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Posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 22, 2004, at 12:22:35
While we're on the love train here for our Ts, I thought it would be fun to list the top ten things we love about them: I'll start with Bean
1. Eyes the size of saucers and the color of milk chocolate
2. wicked sense of humor
3. Very intelligent (we discussed the concept of the "id" yesterday for half my session and I loved it
4. Strict boundaries (no hugging or touching other than handshakes, does not believe in patients being dependent, lets me call him "Dr.". For some reason, I love the strictness of the relationship)
5. Expresses sympathy and empathy well
6. Likes the Rolling Stones and Van Morrison
7. Has had complete and total confidence in me since day one that I would get better
8. Always says he's happy to see me
9. Calculator watch
10. Has helped me love myself again.
Posted by mair on October 22, 2004, at 14:03:37
In reply to 10 things we love about our Ts, posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 22, 2004, at 12:22:35
I don't think I can come up with 10, but here are some, in no particular order.
1. She usually has fresh flowers on the coffee table which separates the chair I sit in and the one she sits in.
2. She had to dig up some phlox from her garden this summer and she brought me a bunch to replant in mine, since I've admired the phlox outside her office on several occasions.
3. She has boundaries but she's not up tight about self-disclosing. She'll answer questions I ask her (I try not to get too personal) and she's self disclosed on lots of occasions where she thinks it would help me identify with her.
4. She's very conscientious and in my opinion, competent and careful about what she does.
5. She's very upbeat and naturally optamistic and seems never to get frustrated with the difficulties of dealing with someone as slow to progress as I am.
6. She doesn't get at all defensive about her own mistakes, or about any criticism I might have (I've never complained alot). She's very open to talking about our relationship and actually insists upon it.
7. She's organized and reliable.
8. She's friendly
I've run out of time; I'll think of some more later.
Mair
9.
Posted by Dinah on October 22, 2004, at 16:31:21
In reply to 10 things we love about our Ts, posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 22, 2004, at 12:22:35
The way he feels (open and receptive with a firm core)
His integrity
His commitment and willingness to work on a relationship
His willingness to admit to what's his fault
His attempts to improve himself as a therapist
His calming voice
His patience
His appreciation of supportive therapy without need for an end date :)
His ability to accept whatever pain I dump on him
*Him*
Posted by Dinah on October 22, 2004, at 16:35:01
In reply to Re: 10 things we love about our Ts » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Dinah on October 22, 2004, at 16:31:21
Posted by Aphrodite on October 22, 2004, at 17:16:59
In reply to 10 things we love about our Ts, posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 22, 2004, at 12:22:35
1. His gentle spirit and his obvious spiritual nature.
2. His staggering intellect. He is without a doubt the most intelligent person I know.
3. Intense, penetrating eyes that reflect whatever I am feeling.
4. His willingness to self-disclose and tell me about times he has felt like me and what he did about it.
5. How almost every time we talk on the phone, we'll hang up, and I'll get a call immediately back and he'll say, "I have one more thought . . ."
6. The way he thinks about me on his *own* time. He'll say, "I was thinking about something you said the other day . . ."
7. How he can immediately analyze a situation and pull it apart and make me see it in a way that I'd not considered.
8. His compliments that are backed up so concretely that I actually have to believe him. (I've never been able to accept praise.)
9. His "realness" and his willingness to show me his emotions.
10. He's the first person I've ever felt is on my side.
Posted by Pfinstegg on October 22, 2004, at 17:59:01
In reply to 10 things we love about our Ts, posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 22, 2004, at 12:22:35
1. Has extraordinary empathy which I can always count on
2. I feel he really cares about me
3. Is tremendously skilled at making it possible for me to express the real feelings of my different *ego states*, and for them to feel that they have found a very caring, intuitive listener
4. Always patient.
5. Is very handsome, tall and fit- he moves like an athlete (and is one)
6. He loves classical music, and especially loves to sing in sing-alongs of chorale music. I do,too, and keep running into him- it's gotten quite comfortable to just smile, wave and say "hi"
7. He loves hiking in mountains, and loves to photograph the flowers he finds; sometimes he shows them to me.
8. He has always treated me as if he is certain I can get better
9. Boundaries are both firm and flexible. On occasion, there are crossings, such as self-disclosure by him, which I treasure.
10. I love him, and feel he's the perfect analyst for me!
Posted by Dinah on October 22, 2004, at 18:06:01
In reply to Re: 10 things we love about our Ts, posted by Pfinstegg on October 22, 2004, at 17:59:01
Ooh, yes. I had quite forgotten somehow. I need to replace number nine with "His willingness to accept whoever shows up at therapy". Not all therapists would.
Posted by Pfinstegg on October 22, 2004, at 18:26:43
In reply to Re: 10 things we love about our Ts » Pfinstegg, posted by Dinah on October 22, 2004, at 18:06:01
I think you're right, Dinah. If they aren't skilled at dealing with our different *parts*, we get very skilled at concealing them- at least, that's been my experience with previous Ts.
11. Occasionally, we are able to put all the painful work aside for a moment, and have a wonderful laugh together- that means so much to me.
Posted by daisym on October 23, 2004, at 2:44:28
In reply to Re: 10 things we love about our Ts » Dinah, posted by Pfinstegg on October 22, 2004, at 18:26:43
1) He is playful and likes word puns.
2) He understands that often it isn't the brillance of his words, it is the soothing quality of his voice.
3) He emotionally holds me in a way I've never felt before.
4) He allows my insecurity and knows how to quiet those fears.
5) He is smart and treats me like I am too.
6)He has the most peaceful office.
7) He is always on time, always calls back and always makes time for me.
8) He takes it totally in stride that more than one of me shows up for therapy.
9) He accepts gifts in the manner they were intended.
10) He understands the whole idea of being my safe base and is totally OK with that.
Posted by morning*bell on October 23, 2004, at 12:25:52
In reply to Re: 10 things we love about our Ts, posted by daisym on October 23, 2004, at 2:44:28
1. Her incredible empathy.
2. Her intelligence.
3. She makes me feel like she cares for me, which to me is mind blowing..but I can accept it now.
4. Her boundaries, she got a perfect line between self disclosure and professionalism.
5. She make it alright for me to cry.
6. She makes it alright for me to cry.
7. She makes it alright for me to cry.
8. She's always there for me.
9. She's on my side. Always.
10. She "gets" me. I can't explain how imporatnt this is to me. It's the core of our whole relationship.
Posted by rubenstein on October 23, 2004, at 12:40:42
In reply to Re: 10 things we love about our Ts, posted by morning*bell on October 23, 2004, at 12:25:52
1. His confidence that I will get better
2. His understanding of the spiritual side of me
3. His ability to keep me safe
4. Making extra time for me
5. His love of classical music (being a musician this is a big one for me)
6. His uncanny ability to make me laugh in even the most seemingly trying times
7. His intellectual spirit and his recognition of that in me
8. His honesty
9. His way of being able to see right too the heart of what is really the problem
10. His kindness
Posted by crushedout on October 24, 2004, at 0:38:50
In reply to 10 things we love about our Ts, posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 22, 2004, at 12:22:35
1. her watery blue eyes2. her smooth ankles
3. her rounded shoulders
4. her weak jaw
5. her grey teeth and goofy smile
6. her inappropriateness
7. her dependability
8. the touch of her skin on mine
9. her raw vulnerability
10. her melodic voice
(i know -- weird list.)
Posted by terrics on October 24, 2004, at 11:27:45
In reply to 10 things we love about our Ts, posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 22, 2004, at 12:22:35
You are so lucky
Posted by gardenergirl on October 24, 2004, at 13:53:27
In reply to Re: 10 things we love about our Ts » Miss Honeychurch, posted by terrics on October 24, 2004, at 11:27:45
1. His wisdom
2. His sense of humor
3. His love of words
4. His unconditional stance
5. His unwavering caring and support
6. His ability to put everything together in the end in a way that makes sense, even if I've rambled the entire session.
7. The silly things (at times) he intreprets
8. His orientation (psychodynamic with a great deal of analytic flavor)
9. The fact that he's helped me so much
10. He is into gardening, too!gg
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