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Posted by TherapyGirl on July 1, 2007, at 20:10:14
In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! » TherapyGirl, posted by jammerlich on July 1, 2007, at 19:19:07
I definitely would NOT have considered that a win. In fact, that's what is happening now. But it's an interesting topic, so I started a new thread about it. I'd love to hear what everybody else thinks.
I'm making adult slushies for our camp fire tonight. A friend at work made some for a cookout a couple of months ago and they were like the best thing I've ever tasted. Vodka, lemonade, something I can't remember, and frozen like a slurpie. YUMMMMMMMMMM!
Posted by jammerlich on July 1, 2007, at 20:24:04
In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! » jammerlich, posted by TherapyGirl on July 1, 2007, at 20:10:14
I am SO there for the slushies!! And I love vodka b/c it doesn't seem to leave me with any sort of hangover. Now rum? Well, that could get ugly. What does one do at a camp fire, other than get wasted? Will scary stories be involved? I'm easily spooked.
I'm glad you started the thread. I'll be interested to see what people have to say. I probably need to raise a "cell phone in session" issue with my T when she returns and I'd be especially upset if the "only" thing she did was acknowledge my feelings. And if she tries to tell me it's my issue? Gosh, I'll be fit to be tied!
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 1, 2007, at 20:40:51
In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! » LlurpsieNoodle, posted by jammerlich on July 1, 2007, at 19:14:02
> Oh no, does Ms. kk have you in the family way, Llurpsie?? I hear she's done it to many. Will there be a shotgun wedding at Camp Comfort?
>
> I hope you found a little comfort in the sunset. Be sure to come back and tell us about it.Kk's got me in all sortsa trouble. I'd rather have firecrackers at my wedding than shotguns, but if that's how kk's family wants things, so be it :D
Sunset was nice. I sat on a pink granite rock that had been warmed by the sun, and watched the sunset over the marsh, until the gnats attacked in a giant swarm, all aimed directly at my prominent nostrils.
Then I took a warm bath with salts called "Therapy" no joke. Very nice smelling. And body creme afterwards. If I didn't have a headache, I'd be irresistable.
Now I'm drinking tea with catnip, spearmint, chamomile and valerian, as I watch the X-files and gradually become desensitized to psychological angst and alien gore.
-Ll
Posted by TherapyGirl on July 1, 2007, at 20:41:57
In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! » TherapyGirl, posted by jammerlich on July 1, 2007, at 20:24:04
I think scary T stories are more in order for this camp, Jammer! :-)
And I have quite a few. Then we can tell funny T stories.
I have one that's kind of funny from last week. Bare with me, though, because it's only funny because NOTHING else about the session was. Here's part of our dialogue:
T: Soooooooooo. What do you need from me tonight?
Me: I need it to be yesterday and for you to f*cking call me back.
T: What's Plan B?
Posted by Fallsfall on July 2, 2007, at 8:37:36
In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! » jammerlich, posted by TherapyGirl on July 1, 2007, at 20:41:57
Dr. Bob's picture at the top of the page is the view from the front porch of the cottage I'll be staying in come late July. I love the sunsets.
I'd like to sing camp songs with my guitar at the campfire. And make somemores.
Posted by jammerlich on July 2, 2007, at 20:30:03
In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!!, posted by Fallsfall on July 2, 2007, at 8:37:36
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 2, 2007, at 21:15:29
In reply to It's starting to get awfully difficult :( (nm), posted by jammerlich on July 2, 2007, at 20:30:03
Hi Jammer,
Sorry things are so difficult :( Remember that Camp Comfort comes and finds you- you don't need to try and find it. No worries about missing the exit.take good care 'lich
-Ll
Posted by sunnydays on July 2, 2007, at 21:33:29
In reply to Re: It's starting to get awfully difficult :( » jammerlich, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 2, 2007, at 21:15:29
((((jammerlich))))
I miss my T a lot too. It is so hard. I completely fell apart last night and cried for over an hour. Didn't fall asleep until 2am, woke up this morning feeling like I imagine a hangover would feel like with puffy eyes, but as the day wore on it got better and I got to talk to my T today. He's alive and he promised he's coming back (he even said - "It's time to come back, I'm getting a little antsy here"). It's still a week until I see him.
I know your T is alive, and I know she is coming back. I would even bet she's thought of you at least once while she's gone. Hang in there. It's so so hard, but you'll make it through.
sunnydays
Posted by LadyBug on July 2, 2007, at 23:40:09
In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! » LadyBug, posted by jammerlich on July 1, 2007, at 16:53:52
Oh, you should see me, I'd scare everyone away if I got into a swim suit!!!! I'd splash all the water out of the pool!!! It would take a case of sun block to cover this body!!!!! But hey we can dream a little right.
My T actually sent me a note today! We had talked about her doing it so I'd have something to hold on to while she's gone, it was a nice surprise. She sent it in a lavender envelope, my favorite color because she used to send me notes in the mail and they had lavender envelopes, I grew to love lavender and purple of any shade.
I'm off to dream land. I hope I have sweet dreams and I wake up listening to that ocean and the waves crashing in on the beach.
I think we should have m&m's for breakfast with out ice cold diet coke!!!
Hugs
LadyBug
Posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2007, at 16:29:21
In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! » jammerlich, posted by LadyBug on July 2, 2007, at 23:40:09
Can we have a Tex-Mex cookout tonight? I made salsa!
Who has the frozen margaritas?
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 3, 2007, at 16:39:33
In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!!, posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2007, at 16:29:21
Salt or no salt on the rim?
And frozen limeade for me. I think I better take it easy. Already had one drink this week...
-Ll
Posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2007, at 18:12:57
In reply to I'll bring the margaritas » TherapyGirl, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 3, 2007, at 16:39:33
Sounds good. No salt for me, though. Retaining water is my middle name these days. LOL
I've got some frozen limeade right here. I'll put it in a frosted glass for you.
Posted by jammerlich on July 4, 2007, at 4:44:01
In reply to Re: I'll bring the margaritas, posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2007, at 18:12:57
And I haven't been to sleep yet.
Things aren't going so well.
Posted by TherapyGirl on July 4, 2007, at 6:41:33
In reply to It's 4:44 a.m............, posted by jammerlich on July 4, 2007, at 4:44:01
I'm so sorry, Jammer. I hope by now you are off in dreamland. I *hate* those kinds of nights, though.
But today you can sleep late, have breakfast in bed (I'll have the pool boy bring it to you), and then head out to the pool with the rest of us. We'll have a cookout sometime this afternoon and fireworks tonight, along with your choice of adult beverages.
Hang in there, Jammer.
Posted by sunnydays on July 4, 2007, at 10:08:28
In reply to It's 4:44 a.m............, posted by jammerlich on July 4, 2007, at 4:44:01
(((((jammer))))
keep hanging in there.
sunnydays
Posted by muffled on July 4, 2007, at 10:09:46
In reply to Re: It's 4:44 a.m............ » jammerlich, posted by sunnydays on July 4, 2007, at 10:08:28
Posted by TherapyGirl on July 4, 2007, at 19:09:23
In reply to It's 4:44 a.m............, posted by jammerlich on July 4, 2007, at 4:44:01
Posted by jammerlich on July 5, 2007, at 3:02:37
In reply to How are you today??? (nm) » jammerlich, posted by TherapyGirl on July 4, 2007, at 19:09:23
I was doing better earlier this evening, but not so much now.
It's nearly 3 in the morning and I can't sleep. And I'm freaking out a little (ok, a lot). Like, I'm not sure I'll survive if I don't talk to my T RIGHT NOW!!!! I mean, I'm literally shaking. It's pathetic, really. A 32 year old woman should be able to deal with a paid caretaker being away for 12 days. Just 12 little days!! I mean, we're really only talking about 2 missing hours over 12 days, too. Just 2 hours!!!!!
I know what did it. A stupid movie I watched earlier. Had bad stuff in it. Stuff that wasn't so much as hinted at in the description. Stuff they really should warn you about. And there was a point where I thought it might be coming, but I told myself, "No, you think you see that in all kinds of places because you're sensitive to it, because it was your experience, but it isn't REALLY there." Well, this time it was SO there. It's a thing with Indie films, I think. They seem to deal with issues mainstream films don't.
Anyway, I'm having a really hard time. I wonder if my T is reachable. I don't know. Maybe I'll call the answering service in a little while and ask. Or maybe wait until later and call the secretary. If I'm told yes, maybe the idea that I COULD talk to her would be enough to get myself to Monday without actually disturbing her. I really don't want to disturb her.
God, I feel crazy, crazy, crazy. Like I need to jump up and down and kick and flail my arms about. Or ram my car into something. I need loud noise or something powerful. I don't understand. Ok, I'm stopping now. Really. I'm starting to scare myself. I'm sure it will all look better when the sun comes up.
Can someone pass the margaritas? I think I'll need the whole pitcher.
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 5, 2007, at 11:14:39
In reply to Not well, I'm afraid » TherapyGirl, posted by jammerlich on July 5, 2007, at 3:02:37
> I was doing better earlier this evening, but not so much now.
>
> It's nearly 3 in the morning and I can't sleep. And I'm freaking out a little (ok, a lot).Hi Jammer- you can take a benedryl which might help you fall asleep, or get some kind of tea with valerian (or a tablet) at the health food store. Valerian is very calming and gentle.
I think that checking out her answering service sounds like a good idea. Even if you feel better today, just check it out. touch base- tell your T you're really struggling, and that you'd like to hear from her if she's available.
Promise to be extra kind to yourself. Today is a good day to set up a safe space for yourself. Someplace comfy and warm. my bed with white noise machine is my safe space.
Buy a bunch of flowers. YES. you deserve it. not a single flower, but something in the 20 dollar range. Spend 30 minutes trimming them and smelling them as you put them in a vase. Take a short walk and breathe the air. call up a friend and make a short coffee date for the weekend. It's important to have something to look forward to.Loud music is okay. It's not going to hurt anyone. better to release your energy this way than other ways.
I hope you feel better soon. Sometimes you have a few moments when you feel "better" or "okay". Use these moments to make specific plans for when you don't feel okay. (I had to go to the hospital to learn this stuff...)
thinking of you-
yours,
-Ll
Posted by TherapyGirl on July 5, 2007, at 17:17:33
In reply to Not well, I'm afraid » TherapyGirl, posted by jammerlich on July 5, 2007, at 3:02:37
I know. It's a terrible place to be. I hope it passes relatively quickly for you and that this will be a distant memory as soon as your T comes back.
Did you check to see if T is reachable? I can see where that might help things, even if you didn't talk to her.
One of the things that has helped me in the past (when I'm not in this icky space with my T) is for her to call and leave me a voice mail right before she leaves the office reiterating that she will come back. It used to be that just her voice would calm me down. For the same reason, I save messages from her pretty much forever. :-)
Interestingly enough, her voice has not calmed me down for the last couple of months while I haven't felt connected to her. But I did listen to messages she left BEFORE the last couple of months last night and somehow that voice (from her pre-Zombie days) still comforts me. Go figure.
I hope it gets better for you soon.
Posted by LadyBug on July 6, 2007, at 13:16:46
In reply to Not well, I'm afraid » TherapyGirl, posted by jammerlich on July 5, 2007, at 3:02:37
How are you today Jammer? Did you try to get a hold of your T?
I've been slacking on the camp comfort stuff the past few days. I'm so sorry.
I'm still at camp comfort for 3 more weeks!!!
I need a nice long nap in a cool room with a nice fan blowing the air around. When I get up, I'll have that pool boy bring me a huge Diet Coke on ice along with a good book to read out by the pool as I watch the sunset.
We campers got to hang together ok?
Let me know how you're doing. I hope better. I know how it feels to not be able to sleep and get into an anxiety issue. I hope it's passed for you. Come join me later out by the pool, you can drink all the margarita's you want. Sorry I don't drink anymore. But we can have a party, it's Friday night! Let's do it! Loud music, lots of laughter, and maybe some good food to go along with it!
Hugs
LadyBug
Posted by jammerlich on July 7, 2007, at 8:38:43
In reply to Re: Not well, I'm afraid » jammerlich, posted by LadyBug on July 6, 2007, at 13:16:46
No, I didn't try to get in touch with my T. I just can't stand the thought of disturbing her vacation.
I have a really yucky day ahead of me....all of it to be spent with my parents. This sort of thing would usually merit a good 2 sessions worth of discussion with my T. And this time, she doesn't even know it's happening. I think that's the worst part. Her not knowing. Because I can remember all the things we talked about (to make the experience easier) when it's come up before.
Posted by TherapyGirl on July 7, 2007, at 9:13:10
In reply to Re: Not well, I'm afraid, posted by jammerlich on July 7, 2007, at 8:38:43
I'll be thinking about you, Jammer. Maybe you could try to remember some of the things your T has said in the past to get you through visits with your parents.
I'm in a not-so-good place myself this morning. Started spotting again (re: the fibroids) and I'm NOT happy about a possible 3rd cycle in 29 days.
I'll meet you at the pool later with a pitcher full of strawberry daiquiris, okay?
Posted by muffled on July 7, 2007, at 10:06:45
In reply to ((((((((((Jammer))))))))))))), posted by TherapyGirl on July 7, 2007, at 9:13:10
Good people.
Posted by sunnydays on July 7, 2007, at 11:26:43
In reply to Re: Not well, I'm afraid, posted by jammerlich on July 7, 2007, at 8:38:43
(((((jammer))))
Good luck. I definitely know that feeling of wishing that my T just knew. I wouldn't even need to talk to him so bad if he just knew it was going to be hard for me and I knew he at least thought about me for a second. You'll be ok. Just think - when it's over, you're that much closer to seeing your T again!
sunnydays
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