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Posted by B2chica on November 15, 2005, at 10:59:08
just wondering if i have a sign on me that says, please come abuse me.
after reading ghosts post above she mentioned her abuse happening twice, i've had incedents happen when i was young and teenager. and i'm beginning to feel (now realizing all this cr@p) that i feel like i have a sign on me that says "oh please come abuse me"
it seems to me that cuz of what happened when i was younger, it kept happening cuz i let it and later again cuz i didn't stop it.
this is making me angry. am i angry or frustrated? maybe just a little pi$$ed off.
does anyone else feel like their wearing this sign?b2c.
Posted by allisonross on November 15, 2005, at 12:12:14
In reply to do i have a sign *trigger*, posted by B2chica on November 15, 2005, at 10:59:08
> Sweetie: You seem like SUCH a sweetie!
I endured a childhood of abuse, then 31 years of abusive marriage, and THEN spiritual abuse (long story).
Something we must all realize (that have been abused), is that abuse is ALWAYS A CHOICE.
The abuser CHOOSES to abuse...when we are children, etc., we cannot defend ourselves; it's all about power and conrol.
I can see why one would feel like they are wearing a sign!
You SHOULD be ticked off (that's a healthy sign!)
Hugs, Allyidust wondering if i have a sign on me that says, please come abuse me.
> after reading ghosts post above she mentioned her abuse happening twice, i've had incedents happen when i was young and teenager. and i'm beginning to feel (now realizing all this cr@p) that i feel like i have a sign on me that says "oh please come abuse me"
> it seems to me that cuz of what happened when i was younger, it kept happening cuz i let it and later again cuz i didn't stop it.
> this is making me angry. am i angry or frustrated? maybe just a little pi$$ed off.
> does anyone else feel like their wearing this sign?
>
> b2c.
Posted by happyflower on November 15, 2005, at 12:16:45
In reply to Re: do i have a sign *trigger* » B2chica, posted by allisonross on November 15, 2005, at 12:12:14
I agree with Ally, it isn't you , it is the abusers fault.
Sometimes I do wonder why everyone who means something to me, ends up sh*ting on me eventually.
I think it must be us tender hearted people who are targeted by abusers for them to abuse us. Well its not going to happen ever again.
(((((((B2))))))))
Some people are just sick idiots.
Posted by antigua on November 15, 2005, at 14:13:57
In reply to do i have a sign *trigger*, posted by B2chica on November 15, 2005, at 10:59:08
No, no, no! You aren't wearing a sign, but my last Pdoc told me that we keep getting ourselves into situations (unconsciously) that play out the abuse until we are able to fully resolve the abuse. I believe him. There's a Freudian term for it, but I can't put my finger on it right now. So NO, it's not you; it's just another aspect of what you're going through. Once the initial abuse is resolved, you won't be drawn to these situations.
I have decided to believe what my Pdoc says. It fits my situation. Please don't beat yourself up over this. It's part of the process.
best,
antigua
Posted by ghost on November 15, 2005, at 21:17:09
In reply to do i have a sign *trigger*, posted by B2chica on November 15, 2005, at 10:59:08
i think if you wore a sign, it'd say "beautiful girl here!"
i kind of know what you mean though. i keep getting myself into these "situations" that i can't help but wonder if things hadnt happened the way they did would i still be getting into these situations?
i just wonder if we're easy targets. not that we're wearing signs per se, but once one thing bad happens to us, it makes us different and then easier for the next jerk to sniff us out.
i don't know. just a hunch.
it's a pretty awful feeling to feel like you have a big target on your back at all times, though.
i'm glad you're feeling pi$$ed off. you have every right to be, and you should be.
*hugs*
ghost
Posted by B2chica on November 16, 2005, at 9:07:21
In reply to Re: do i have a sign *trigger* » B2chica, posted by ghost on November 15, 2005, at 21:17:09
ya, antigua mentioned the situations also. i do agree with that. it is like i play it over and over so i can resolve it.
and it seems like it is easier for them the next times.
b2c.
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