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Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:16:22
For me its about trust alot.
That she consistantly patient.
She never seems to tire of reassuring me that she won't dump me.
Soon I will talk.
Posted by frida on March 15, 2007, at 22:43:43
In reply to AND whats most facilitated being able to talk ?, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:16:22
I agree, for me it's about trust and how she reassures me over and over, and how she tells me that even though she has felt frustrated about my silence, she will help me through it and she won't give up on me and won't abandon me or betray my trust the way other people have.
for me it's about finally believing that she does care and wants to help me and won't give up no matter how difficult I can be.
it's about trust and everything we've been through together. Writing has helped her know everything I hide behind my silence and that has made her try so hard to reach me and get me to talk.
It has helped that she is so open and so willing to try. It has helped me to feel accepted by her, and cared for.Frida
Posted by Dinah on March 16, 2007, at 9:46:25
In reply to AND whats most facilitated being able to talk ?, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:16:22
I always say I didn't really start therapy until five years into therapy. It's not that I didn't talk, I talked plenty. But I didn't say much of substance.
When I did start, it was because I trusted that I could say anything I want and my therapist wouldn't (in his favorite expression) run screaming out of the room.
So trust and acceptance.
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 16, 2007, at 19:01:00
In reply to AND whats most facilitated being able to talk ?, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:16:22
For me, in addition to trust, it was that she created this safe environment and then she waited patiently for me to figure out that it was safe and that SHE was safe. She encouraged me to talk, but she didn't pressure me. And that has enabled me to tell her things I've never talked to anyone about and trust that she won't leave me or be disgusted or do anything except continue to be there with me every step of the way.
I agree you are very, very close and I will celebrate with you when it comes.
Posted by Happyflower on March 17, 2007, at 15:00:36
In reply to AND whats most facilitated being able to talk ?, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:16:22
Posted by canadagirl on March 17, 2007, at 17:04:33
In reply to AND whats most facilitated being able to talk ?, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:16:22
Talking about difficult things opens up something like a whole new world, a new way you will be able to relate to her and she to you, and new levels of trust can result. Be patient with yourself, it just takes time to get there.
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