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Posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 13:49:23
i am so alone..
c just called and said he wont be home until late this week..
i want to drink myself away..
i have nothing in the house..
i dont know what to do with myself..
pace pace pace..
i am so angry i pushed everyone away that need,,
the beauty of hindsight..
i dont think getting a baby snail will help me today..
i am an empty pit.
Posted by noa on January 19, 2004, at 14:19:44
In reply to i need to talk to someone.., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 13:49:23
JYL
I wish I could do something to make it better! Does it help to know that when I come to PB I look for you? You've made me laugh, you've worried me, you've inspired me. All of the above.
Posted by Angielala on January 19, 2004, at 14:20:12
In reply to i need to talk to someone.., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 13:49:23
justyourlaugh... I am so sorry you are having a down day. being lonely on a down day is hard- but while you may be alone physically, I'm here virtually.
Rant to me, cry to me... babble to me.. get it all out if you want, I'm listening....
> i am so alone..
> c just called and said he wont be home until late this week..
> i want to drink myself away..
> i have nothing in the house..
> i dont know what to do with myself..
> pace pace pace..
> i am so angry i pushed everyone away that need,,
> the beauty of hindsight..
> i dont think getting a baby snail will help me today..
> i am an empty pit.
>
Posted by Karen_kay on January 19, 2004, at 14:31:09
In reply to i need to talk to someone.., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 13:49:23
(((jyl)))
But you have such a stylish hair cut!
I wish I could take away your loneliness. I'm sorry that you are feeling bad right now. I know how you feel. But I don't feel that way right now. Because of all the help I've gotten from the posters here. I wish I had the right words to say so that you weren't lonely or sad. But, I find that distraction helps. And it helps to talk (or write) about how I'm feeling. So please keep telling us, OK?
I'm sending you warm thoughts and shipping my doggie along with a bottle of perfume to help you feel better,
Karen
Posted by Dinah on January 19, 2004, at 14:58:45
In reply to i need to talk to someone.., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 13:49:23
(((((((((((((((((((JYL)))))))))))))))))))))))
Sorry, I have not one word of wisdom today. I've nothing but a cyberhug to offer you, so I made it a big one.
Posted by poet on January 19, 2004, at 15:01:16
In reply to i need to talk to someone.., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 13:49:23
JYL,
You're not an empty pit, you're a wonderful person full of support for me and other posters. I wish I could think of something to make you feel better.
I understand drinking to eliminate pain, it never works for me, but I do it anyway. My snails haven't reproduced, yet, or I'd mentally send a bunch of babies your way. I'm sending my koi and a full bag of koi pellets. Don't worry about over feeding.
Poet
Posted by Psychopoppy on January 19, 2004, at 15:15:43
In reply to i need to talk to someone.., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 13:49:23
Why not go treat yourself to a nice dinner somewhere (a place thats pleasant and relaxing, a nice tasty meal of a cuisine of your choice, at a place you can afford). I dont know which city you're in or else I'd suggest a place :-)
or even better we could have all gone together if we were all in the same one !When I was alone for years and years (before i got married), I used to do that sometimes and it made me feel really great.
In any case, go and treat yourself to something nice. Try not to wollow at home (easier said thn done, i know).
Hope you feel better as the day progresses.
Posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 15:16:01
In reply to Re: i need to talk to someone.. » justyourlaugh, posted by poet on January 19, 2004, at 15:01:16
i wish i read all your helpful posts before i left the house..
i am so week..
thanks for the kind words,babies snail embryos,
perfume,hugs and wishes..
i will go to my bottle now..
filling up the void with a warm belly..
thanks again
jyl
Posted by Angielala on January 19, 2004, at 15:16:17
In reply to i need to talk to someone.., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 13:49:23
I'm sending you my baby kitty, Trot. She'll nuzzle you and purr you to sleep at night :)
> i am so alone..
> c just called and said he wont be home until late this week..
> i want to drink myself away..
> i have nothing in the house..
> i dont know what to do with myself..
> pace pace pace..
> i am so angry i pushed everyone away that need,,
> the beauty of hindsight..
> i dont think getting a baby snail will help me today..
> i am an empty pit.
>
Posted by Penny on January 19, 2004, at 17:06:23
In reply to uplifing..., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 15:16:01
Haven't checked the board today since I'm at home. Sorry to hear that you are feeling down - must be something in the air, though we're not in the same area...
Check in and let us know how you're doing. And take care.
((((JYL))))
P
Posted by socialdeviantjeff on January 19, 2004, at 21:28:12
In reply to Re: sorry I'm late... » justyourlaugh, posted by Penny on January 19, 2004, at 17:06:23
Well, if you do actually drink, just remember that th morning after could be a doozie. I know that because of my meds drinking is a superbad thing to do. One beer and I'm in migraine hell.
Anyhow, I made all of my 78 snails send you their love. Along with all my goldfish, plecostemus, turtle, Eel and Jack Dempsey. The dempsey is usually a pretty hateful guy so that says a lot. I couldn't convince the guppies, maybe because I fed one of them to the Dempsey. I'll work on them.
I know that being alone sucks. A friend told me once that it helps to know that no matter how bad things are, it helps to say, "things are bad, but this day/hour/minute/second I'm okay." Seems cheesy, but sometimes it works.
Sending positive vibes...
Posted by fallsfall on January 19, 2004, at 22:03:32
In reply to Re: sorry I'm late, too..., posted by socialdeviantjeff on January 19, 2004, at 21:28:12
JYL
I'm sorry you are so sad.
My teddy bear (whose name is Bear) has offered to give your teddy bear (or suitable substitute) lessons in comforting. He really is an expert. He's been comforting me for 8 1/2 years now. If you don't have a teddy bear, then you should go find the softest, most huggable one around.
Post often, we care.
Posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 22:19:58
In reply to Re: JYL, posted by fallsfall on January 19, 2004, at 22:03:32
i have no reason to feel so alone..
i have kids to take care of , who love me,who i love..
because c is away makes no difference..
maybe i created them to fill this horrid void,
it didnt stop the pain..
what will?
what will?
Posted by gardenergirl on January 20, 2004, at 0:10:56
In reply to the truth..., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 22:19:58
JYL,
I'm sorry you feel so alone right now. It seems like nighttime is the worst, too. Is there any music which really moves you? Not too sad and depressing, but something which will capture your attention? A hobby or small task or something to keep you occupied and your mind off of the pain?We're here for you. Please take care and keep posting.
gg
Posted by Penny on January 20, 2004, at 9:03:59
In reply to the truth..., posted by justyourlaugh on January 19, 2004, at 22:19:58
> i have no reason to feel so alone..
> i have kids to take care of , who love me,who i love..
> because c is away makes no difference..
> maybe i created them to fill this horrid void,
> it didnt stop the pain..
> what will?
> what will?
JYL,For me, it makes me feel worse when I feel bad/sad/lonely/whatever and then think, "But I have no reason to feel this way..." - honor your feelings if you can. It really sucks to feel alone, even when you are surrounded by people you love and who love you - but it's the nature of the beast (depression). Don't be so hard on yourself - you don't choose to feel this way! I know that if you had your choice, if you could just 'snap out of it' or 'get over it' or whatever, you would. We all would. But we can't, JYL, because it is an illness. And it is NOT YOUR FAULT.
I so wish I could help you - I wish I could take away at least some of the pain. I don't know what to say to make it better. Just know (even if you don't feel this way right now!) that it doesn't last forever. It might seem that way, but I think you know logically that nothing lasts forever, and this feeling of being alone that you have won't either. So try to hang in there, and do whatever you have to do to get through in the meantime. Just hang in there.
Sending lots of love, hugs, warm feelings and hot chocolate.
P
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