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Posted by mystic on May 27, 2004, at 21:47:12
In reply to Re: Sandy, posted by mystic on May 26, 2004, at 18:06:17
Ok this is rediculous I find myself checking many times a night to see if sandy has been on...does anyone know anything..and where the heck is Jlynne she hasnt been on much either..Helpppppp..where is sandy...mystic
Posted by LynneDa on May 28, 2004, at 10:16:23
In reply to RE:: Sandy, posted by mystic on May 27, 2004, at 21:47:12
Hi ladies -
I know, I agree we are probably ridiculous to worry, but...I checked the obituaries in the Halifax paper for the past week - no Sandy or Sandra with her particulars, thank goodness. I called a couple of the hospitals in Halifax and talked to the nurses on the mental health units - no 40-year old Sandy or Sandra was admitted there this week. They were very nice to let me know one way or the other, I know they're not really supposed to!
So, where is she? And where is jlynne? Anyone hear from either of them in Open?
~ Lynne
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Ok this is rediculous I find myself checking many times a night to see if sandy has been on...does anyone know anything..and where the heck is Jlynne she hasnt been on much either..Helpppppp..where is sandy...mystic
Posted by mystic on May 28, 2004, at 12:13:20
In reply to RE:: Sandy » mystic, posted by LynneDa on May 28, 2004, at 10:16:23
Hey Lynne..talked to Jlynne in open last night so she is ok...she said that she reads the posts but just hasnt posted lately..I yelled at her..hahha.. But still no Sandy..Thank you so much for looking and checking out possibles you are awsome...Mystic
Posted by LynneDa on May 28, 2004, at 12:47:05
In reply to RE::: Lynne, posted by mystic on May 28, 2004, at 12:13:20
Thanks for the update, tell her I said hi! I won't be on-line all weekend so talk to you Tuesday. Hope Sandy's okay. Have a good weekend Mystic!!
~ Lynne
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Hey Lynne..talked to Jlynne in open last night so she is ok...she said that she reads the posts but just hasnt posted lately..I yelled at her..hahha.. But still no Sandy..Thank you so much for looking and checking out possibles you are awsome...Mystic
Posted by SandyWeb on May 29, 2004, at 16:05:14
In reply to RE:: Sandy, posted by mystic on May 27, 2004, at 21:47:12
Posted by Simus on May 29, 2004, at 17:03:00
In reply to Don't worry about me (nm), posted by SandyWeb on May 29, 2004, at 16:05:14
Posted by mystic on May 29, 2004, at 17:40:26
In reply to (((Sandy))) Still praying for you... (nm), posted by Simus on May 29, 2004, at 17:03:00
Posted by partlycloudy on May 30, 2004, at 7:53:16
In reply to RE:: Sandy » mystic, posted by LynneDa on May 28, 2004, at 10:16:23
You can't abandon me in our book club - how about we do a sentence at a time? That's about all I can muster right now.
(((((Sandy))))
(I looked at all the Halifax news, too. Thanks for checking in with us.)
Posted by mystic on May 30, 2004, at 22:52:08
In reply to Re: Sandy, posted by SandyWeb on April 8, 2004, at 15:08:38
sandy you know you can be alusive and that is fine we have tried everything that we can and we love you we accept how you are ..but you know the the only thing is that we dont deserve to be treated like this we want you to be ok and we are here to hear you but this is rediculous you have real -people here to help you and you dont want it you want to jerk us around and make us wonder day after day how you are ..well you are loved and we are here but enough is enough...I hope that you are doing good but i want to suceed and you dont so let it be...I'm sorry that i might be the only one that will say that but let us help you and if you dont want it let us go..take care of yourself and i hope that life is good to you but i have my own stuff to do....luvya and hope to hear from you soon..but take care mystic
Posted by SandyWeb on May 30, 2004, at 23:41:07
In reply to Re: Sandy, posted by mystic on May 30, 2004, at 22:52:08
I'm sorry I hurt you, Mystic.
I'm surprised that you all didn't kick me before this point. I really, really deserve it. I am a very callous, unfeeling, self-absorbed person for not having been more attentive to your needs.
This past week has been enormously draining on me. And it just is too much to share because all I do is take and take.....and never give back to you. And I'm not very pleased with the type of person I am.
It's just too much. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I NEVER EVER meant to hurt any of you. I was overwhelmed that anyone even wanted to walk this course with me!!! And I thank you for sticking with me for so long.
I'm not a good person, I know that. I'm very selfish, and I took you all for granted. It just was too much to keep writing to you all about "poor little me"....and I never had the energy to actually give back anything in return. I feel like a louse.
I feel sick to my stomach. I never meant to hurt you. I thought I was sparing you all by not sending messages anymore. I didn't expect to still be here today. I thought it would have been over last week. And I really can't stand being such a failure. And I'm sorry for hurting you.
So I guess we should close up shop now. I know you all need support, and I'm dragging you down. I can't seem to do it right...whether I talk or remain silent...I end up causing problems for you all.
I *am* sorry. But this is what I do....I mess up. All my life. Forever more.
Time to go to bed. I wish you all the best!! I really do.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by SandyWeb on May 30, 2004, at 23:50:45
In reply to Re: Sandy » mystic, posted by SandyWeb on May 30, 2004, at 23:41:07
I think we should close this thread, okay?
Something will happen, and people will end up getting hurt. Let's just all distance ourselves from me, okay? I don't think it would end up with a healthy outcome.
Sorry guys. Thanks for the support. I do mean that. But I also mean it about closing the thread. I don't think it's a good idea for any of us anymore. You don't need this in your lives.
If I ever get healthy, I'll pop back in and say "hi".
Thanks so much!!
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by mystic on May 31, 2004, at 0:17:58
In reply to Let's Close This Thread, posted by SandyWeb on May 30, 2004, at 23:50:45
I just cant understand why anyone would not take the help when it is right there to be taken...you have so many people that want to help you and try to make things better for you..there are so many people that worry about you and want to make things better for you i just dont understand...
Posted by partlycloudy on May 31, 2004, at 6:39:28
In reply to Let's Close This Thread, posted by SandyWeb on May 30, 2004, at 23:50:45
No way jose!! I have a vested interested here, Sandy!! You're a friend whom I don't want walking away just because you don't feel up to it.
We're here when you're down. We're here to help prop you up, propell you forward. I won't be so easily disuaded.
And what about the freaking book club???!!!
Posted by Zena on May 31, 2004, at 9:06:12
In reply to Re: Sandy, posted by mystic on May 30, 2004, at 22:52:08
Mystic,
You can't help someone who doesn't want help. I agree with your post 100 percent. I've thought it for a long time but didn't post it. Hang in there. You didn't fail Sandy. Sandy failed Sandy. Sometimes I think she does it for attention. Just a thought.!!!
Zena
Posted by EmmyS on May 31, 2004, at 9:20:55
In reply to Re: Sandy, posted by Zena on May 31, 2004, at 9:06:12
How we react to Sandy posting or not posting is OUR issue. We can imagine she is happy, or we can imagine the worst. We can get angry at her or we can pray for her. But that's our issue to deal with...not to dump in public on Sandy. She's got enough to deal with in her own life.
People come here for support. It's their right to post or not post. It's up to us to deal with that however we can. Lean on each, pray, come to Open and vent, etc.
But here, where Sandy is reading this, gosh,...please do as my mother told me, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."
Emmy
Posted by SandyWeb on May 31, 2004, at 12:02:41
In reply to Re: Let's Close This Thread, posted by mystic on May 31, 2004, at 0:17:58
Guys,
You just don't get it. Whether I'm talking or being silent, it seems I don't do anything but upset you. This should never have happened in the first place.
I am not looking for HELP. I am not looking to be RESCUED. I am not looking for ATTENTION. I am not looking for SOLUTIONS.
I am already DEAD. The only thing left is to follow through on the details. I do NOT want to stay here. All I do is SLEEP and SLEEP and SLEEP. And when I'm awake, all I do is DRINK and POP PILLS. Do you know my daughter got up the other night and found me "asleep" in the livingroom chair, holding onto a pill bottle?? I don't even remember that! I've lost hours and days....I can't remember what I've done. And when my mind IS working, the only thoughts I have are to finish it NOW.
The last straw is OVER. I've been dead for the past week. It makes me MAD that you won't leave me alone. What do I have to do to get you to walk away?? Yell at me...I don't care. I'm used to that. You can't hurt me. I'm already DEAD, DEAD, DEAD!!! ARGH!!!!!!!!!! Just go back to your own business.
I am so TIRED!!!!!!!!!!!! Everything is falling apart. And I can't do this for one more day. I feel like I'm walking around in the Twilight Zone.
Close the thread...PLEASE. My choice, my thread. Sorry I hurt and upset you all. I never was who you thought I was.
Sandra
Posted by EmmyS on May 31, 2004, at 12:21:57
In reply to Re: Let's Close This Thread, posted by SandyWeb on May 31, 2004, at 12:02:41
1) There is no such thing as a thread belonging to one person. All threads are open to all people. Like it or not, people can post their love and support to you. Ignore the grumps. They've got their own issues.
2) It's not possible to close a thread. They have a life of their own as long as me, and partlycloudy, and your other pals keep posting. And you can't stop us...nyah nyah. :-)
3) For the sake of your children, please call your cop friends, or any crisis number, or walk to the hospital. One too many pills and your daughter would have found you dead. She'd live with that memory forever, PTSD flashbacks forever.
Do something to shed light on your situation. It IS possible to find a shard of light in darkness.
Emmy
Posted by gardenergirl on May 31, 2004, at 12:27:47
In reply to Re: Let's Close This Thread, posted by EmmyS on May 31, 2004, at 12:21:57
Posted by Dr. Bob on May 31, 2004, at 22:49:34
In reply to Re: Let's Close This Thread, posted by EmmyS on May 31, 2004, at 12:21:57
> you want to jerk us around ... i want to suceed and you dont
>
> mystic> Sandy failed Sandy. Sometimes I think she does it for attention.
>
> Zena> Ignore the grumps. They've got their own issues.
>
> EmmySI know that these are tough situtations, but I still need to ask you all not to jump to conclusions about others or to post anything that could lead them to feel accused or put down.
If you have any questions or comments about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
or redirect a follow-up to Psycho-Babble Administration.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by SandyWeb on May 31, 2004, at 22:58:07
In reply to Re: please be civil » mystic » Zena » EmmyS, posted by Dr. Bob on May 31, 2004, at 22:49:34
It's okay.
I came on here tonight, and it's okay. Everyone is entitled. It's okay.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by EmmyS on May 31, 2004, at 23:47:22
In reply to Re: please be civil » mystic » Zena » EmmyS, posted by Dr. Bob on May 31, 2004, at 22:49:34
Sorry - my feathers got ruffled. Emmy
Posted by SandyWeb on June 1, 2004, at 0:13:28
In reply to Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob, posted by EmmyS on May 31, 2004, at 23:47:22
I appreciate it.
I don't do well for sticking up for myself. Thanks.
I love the ocean. I'm going to take a trek to the coastline tonight.
I want to be so far away from here. From me.
And if others think I'm a fraud....look at yourselves in the mirror tomorrow. I've been legit all along.
I lost the battle. But that's okay. Because it doesn't seem like I've lost.
Sorry for having hung around for so long. We don't die easily. But we do die.
Sandra
Posted by lonelygirl on June 1, 2004, at 0:26:21
In reply to Emmy, posted by SandyWeb on June 1, 2004, at 0:13:28
Sandy,
A few of us are in open right now... Please come on in if you want to chat. Hope to "talk" to you soon.
Posted by octopusprime on June 1, 2004, at 0:33:47
In reply to Emmy, posted by SandyWeb on June 1, 2004, at 0:13:28
Sandy,
I've not been keeping up on this thread but I've been hoping you were doing better.
There was a time in my life when I would have done exactly what you are thinking of doing.
There was a time in my life when I was the living dead, nothing but a f*cked up shell of myself in a puddle of booze and chemicals and I wanted to die. I thought I was a waste of resources, waste of space.
But even though I thought I wanted to be dead, I was wrong. I just *** didn't want to be the living dead any more ***
Sandy, do you see and understand the difference?
There are a lot of wonderful people here on this board that care about you, that will help you through this. Think about your kids.
There are options to getting through. You have to choose them.
Sandy I too was unemployed and in debt and thought I was never going to get out. I crawled out. But I made the choice.
Take somebody with you to the ocean tonight, ok?
Posted by EmmyS on June 1, 2004, at 0:38:18
In reply to Emmy, posted by SandyWeb on June 1, 2004, at 0:13:28
I think the sound of the ocean is cleansing, rejuvenating. For me, it washes away the past. It's like God gave us oceans to cleanse our minds of the past, to let us begin again. The ocean is a place of life, and new beginnings, Sandy. Go there if you need to be close to nature, to the feel the power and beauty of the gift of Life. It's a gift Sandy.
With love, Emmy
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