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Posted by jay on March 23, 2004, at 20:36:25
Oh man...tonight I went to the drugstore to pick up a refill..and they have a new pharm assistant. My GAWDD!! Ohhh so yum yum. :-) But more than that...like I wanted to drop to my knees and profess my eternal desire for her. Beautiful natural looking blonde...blue eyes that melted into me....such a sweet wonderland of a body. But...I saw some rings on particular fingers..:-( I know...this sounds superficial...but men are allowed to dream too. Then I got thinking of all the girlfriends from my past....and ya, I got lonely...AGAIN!!!! Once again...this illness has to be one of the lonliest in the world. I’ve really, really realized this in the past 6-7 or so years since I’ve been heavily medicated. Atleast I know I still have that “urning” in me..my sex drive fully intact...vrrrrmmmm! :-) Dress me up nice....and I can still pass for a guy in my mid twenties even though I am in my mid thirties. :-)
<Sigh>
Jay
Posted by Karen_kay on March 23, 2004, at 22:17:49
In reply to Spring Fever and Sexy Women..., posted by jay on March 23, 2004, at 20:36:25
jay, you young dog you. glad to see you still have it in you. And what about those handsome older men with the greying hair and the sports cars that just drive the young ladies crazy? Doctors and lawyers and Obgyns, OH MY!
Posted by jay on March 23, 2004, at 23:10:52
In reply to Re: Spring Fever and Sexy Women... » jay, posted by Karen_kay on March 23, 2004, at 22:17:49
Well...thanx so much Karen. :-) I also have to say....I *love* ‘mature’ women...especially ones in their early to mid fourties...like I am in deep lust with Meg Ryan. :-) Now comes the part where the socially phobic me has to *get out*...take on the world and take many, many more chances. Finding a soulmate (or even just a few ‘flings to start;-) is what I *need*. Like a friend of mine who knows my story...said I just need to get out there and get....ummm...well you get the idea..heh. Sorry..I don’t mean to be lewd or rude. Maybe I will try one of those “dating phone services”. I wuz a vewy bad body one summer, about ten years ago at 24, and placed an ad on one of those phone dating lines, and let’s just say I was very busy. :-) But, that’s not really what I want now...so a fair bit in me has changed. Something does feel much better, overall, this year than the past 6-7 or so...as I haven’t felt or spoken like this since. It seems to be a nice, well controlled hypomania of sorts. Nothing out of hand.
Peace and best..:-)
Jay
Posted by tabitha on March 24, 2004, at 0:10:20
In reply to Spring Fever and Sexy Women..., posted by jay on March 23, 2004, at 20:36:25
I hear you Jay. I get the same thing every spring. You know how some people notice the first robin and that says spring to them? I notice my first crush on a starbucks employee or video store clerk. This year it's a cute starbucks guy with red hair. He's so adorable, and I swear he's flirting with me (or wishful thinking here). Spring is here!
Now if only I could find someone actually appropriate to date...
Posted by Elle2021 on March 24, 2004, at 3:23:07
In reply to Re: Spring Fever and Cute Young Guys..., posted by tabitha on March 24, 2004, at 0:10:20
Ah yes...I was noticing the same thing. Spring comes and I already have a new crush. :) I love spring.
Elle :)
Posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 12:27:50
In reply to Re: Spring Fever and Sexy Women... » Karen_kay, posted by jay on March 23, 2004, at 23:10:52
Jay,
You seem to get your point across nicely here on Babble. Why not start out on one of those phone things again? I'm not familiar with them, so I'm not exactly sure with what's involved, but what's the harm? (Other than a large phone bill possibly??) Maybe that will help you get back into the swing of things again and help ease the sp a bit? What do you think about that suggestion? You just sound like too sweet a man to let your charm go to waste, if you don't mind my saying so. Or, you could always be like me and rely on your mouth. Sweet talking takes you pretty far. Or at least I've noticed that. I wish I had some wise words of wisdom for you Jay, but I just don't. I've never been sp in the least. Depressed, yes. SP, no. But, a little love (or, uh something else) would probably do you some good. I'm sure it's hard to take that chance. But, imagine how great it would be if you did find your soul mate out there. You never know until you start looking. I guess that's the hard part. You could practice on me if you like :)
Posted by jay on March 24, 2004, at 20:59:30
In reply to Re: Spring Fever and Sexy Women... » jay, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 12:27:50
Ahhhhh..well thank you so much Kk. :-) Ya, that is one thing, sometimes I do have the “gift of the gab”...and I am a deep romantic, and like to make great impressions.(Ironic for and SP'er, eh?..heh.) I went through a *lot* with my last “steady” girlfriend, which has been over 5 years ago. (Yes I’ve dated in between...but never enough!)
The first date we went on..it was June, and I *really* took to her, so I wanted to make a great impression. We took off early in the day, and walked and hiked a bit through a beautiful park/nature reserve, with waterfalls, gardens and trees. We talked..and talked...and talked. Then, I took her to Toronto, and we went up in the C.N. Tower, had a beautiful Italian dinner and drinks at a classy restaurant, and even did a bit of shopping. :-) By then it was late evening, so driving back towards home, I suggested a stop at a beautiful spot at a beach on Lake Ontario. Full stars out...moonlight...and a beautiful stroll. That turned into a 3 year relationship. So, that’s not too bad for a guy with SP, eh?..heh. Sorry..don’t mean to be nostalgic...and *not* egotistical...but I’d like to think I have always
treated women very, very well...with lots of respect. Oh...and in case you are wondering...yes I *am* over her...but it was a wonderful learning experience....and that includes the good, and the sometimes rough and bad. (P.S. I also never talk about an “ex” when on a date..just so you don’t think that is the case.)So what do you think? Do guys who are spontaneous and romantic impress you?How about other gals here? I know it isn’t always the case for many woman, as it seems, really, women are often the smart ones and like to take things very, very slowly. And no...I don’t mean being ‘romantic’ just to wind up in the sack on the second date..heh. :-) This question *always* intrigues me...as there are so many different answers out there from all sorts of woman. I’d also like to think that after surviving almost ten years of SP, major depression and anxiety, that I am proud of myself for keeping the ‘spark’ alive. I am also going to start getting back in better shape via exercise, the gym, etc. Not that I am too bad now....but I wanna look good in my ‘short-pants’ jeans and nice Tommy shirts fer da summer. I am gonna go back to my “military style” haircut of a buzz-cut, as it feels so good in the hot summer, and certain women seem to prefer that. (I am usually decked out in a baseball cap too...dressed up like a teenager, and I get asked for ID..heh.)
OK..I have *rambled* on wayyyy too long. Me shut up now. I may just take up your offer, though...:-)
Sincerely,
Jay
Posted by jay on March 24, 2004, at 21:01:12
In reply to Re: Spring Fever and Sexy Women..., posted by jay on March 24, 2004, at 20:59:30
Posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 21:40:43
In reply to Re: Spring Fever and Sexy Women..., posted by jay on March 24, 2004, at 20:59:30
You know jay, my old man's idea of romance was just stated with this perfect example. He asked if I was hungry, which I assume to mean "Fix me dinner" so I said no. I looked in the oven and saw something cooking and kissed him on the cheek and said, "Ah, are you fixing dinner?" to which he replied, "For me, and if you touch it, I'll break your fingers." He was only joking and will share dinner, but that's about all the romance I get. (And I honestly don't want anyone to think that my boyfriend is abusive in any way, it was only a joke, but that's his sense of humor. And lack of romance....)
Wow! I can't believe you remember the first date you went on with your last girlfriend. I can't remember the first date I went on with my boyfriend. I can't remember the last date we went on, perhaps I'm trying to forget it? You sound like a perfect gentleman. Could you give my boyfriend lessons? Can they be trained? Is he hopeless? Should I just give up you think?
I always enjoy it when men order for me, but maybe that's because I have a hard time deciding what to order. Except the cocktails. Ordering the wine is a must, but let me order my own cocktail. And opening the car door, and dropping me off at the door, pulling the car around, things like that. That's always very sweet. My boyfriend never does it. Then, after I walk 3 miles in the snow to the car, he'll mention, "Oh, I guess I could have pulled the car around for you." Well, yeah, I guess you could have. He does open doors for me though, always. At least he has some sort of manners. So, some sort of romance is very nice but I'm not used to it. I attended a wedding and a nice man held out his arm to show me to my seat and I thought he was trying to shake my hand. I just had a confused look on my face for a second. I then realized I was supposed to take his arm while he showed me to my seat and explained to him that my boyfriend is a caveman.
I suppose I'm a bit skeptical of that romance stuff anyway. I mean who really believes in it? I know there are 4 times a year that I get roses, and several times a year that I receive flowers. Other than that, I don't see any other signs of "romance." Does anyone else? Now I'm curious...
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2004, at 0:55:26
In reply to Speaking of romance..., posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 21:40:43
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