![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 7 of 7. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by B2chica on February 13, 2005, at 16:34:52
well,
i tested the waters with her, told her about my 'death date' and anxiety about it...-i think it''s more an obsession now vs. depression??
anyway i also jumped in the last few minutes and asked about the sex question (doing this mainly to see how she responded). i got the best information from you all (thnx btw). she gave me nothing, infact, and maybe this is just my poor interpretation and reinforcing my not talking to her about things but she got kinda surprised about the question and mentioned that there are sex therapists or physicians that would be able to help me with that if it's a problem...she really pushed off the question. it made me feel very sorry i brought it up and i felt bad cuz she looked uncomfortable...making me uncomfortable...
well, right away i switched into drive and gave the "oh, no i'm fine. i'm sure it's just cuz i was tense and it'd been a while...etc."
then she said i shouldn't have switched topics and needed to continue with concerns of the depression issue.
and yes, i do realize that it is important but...b2c.
Posted by Dinah on February 13, 2005, at 18:57:31
In reply to remember sex question, well...., posted by B2chica on February 13, 2005, at 16:34:52
She didn't handle that particularly well, did she? :( Can you ask her if it's a problem area for her, and let her know that it would help you to feel free to talk about it?
My therapist isn't a sex therapist but he's willing to listen to whatever I bring up.
Posted by alexandra_k on February 13, 2005, at 23:52:47
In reply to remember sex question, well...., posted by B2chica on February 13, 2005, at 16:34:52
Hmm. Maybe she thought you were trying to avoid talking about something else???
Or maybe she is uncomfortable herself with talking about it.
Do you think you might have the courage to ask her to clarify that????
Jeepers. It is so hard when you take a risk to bring something up that you feel a bit sensitive about and they seem to miss that entirely. I don't know. Good on you for asking, though :-)
Posted by B2chica on February 14, 2005, at 10:41:29
In reply to Re: remember sex question, well.... » B2chica, posted by Dinah on February 13, 2005, at 18:57:31
i'm ok with this. i see new T in March and i'll just hold off till then. she was clearly 'out of her element'. maybe i did just really catch her off guard. and if i knew i would keep her as a T i would probably try again. but i'm hoping to switch in march to the one i REALLY want. (he stopped seeing patients in dec. due to personal stff, he starts again in march.)
thanks for your kind reply.
b2c.
> She didn't handle that particularly well, did she? :( Can you ask her if it's a problem area for her, and let her know that it would help you to feel free to talk about it?
>
> My therapist isn't a sex therapist but he's willing to listen to whatever I bring up.
Posted by alexandra_k on February 14, 2005, at 15:48:24
In reply to Re: remember sex question, well...., posted by B2chica on February 14, 2005, at 10:41:29
Good idea to hold off... I hope things work out well with you and your new t.
:-)
Posted by annierose on February 16, 2005, at 8:07:23
In reply to Re: remember sex question, well...., posted by B2chica on February 14, 2005, at 10:41:29
Sorry that didn't turn out the way any of us expected. I was so surprised to read your post. I would have felt humilated. You seemed to be handling her reaction better than I would have done. I think it says more about her than you.
SEX is something you should be able to talk about in session. Good Luck with future conversations with the new T in March
Posted by B2chica on February 16, 2005, at 10:31:10
In reply to Re: remember sex question, well...., posted by annierose on February 16, 2005, at 8:07:23
i guess i didn't feel terribly bad about it cuz with my 'issues' with women, in the back of my mind i didn't expect anything...or expected as much as i got. but it also really reinforced that i'm doing the right thing in going to see the other one as soon as i can.
Besides. i don't tend to trust people in general, so i say things fairly vague so that i can come up with quick responses to back track. (i have a permanent back door)
-but i Thank you for reinforcing that i Should be able to talk to my T about sex. cuz when she brought up that sex therapist topic i thought gosh...i talked about a sex issue with my last T and he was fine with it, never mentioned going to a 'specialist'... but i must admit she put some doubts about discussing it.
infact, the more i think about it...it's really stupid. cuz HOW many people have issues with sex...Many! you would think that a majority of her patients would bring up the issues at one time or another...
oh well.
boy do i wish i could get started already with that other T.
the count down is three weeks now... that's only three more sessions with her. and i'm bringing hubby in tonight. My goal would be for him to continue to see her then i can go to other...boy that would be ideal.
maybe burn some insence to offer up prayer for that one folks.
Thanks again.
b2c.
> Sorry that didn't turn out the way any of us expected. I was so surprised to read your post. I would have felt humilated. You seemed to be handling her reaction better than I would have done. I think it says more about her than you.
> SEX is something you should be able to talk about in session. Good Luck with future conversations with the new T in March
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Psychology | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.