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Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:04:32
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:57:31
{{{ jlynne ))) thanks and I do have an ex husband but my life and situation now is different...I have no cash on my own and no job...dont think I can hold one right now....no place to go with all my pets so its stay till I have no other choice and we are so broke we lose all we have and then..whatever happens happens...What you said makes PERFECT SENSE it isnt workable for me...cause the only out is...a new dude with cash..or winning the lottery..or working THUS being WELL WITH NO ANXIETY AND FAST so I can work..I dont see any of that happening..sadly
Posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:19:57
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:04:32
Well, it sounds like you are working on a pretty important goal already - getting your anxiety under control, right?
How about this:
Goal #1: get anxiety under control
Goal #2: make a plan
There. Now you have a plan!
(((Here's to you!)))
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:26:49
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:19:57
lol well..i guess that is a plan in a way...but I think the cash will wear out well before I am anxiety free
((( jlynne worry not youre very sweet)))
> Well, it sounds like you are working on a pretty important goal already - getting your anxiety under control, right?
>
> How about this:
>
> Goal #1: get anxiety under control
>
> Goal #2: make a plan
>
> There. Now you have a plan!
>
> (((Here's to you!)))
>
> ...jlynne
Posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:30:40
In reply to Re: Fallen, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:26:49
Are neither of you working?
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:34:12
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:30:40
If that were the case I'd be gone :) He works and makes a lot of bank...but we spend even more :)
> Are neither of you working?
Posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:35:40
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:34:12
Credit debt??
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:56:01
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:35:40
Lol yes lots and a house payment over $1000.00 wow just so much....and we like to spend..its our own fault ..I just took a shower :-) God I have been lazy today
> Credit debt??
Posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 0:04:35
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:56:01
. . . guess you've probably already heard any advice I might be able to give, huh?
So, what is going to happen . . . are you for sure going to lose your house?
I was forced to sell a house once - years ago when my kids were small. It turned out to be a good thing for me - got me out of the town I was living in (bad influences).
Gosh, that was a lifetime ago. My kids have kids now!
((((life))))
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 0:10:28
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 0:04:35
Oh no we are right on time with the payments but we are often tight and can get behind on some bills....but no in no threat at all yet...Just seems we cannot go forever in debt like this. Things will work out one way or another...PLEASE DONT WORRY LOL...I Am cool I just wish I was free...I was happier when I lived alone
So what are you up to tonight just hanging in here like me...gosh its been like 8 hours I wish they paid me to hang in here..I could move..hahahaha its a full day today..I feel bad I was soooooo lazy today...AND YOU??
> . . . guess you've probably already heard any advice I might be able to give, huh?
>
> So, what is going to happen . . . are you for sure going to lose your house?
>
> I was forced to sell a house once - years ago when my kids were small. It turned out to be a good thing for me - got me out of the town I was living in (bad influences).
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> Gosh, that was a lifetime ago. My kids have kids now!
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> ((((life))))
>
> ...jlynne
Posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 0:33:54
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 0:10:28
I prefer being single, too [now]. But this is the first time in my life I have ever lived alone; I always had the kids when I was single before. My husband left me last summer after 17yrs together - no warning, just a note on my chair when I came home from work. That is why the severe depression now, tho I have suffered from chronic depression most of my life.
We had a really nice day today; sunny and warm. I slept until noon, but still got a lot of work done in the yard and did some cleaning in my garage. [I refinanced the house and bought my husband's interest in it when we divorced]
I have a little pond in the back yard that I built myself, and I cleaned out the pump today so now the waterfall is running a lot faster. I also got my auto sprinkler system turned back on - that is a chore I hate, cuz I have to reach way down in a hole to turn the handle and it's really hard to turn. But I did it - 'cuz "I AM WOMAN!" . . . I'm going to make the hole bigger this summer.
I like working in the yard and around the house, remodeling and stuff. I am not ready to start dating again yet, so I just keep myself busy with things like that.
Sometimes it gets to me, though, like . . . who the @#?! cares if anything gets done?? It has been almost impossible for me to invite anyone to my home since my husband left - so I wonder who I am doing all this work for?? That's only on bad days, though, and the bad days don't come as close together as they used to.
Geez . . . you really got me started. It must be getting pretty late for you, huh? It's only 10:30 pm here. Don't forget Daylight Savings tonight:)
((((yawn))))
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 0:44:37
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 0:33:54
{{{{{{JLYNNE}}}}}}} Wow, I am glad you opened up for you and me cause I really didnt know your story at all I kinda ran into you on someone elses thread....and knew I liked you right off. I am so sorry on the husband ..what a horrible way to find out...Seems you have risen above it all..and you are very self-reliant ..I use to be I have lived alone a few times..one time I even had a home not just an apt...I AM a people p[erson but this man drags me down..if you ever read the psychology area you would see some reasons why...and I just dont care about him anymore. Your place sounds cool and you know, you do it for YOU..I hope anyhow....when I had my own place I had it all redone..for ME...and enjoyed it..I love to sleep late and wish I still had the peace of mind to do so without meds like I did before HIM..UGH
HUGS ..SOOM BED..I THINK :)
Posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 1:04:47
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 0:44:37
Well, Fallen, I don't know how old you are, but I hope you find what you are looking for before you are my age. It is really hard to start over again now . . .
How long have you been treating for anxiety? Are you seeing improvement? (questions, questions)
If you read this tonight, you don't have to answer tonight - I know you need to go to bed:~)
Sleep well:~)
...jlynne
Posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 5:35:23
In reply to Trucker, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 21:35:38
yep! slept a long time
trucker
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> Catskills, eh? Isn't that where ole Rip lived??
>
> ...jlynne
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Posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 5:44:46
In reply to Hey, Trucker, where'd you go?, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:04:12
i don't think so, allot of peaks between here and there
trucker
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> I went to a place called High Point in New Jersey a few years ago and stood at the top where I could see the three corners of New Jersey, Pennsylvania and New York. Do you suppose I could see the Catskill Mountains from there?
>
> ...jlynne
Posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 5:59:47
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:35:40
file bankruptcychapter 13
trucker///////////////////////////////////////////
> Credit debt??
Posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 6:03:45
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:56:01
chapter 13 you pay a percentage of your unsecured debt as low as 5% maybe. payments on things you are behind on go into a plan. and you make smaller payments chapter 7 is liquidation get rid of everything all debt. they can try and let you keep a car and the house if the judge lets ya...
trucker
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> Lol yes lots and a house payment over $1000.00 wow just so much....and we like to spend..its our own fault ..I just took a shower :-) God I have been lazy today
>
> > Credit debt??
>
>
Posted by Dinah on April 4, 2004, at 8:42:00
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:04:32
I'm kind of in the same place as you are, regarding work not husband. I don't like it. OK, I hate it. But I doubt my ability to find another job that fits my special emotional needs (how's that for saying one where my instability won't get me fired) and that will pay enough to go to therapy.
But every once in a while a still small voice asks if it isn't true that the majority of my anxiety is *caused* by my job, and if I found one that wasn't so stressful I wouldn't melt down so often or (heaven forbid) need as much therapy.
Could the same thing be true with your husband? That you wouldn't be so anxious and would be more able to work if you were away from a bad situation?
Of course, having that insight hasn't caused me to quit my job, and in fact I'm heading off there now. :(
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 20:19:51
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 1:04:47
Yes I see a T and am on benzos for anxiety from my family doc for years. I can go a long time no meds no anxiety then crash..I crashed a couple years ago and still have some issues with sleep and well, life....and thanks :)
> Well, Fallen, I don't know how old you are, but I hope you find what you are looking for before you are my age. It is really hard to start over again now . . .
>
> How long have you been treating for anxiety? Are you seeing improvement? (questions, questions)
>
> If you read this tonight, you don't have to answer tonight - I know you need to go to bed:~)
>
> Sleep well:~)
>
> ...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 20:21:33
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 5:59:47
Thanks..I wouldn't mind the Chapter 13 but hubby wont go for it :-/
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 20:24:48
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by Dinah on April 4, 2004, at 8:42:00
I honestly don't know Dinah its like a catch 22 situation sadly...plus I need his medical insurance
> I'm kind of in the same place as you are, regarding work not husband. I don't like it. OK, I hate it. But I doubt my ability to find another job that fits my special emotional needs (how's that for saying one where my instability won't get me fired) and that will pay enough to go to therapy.
>
> But every once in a while a still small voice asks if it isn't true that the majority of my anxiety is *caused* by my job, and if I found one that wasn't so stressful I wouldn't melt down so often or (heaven forbid) need as much therapy.
>
> Could the same thing be true with your husband? That you wouldn't be so anxious and would be more able to work if you were away from a bad situation?
>
> Of course, having that insight hasn't caused me to quit my job, and in fact I'm heading off there now. :(
Posted by mystic on April 4, 2004, at 21:10:56
In reply to Redirected Lexaproers, posted by jlynne on March 13, 2004, at 1:31:16
Hey everyone..pretty quiet in here tonight..I see some newbes....Welcome newbes hope we can help!!...jlynne how are you today hope you are doing well....Mag how are you havnt heard from you in a couple days..are you still planning your increase tomorrow??...we will be here for you....EM honey where you been havent heard from you alllll day...a little worried about you!!!...Lynne you havent been around either but think that you are in nashville...Lexy my friend how is today going for you..havent heard from you hopefully you are getting some sleep or relaxing I hope that you feel good today Im' thinking of you....Well hope everyone is doing well...I have 2 more days until I go back to have those spots checked from the mamogram...Kinda freeking tonight but usually do on sunday nights anyway...>I will catch up to everyone later..thinking of you allllll..>!!!>!>>>!and good luck to the newbes...Mystic
Posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 21:57:31
In reply to Re: Fallen » trucker, posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 20:21:33
hate to say this but maybe you should file hubruptcy too! a thought. and i'm not one to recomend that either but maybe a vacation away from each other would be good...
trucker
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> Thanks..I wouldn't mind the Chapter 13 but hubby wont go for it :-/
Posted by Magdalena on April 4, 2004, at 23:04:00
In reply to RE:: Hello Everyone, posted by mystic on April 4, 2004, at 21:10:56
hey all i am increasing tomorrow..pretty nervous and i have to work at night so i hope it all goes ok. my moods have been out of whack the last couple of days im not sure why. I applied for school and i am still waiting to see if i got in, i really hope i do! It would make me feel better about myself, getting somewhere i want to be.
Mysic i know what you mean about Sunday nights theres this undeniable feeling of 'doom' that settles in once the sun goes down and sometimes its very hard to shake.I think excersice will help so i plan on bringing my rollerblades out of the closet and learning how to use them (properly) once and for all!! lol.
Jlynne i hope you are feeling alright, i went to Walmart yet couldnt find those sheets:( Maybe Canadian Wal-Marts dont carry them. I guess i should have asked but there was WAY too many people in there so i had to mainly focus on not walking in to things and not freaking out and running out, lol...no im serious, that store is way to insane for someone who gets panic attacks in crowds.
anyway hope you all have a goodnite i am going to settle in to comfy PJ's and read my book until i get sleepy and pass out.
wish me luck on my increase and i will let you guys know how my first day went.
Goodnite and sweetdreams to all.
Mag
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 23:05:10
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 21:57:31
Thanks Trucker but he will not go for it and man I could use a vacation from him ..I mentioned going to go see a friend out of state recently and he said ...no way..he would come get me. It will work out...I am where I am at by choice for now... :-)
Posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 23:25:52
In reply to Re: Trucker » jlynne, posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 5:35:23
Trucker, I found this site on the internet. It is a photo of the view of NY from High Point State Park in NJ. I am wondering if maybe those are the Catskill Mts in the distance?? Take a look:~)
http://community.webshots.com/photo/61289085/61298551fqNvfC
...jlynne
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