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Posted by rubenstein on September 22, 2004, at 16:54:24
Hi
I have an issue with SI. My therapist certainly doesn't condone my behavior but seems to understand the context of it in my life. It is a coping mechanism I use, and have unfortunately become addicted to. He never says harsh things about it, and is generally understanding though concerned at times. If this is the reason, why do I feel so bad about telling him if I have done it in the past week. I feel as if I have disapointed him, even if he insists that this is not the case. I guess I feel bad about it, I don't know. Does anyone have any similiar experiences with such things. How does your therapist deal with your SI'ing. Mine is convincced it will go away when the time is right. I am not so sure.... I am sort of scared.rubenstein
Posted by cubic_me on September 22, 2004, at 17:45:32
In reply to SI (may trigger) and therapy, posted by rubenstein on September 22, 2004, at 16:54:24
My T is very similar in how she handles my SI, and my reaction is similar too. For a year we've discussed it, and what it does for me, but she never expressed any opinions on it or told me that I shouldn't do it, but I still feel guilty if I do it. Tonight is my first night on my own in a week or so, and I so so want to cut, but it'm my first T appt for 2 months tomorrow, and I feel like if she finds out I've cut, she'll think I was doing it to manipulate her, which I really don't want do and don't want her to think I do.
I think that because we expect people to disagree and look down on our behaviour we feel guilty for doing it. I have similar trouble with my boyfriend, explaining that I didn't SI because he wasn't with me, it's just that I wouldn't do it while he was there (but I don't want him to be with me all the time either!)
Have you explained to your T how you feel about this? I think I will try a little tomorrow. In the last few sessions she's got tougher about me trying harder to not cut when I don't *have* to, so it will be a good thing to discuss I think.
You're not alone
Posted by rubenstein on September 23, 2004, at 10:01:31
In reply to Re: SI (may trigger) and therapy, posted by cubic_me on September 22, 2004, at 17:45:32
Wow, thanks for your post. You really helped explain many of the things that I, myself, have not been able to put words tofor a long time. Good luck at your session, if you want, please let me knwo how it goes, I will be thinking of you.
Posted by cubic_me on September 23, 2004, at 16:37:32
In reply to Re: SI (may trigger) and therapy, posted by cubic_me on September 22, 2004, at 17:45:32
I saw my T today, and I half discussed my SI with her. I haven't been cutting, even though I really want to, so that was good fuel for conversation. I discussed how I felt about it and how it felt to know that my boyfriend would know about it if I did it etc. It was a good conversation, but I didn't quite get on to how I feel about doing it in the context of *her* knowing it! I guess I'm half way there.
How are you getting on at the moment?
Posted by rubenstein on September 25, 2004, at 14:11:15
In reply to Re: SI (may trigger) and therapy, posted by cubic_me on September 23, 2004, at 16:37:32
Hey thanks for your message. I had a really bad day on Friday, it was the first time I had to go to the doctor becuase of an injury I had done. I also called my T and he met with me that day, and I think that maybe I have made a decision to stop. Hopefully, I can go through with this, it is so hard.... Thanks for your support
Rachel
Posted by cubic_me on September 25, 2004, at 15:31:31
In reply to Re: SI (may trigger) and therapy, posted by rubenstein on September 25, 2004, at 14:11:15
Anytime :)
Good luck, I'm here if you want to talk x
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