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Re: It's starting to get awfully difficult :( jammerlich

Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 2, 2007, at 21:15:29

In reply to It's starting to get awfully difficult :( (nm), posted by jammerlich on July 2, 2007, at 20:30:03

Hi Jammer,
Sorry things are so difficult :( Remember that Camp Comfort comes and finds you- you don't need to try and find it. No worries about missing the exit.

take good care 'lich

-Ll

 

Re: It's starting to get awfully difficult :(

Posted by sunnydays on July 2, 2007, at 21:33:29

In reply to Re: It's starting to get awfully difficult :( jammerlich, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 2, 2007, at 21:15:29

((((jammerlich))))

I miss my T a lot too. It is so hard. I completely fell apart last night and cried for over an hour. Didn't fall asleep until 2am, woke up this morning feeling like I imagine a hangover would feel like with puffy eyes, but as the day wore on it got better and I got to talk to my T today. He's alive and he promised he's coming back (he even said - "It's time to come back, I'm getting a little antsy here"). It's still a week until I see him.

I know your T is alive, and I know she is coming back. I would even bet she's thought of you at least once while she's gone. Hang in there. It's so so hard, but you'll make it through.

sunnydays

 

Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! jammerlich

Posted by LadyBug on July 2, 2007, at 23:40:09

In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! LadyBug, posted by jammerlich on July 1, 2007, at 16:53:52

Oh, you should see me, I'd scare everyone away if I got into a swim suit!!!! I'd splash all the water out of the pool!!! It would take a case of sun block to cover this body!!!!! But hey we can dream a little right.
My T actually sent me a note today! We had talked about her doing it so I'd have something to hold on to while she's gone, it was a nice surprise. She sent it in a lavender envelope, my favorite color because she used to send me notes in the mail and they had lavender envelopes, I grew to love lavender and purple of any shade.
I'm off to dream land. I hope I have sweet dreams and I wake up listening to that ocean and the waves crashing in on the beach.
I think we should have m&m's for breakfast with out ice cold diet coke!!!
Hugs
LadyBug

 

Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!!

Posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2007, at 16:29:21

In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!! jammerlich, posted by LadyBug on July 2, 2007, at 23:40:09

Can we have a Tex-Mex cookout tonight? I made salsa!

Who has the frozen margaritas?

 

I'll bring the margaritas TherapyGirl

Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 3, 2007, at 16:39:33

In reply to Re: Calling Camp Comfort!!!!!!!, posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2007, at 16:29:21

Salt or no salt on the rim?

And frozen limeade for me. I think I better take it easy. Already had one drink this week...

-Ll

 

Re: I'll bring the margaritas

Posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2007, at 18:12:57

In reply to I'll bring the margaritas TherapyGirl, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 3, 2007, at 16:39:33

Sounds good. No salt for me, though. Retaining water is my middle name these days. LOL

I've got some frozen limeade right here. I'll put it in a frosted glass for you.

 

It's 4:44 a.m............

Posted by jammerlich on July 4, 2007, at 4:44:01

In reply to Re: I'll bring the margaritas, posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2007, at 18:12:57

And I haven't been to sleep yet.

Things aren't going so well.

 

Re: It's 4:44 a.m............ jammerlich

Posted by TherapyGirl on July 4, 2007, at 6:41:33

In reply to It's 4:44 a.m............, posted by jammerlich on July 4, 2007, at 4:44:01

I'm so sorry, Jammer. I hope by now you are off in dreamland. I *hate* those kinds of nights, though.

But today you can sleep late, have breakfast in bed (I'll have the pool boy bring it to you), and then head out to the pool with the rest of us. We'll have a cookout sometime this afternoon and fireworks tonight, along with your choice of adult beverages.

Hang in there, Jammer.

 

Re: It's 4:44 a.m............ jammerlich

Posted by sunnydays on July 4, 2007, at 10:08:28

In reply to It's 4:44 a.m............, posted by jammerlich on July 4, 2007, at 4:44:01

(((((jammer))))

keep hanging in there.

sunnydays

 

((((((Jammer))))) (nm)

Posted by muffled on July 4, 2007, at 10:09:46

In reply to Re: It's 4:44 a.m............ jammerlich, posted by sunnydays on July 4, 2007, at 10:08:28

 

How are you today??? (nm) jammerlich

Posted by TherapyGirl on July 4, 2007, at 19:09:23

In reply to It's 4:44 a.m............, posted by jammerlich on July 4, 2007, at 4:44:01

 

Not well, I'm afraid TherapyGirl

Posted by jammerlich on July 5, 2007, at 3:02:37

In reply to How are you today??? (nm) jammerlich, posted by TherapyGirl on July 4, 2007, at 19:09:23

I was doing better earlier this evening, but not so much now.

It's nearly 3 in the morning and I can't sleep. And I'm freaking out a little (ok, a lot). Like, I'm not sure I'll survive if I don't talk to my T RIGHT NOW!!!! I mean, I'm literally shaking. It's pathetic, really. A 32 year old woman should be able to deal with a paid caretaker being away for 12 days. Just 12 little days!! I mean, we're really only talking about 2 missing hours over 12 days, too. Just 2 hours!!!!!

I know what did it. A stupid movie I watched earlier. Had bad stuff in it. Stuff that wasn't so much as hinted at in the description. Stuff they really should warn you about. And there was a point where I thought it might be coming, but I told myself, "No, you think you see that in all kinds of places because you're sensitive to it, because it was your experience, but it isn't REALLY there." Well, this time it was SO there. It's a thing with Indie films, I think. They seem to deal with issues mainstream films don't.

Anyway, I'm having a really hard time. I wonder if my T is reachable. I don't know. Maybe I'll call the answering service in a little while and ask. Or maybe wait until later and call the secretary. If I'm told yes, maybe the idea that I COULD talk to her would be enough to get myself to Monday without actually disturbing her. I really don't want to disturb her.

God, I feel crazy, crazy, crazy. Like I need to jump up and down and kick and flail my arms about. Or ram my car into something. I need loud noise or something powerful. I don't understand. Ok, I'm stopping now. Really. I'm starting to scare myself. I'm sure it will all look better when the sun comes up.

Can someone pass the margaritas? I think I'll need the whole pitcher.

 

Re: Not well, I'm afraid jammerlich

Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 5, 2007, at 11:14:39

In reply to Not well, I'm afraid TherapyGirl, posted by jammerlich on July 5, 2007, at 3:02:37

> I was doing better earlier this evening, but not so much now.
>
> It's nearly 3 in the morning and I can't sleep. And I'm freaking out a little (ok, a lot).

Hi Jammer- you can take a benedryl which might help you fall asleep, or get some kind of tea with valerian (or a tablet) at the health food store. Valerian is very calming and gentle.

I think that checking out her answering service sounds like a good idea. Even if you feel better today, just check it out. touch base- tell your T you're really struggling, and that you'd like to hear from her if she's available.

Promise to be extra kind to yourself. Today is a good day to set up a safe space for yourself. Someplace comfy and warm. my bed with white noise machine is my safe space.


Buy a bunch of flowers. YES. you deserve it. not a single flower, but something in the 20 dollar range. Spend 30 minutes trimming them and smelling them as you put them in a vase. Take a short walk and breathe the air. call up a friend and make a short coffee date for the weekend. It's important to have something to look forward to.

Loud music is okay. It's not going to hurt anyone. better to release your energy this way than other ways.

I hope you feel better soon. Sometimes you have a few moments when you feel "better" or "okay". Use these moments to make specific plans for when you don't feel okay. (I had to go to the hospital to learn this stuff...)

thinking of you-

yours,
-Ll

 

Re: Not well, I'm afraid jammerlich

Posted by TherapyGirl on July 5, 2007, at 17:17:33

In reply to Not well, I'm afraid TherapyGirl, posted by jammerlich on July 5, 2007, at 3:02:37

I know. It's a terrible place to be. I hope it passes relatively quickly for you and that this will be a distant memory as soon as your T comes back.

Did you check to see if T is reachable? I can see where that might help things, even if you didn't talk to her.

One of the things that has helped me in the past (when I'm not in this icky space with my T) is for her to call and leave me a voice mail right before she leaves the office reiterating that she will come back. It used to be that just her voice would calm me down. For the same reason, I save messages from her pretty much forever. :-)

Interestingly enough, her voice has not calmed me down for the last couple of months while I haven't felt connected to her. But I did listen to messages she left BEFORE the last couple of months last night and somehow that voice (from her pre-Zombie days) still comforts me. Go figure.

I hope it gets better for you soon.

 

Re: Not well, I'm afraid jammerlich

Posted by LadyBug on July 6, 2007, at 13:16:46

In reply to Not well, I'm afraid TherapyGirl, posted by jammerlich on July 5, 2007, at 3:02:37

How are you today Jammer? Did you try to get a hold of your T?
I've been slacking on the camp comfort stuff the past few days. I'm so sorry.
I'm still at camp comfort for 3 more weeks!!!
I need a nice long nap in a cool room with a nice fan blowing the air around. When I get up, I'll have that pool boy bring me a huge Diet Coke on ice along with a good book to read out by the pool as I watch the sunset.
We campers got to hang together ok?
Let me know how you're doing. I hope better. I know how it feels to not be able to sleep and get into an anxiety issue. I hope it's passed for you. Come join me later out by the pool, you can drink all the margarita's you want. Sorry I don't drink anymore. But we can have a party, it's Friday night! Let's do it! Loud music, lots of laughter, and maybe some good food to go along with it!
Hugs
LadyBug

 

Re: Not well, I'm afraid

Posted by jammerlich on July 7, 2007, at 8:38:43

In reply to Re: Not well, I'm afraid jammerlich, posted by LadyBug on July 6, 2007, at 13:16:46

No, I didn't try to get in touch with my T. I just can't stand the thought of disturbing her vacation.

I have a really yucky day ahead of me....all of it to be spent with my parents. This sort of thing would usually merit a good 2 sessions worth of discussion with my T. And this time, she doesn't even know it's happening. I think that's the worst part. Her not knowing. Because I can remember all the things we talked about (to make the experience easier) when it's come up before.

 

((((((((((Jammer)))))))))))))

Posted by TherapyGirl on July 7, 2007, at 9:13:10

In reply to Re: Not well, I'm afraid, posted by jammerlich on July 7, 2007, at 8:38:43

I'll be thinking about you, Jammer. Maybe you could try to remember some of the things your T has said in the past to get you through visits with your parents.

I'm in a not-so-good place myself this morning. Started spotting again (re: the fibroids) and I'm NOT happy about a possible 3rd cycle in 29 days.

I'll meet you at the pool later with a pitcher full of strawberry daiquiris, okay?

 

((((((((((Babblers)))))))))))))

Posted by muffled on July 7, 2007, at 10:06:45

In reply to ((((((((((Jammer))))))))))))), posted by TherapyGirl on July 7, 2007, at 9:13:10

Good people.

 

Re: Not well, I'm afraid jammerlich

Posted by sunnydays on July 7, 2007, at 11:26:43

In reply to Re: Not well, I'm afraid, posted by jammerlich on July 7, 2007, at 8:38:43

(((((jammer))))

Good luck. I definitely know that feeling of wishing that my T just knew. I wouldn't even need to talk to him so bad if he just knew it was going to be hard for me and I knew he at least thought about me for a second. You'll be ok. Just think - when it's over, you're that much closer to seeing your T again!

sunnydays

 

(((((((((hugsforjammer)))))))))))

Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 7, 2007, at 12:50:51

In reply to Re: Not well, I'm afraid jammerlich, posted by sunnydays on July 7, 2007, at 11:26:43

Hi Jammer,
maybe by the time you read this you'll be all done with your parents for a while. I hope so!

I know you feel all alone, having to bear the intrusion that your parents are in your life right now. Just wanted to tell you that you're going to make it through this period. You are more resilient than you realize and you can use babble to help you cope.

Your T is only one way you have of dealing with things.

I just want to throw something out there-- take it or leave it-- my first T's quote that catches me when I start some phase of drinking more than a drink a week or so... "Alcohol is a wonderful antidepressant, but has some bad side effects, including depression". And another gem from my pdoc, "Without anxiety, there'd be no wine", "klonopin has fewer side effects than alcohol".

The last thing I want to do is to take away one of your coping mechanisms when you need them the most. I don't want to put any pressure on you either, just give you something to think about. The good thing about camp comfort is that the margaritas have no side effects but relaxation and mild euphoria. no calories either :)

off to eat my lunch. my diet lunch. one of my coping mechanisms is off-limits right now, unfortunately...

-Ll

 

Only 24 hours....

Posted by jammerlich on July 8, 2007, at 11:58:35

In reply to (((((((((hugsforjammer))))))))))), posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 7, 2007, at 12:50:51

And I see her again. I'm SO glad. Does time seem to pass more slowly when something important draws near, or is it just me? These last few days have been so hard.

Now I'm worried I'll be completely stupid tomorrow. There's nothing in particular I want to talk about. So, my guess is that I'll either burst into tears or sit there completely silent, which will probably make her think I'm mad. Most likely, it'll be the latter. Though, I'd like for it to be the former because I think it'd be more expressive of how I've felt.

I hope this is it for vacations this summer, though I have a feeling it's not.

Thank you all so much for offering support and listening to me whine and just understanding how hard it can be. I'm not sure I'd have survived it without you.

 

Re: Only 24 hours....Yaaayyy

Posted by muffled on July 8, 2007, at 12:02:56

In reply to Only 24 hours...., posted by jammerlich on July 8, 2007, at 11:58:35

maybe you can tell her you just want comfort and to reconnect?
Take care, glad you made it.
m

 

Re: Only 24 hours.... jammerlich

Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 8, 2007, at 15:52:35

In reply to Only 24 hours...., posted by jammerlich on July 8, 2007, at 11:58:35

Jammer, you did okay, and I never once got sick of your whining. You had to deal with a lot all at once, and you did a good job. Don't be so hard on yourself.

...sigh of relief...

ahhhhh

-Ll

 

Re: Only 24 hours.... jammerlich

Posted by TherapyGirl on July 9, 2007, at 20:19:25

In reply to Only 24 hours...., posted by jammerlich on July 8, 2007, at 11:58:35

So how'd it go? How are you feeling tonight?

I have another 72 hours to go, but it doesn't really matter. I've never felt so disconnected from her.

Sigh...

 

You had appt yet? How'd it go? (nm) jammerlich

Posted by muffled on July 9, 2007, at 20:42:54

In reply to Only 24 hours...., posted by jammerlich on July 8, 2007, at 11:58:35


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