for me, and i have good days and bad days. sorry to go on here..didn't mean to do that. i'm sure i'll bounce back in a couple days..but today was rotten.:) (smiley face for contrast)
as for the advice i've given ya, i now see that i could've probably condensed it....since i'm catching on as to how short these episodes are for you. (i've forgotten what it was like.) i think we're all learning something here.
you have a nice night.:) i'm still here for ya, of course!:)
take care :-)
amy
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