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Posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
My concentration is gone, all I do is lie on the couch and flip between 180 plus channels of non-entertainment. I tried to study for my quiz and am afraid to see my grade because when I looked at the questions it was like I couldn't recognize them as anything I'd read a few hours before. I have a research project due next week. For my other class, a quiz next week and the week after a final, plus four chapter assignments due next week. I should be studying, I should be researching, I should be applying for jobs, I should be...the only good thing to come out of this is that I'm not going to try anymore. No more classes, no more trying for jobs that use what's left of my brain. I give up.
Poet
Posted by Gee on December 7, 2006, at 14:53:16
In reply to Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
Poet, don't give up, you can do it! It's only a little bit of classes left. It's not much. I know you can!!!
Posted by wishingstar on December 7, 2006, at 14:59:33
In reply to Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
{{{{poet}}}}}
I know all too well how you feel. I was a student up until recently and had many of those same moments.
Is there a way for you to speak with your professors and tell them youre having a hard time? Maybe they would allow you to take an incomplete (not ideal I know, but better than doing poorly) or let you take your exam/turn in your project late? I know while I was a student and in the partial psych program, my professors were all very understanding and let me do things as I could, even once I was back. Of course you dont have to give them tons of information.
Hang in there. I wish I had better advice. You will make it through this.
ws
Posted by happykat on December 7, 2006, at 16:08:58
In reply to Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
Poet,
I'm with Gee. YOU CAN DO IT! It's like running a marathon. You're almost there. Just a little bit more. Sending you lots of happy, positive, good studying vibes!!! :)
(((((Poet))))
HK
Posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 19:28:18
In reply to Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
Nothing like getting fired from my job, going into a major depression and having school assignments related to the field I was fired from to really make me want to crawl under the covers and not come out until the Spring thaw.
I'm going to work on my assignments in little bits, and get them done. I'll study for the final and I will get through this. I can't stand leaving anything unfinished and that is what I'm going to tell myself for motivation.
Thanks for the encouragement. I really need it right now.
Poet
Posted by muffled on December 7, 2006, at 23:21:24
In reply to Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
Oh man Poet, sounds hard.
But there's a strong tenacity in you.
Keep trying, little bits if you can.
There were some good suggestions posted I wouyld say.
This is totally uneducated me speaking LOL!!
Take care Poet.
Tough times, but you'll make it thru.
Muffled
Posted by Happyflower on December 8, 2006, at 1:53:41
In reply to Thanks Everyone, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 19:28:18
I think you have a good plan. It is sooo hard sometimes and I understand why you want to hide under the blanket. I forgot how hard school can be, I so understand why college kids party. (for the stress)
I like the doing a little each day plan. Sometimes that works because it takes some of the pressure off and then bam, you really start kicking it in high gear.
Keep going Poet, inch by inch , day by day! ;-) (okay the song is lame, but you know what I mean) LOL
Posted by Daisym on December 8, 2006, at 2:17:26
In reply to Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
Come and sit under my Christmas tree with me for awhile, OK? We'll just sit together and not let the should's rule us anymore. We can look at all the pretty lights and decorations and ask Santa to bring us both hope for Christmas.
If I can't give up, neither can you.
(((Poet)))
Posted by Dinah on December 8, 2006, at 7:44:23
In reply to Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
My concentration goes out the window when I'm depressed. It feels like I can't work at all, and sometimes work has to be done. I try to create distraction free chunks of time, and concentrate on one thing for that period of time. If you have a lot that needs to be done, it's all too easy to let your mind wander around all of it. Or so I find.
Just remember that you've had a psychic shock, and you're responding to that. Things will get better, eventually. I know I find that hard to hold on to sometimes. What I feel now always seems like what I've always felt and always will feel.
Argh. I don't know quite what I mean to say.
Posted by All Done on December 8, 2006, at 15:51:13
In reply to Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
I'm so sorry about everything that's going on, Poet. I wish I could help.
I'm no expert on staying focused or anything, but "they" say to take things in bits and pieces. So, I think you're headed the right direction with your schoolwork. I know it's easier said than done, sometimes. :( Like I said, I wish I could help more.
(((((Poet))))) <----- lots of gentle cyber hugs
A sweet Babbler recently recommended that I do something nice for myself. I'm going to pass that recommendation on to you. You deserve some special attention.
Take care,
Laurie
Posted by canadagirl on December 8, 2006, at 15:58:44
In reply to Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 14:01:11
So sorry to hear, Poet. It will take some time to move on from this, but you will. You know, this might sound trite but when I was in HR many moons ago, I always remembered the great candidates I saw that were one company's fire and then were our lucky hire. Getting fired often means that it's your employer that's a failure. Don't give up. YOu have a big thing going for you - BRAINS!
Posted by Poet on December 8, 2006, at 17:07:47
In reply to Re: Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This » Poet, posted by muffled on December 7, 2006, at 23:21:24
Hi Muffled,
At this point I'm not sure if it's tenacity or stupidity, it's definitely insanity as I keep doing the same things over and over.
Thanks for the words of encouragement.
Poet
Posted by Poet on December 8, 2006, at 17:11:51
In reply to Re: Thanks Everyone » Poet, posted by Happyflower on December 8, 2006, at 1:53:41
Hi Happyflower,
I just got hit with so much at once, and my brain just doesn't move quickly these days. I will do my assignments in bits and crawl back under the blanket to study.
Thanks for the encouragement.
Poet
Posted by Poet on December 8, 2006, at 17:15:00
In reply to Re: Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This » Poet, posted by Daisym on December 8, 2006, at 2:17:26
Hi Daisy,
I'm dragging my blanket with me to sit under your tree. I'll try not to let the shoulds come with me as they are heavy baggage to carry.
Your tree is beautiful. May Santa bring us both (actually all babblers) hope for Christmas.
Poet
Posted by Poet on December 8, 2006, at 17:20:44
In reply to Re: Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This » Poet, posted by Dinah on December 8, 2006, at 7:44:23
Hi Dinah,
You've got it, when I'm depressed my concentration goes right out the window. Even my T noticed it in therapy yesterday. Maybe she physically saw it go out her window, because I had to keep asking her, what, I'm sorry, like I wasn't paying attention, but I was.
You're right I have had a psychic shock, I'll try to hold onto that things will get better. Though right now...
Thanks for your help, I truly appreciate it.
Poet
Posted by Poet on December 8, 2006, at 17:24:46
In reply to Re: Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This, posted by All Done on December 8, 2006, at 15:51:13
Hi Laurie,
Thank you for the gentle cyber hugs. Right now I feel like my whole life is in scattered bits and pieces, and some of those pieces are missing.
I can't think of anything nice to do for myself, my T says I should take a break from beating myself up for feeling like a failure. I did work on one of my assignments today, and so I won't beat myself up for not finishing it.
Thanks again.
Poet
Posted by Poet on December 8, 2006, at 17:30:39
In reply to Re: Can Barely Concentrate Enough to Write This » Poet, posted by canadagirl on December 8, 2006, at 15:58:44
Hi Canadagirl,
I am ashamed to say I was fired, but maybe there are still smart HR people like you were who see that it was the company that failed, not me who failed. I hope I can collect unemployment as I really am not up to looking for a job. Faking that smile is impossible these days.
Thanks for reminding me that I do have a brain and I will try not to give up.
Poet
Posted by TherapyGirl on December 8, 2006, at 20:28:51
In reply to Thanks Everyone, posted by Poet on December 7, 2006, at 19:28:18
Sorry it's so hard for you right now. I'm thinking about you, even when I'm away from Babble for a couple of days.
I, too, know you can do this. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
Posted by Poet on December 9, 2006, at 11:38:11
In reply to Re: Thanks Everyone, posted by TherapyGirl on December 8, 2006, at 20:28:51
Hi TherapyGirl,
Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts. Life is well, words that would be deemed uncivil. I will survive, I hope.
Poet
Posted by TherapyGirl on December 9, 2006, at 17:32:10
In reply to Re: Thanks Everyone » TherapyGirl, posted by Poet on December 9, 2006, at 11:38:11
Yes, you will survive. And I have no doubt -- absolutely NO DOUBT -- that you will get a better job with saner people. I can say that because I've been there, done that. :-)
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