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Posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 10:08:15
I thought it would be better for my mental health to use the time at work instead to catch up. And that may be true during the day.
But at night the goblins of anxiety and depression come to toy with my mind and dance across my brain.
Therapy seems to protect me from them, darned if I know how. He's been in purely supportive mode lately, I haven't had much to say, and our sessions have seemed a bit aimless. But somehow they're doing something. My therapist says it's the consistency of the support. Maybe he's right.
Posted by karen_kay on April 7, 2004, at 10:19:26
In reply to I shouldn't have cancelled therapy yesterday, posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 10:08:15
can big get you in sometime in the near future? i'm sorry dear. listen to the tape or perhaps falls can post as pretend big to get you through until you see him again?
Posted by EmmyS on April 7, 2004, at 10:23:24
In reply to I shouldn't have cancelled therapy yesterday, posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 10:08:15
This is yet another post I need to print and tape to my wall. I can't count how many times I have cancelled and regretted. Either I cancelled because I was too busy (read "stressed beyond belief") or annoyed with him (read "regression big time") or thought I was just fine (read denial, sublimating, lazy, don't need nobody fer nothin', pick your favorite).
Live and learn? Ugh. The learning part ain't as easy as it sounds.
I think they cushion us. They act as release valves. For me, I get some much needed parenting too.
Hugs to you sweet lady. (((Dinah)))
Emmy
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 7, 2004, at 10:33:29
In reply to I shouldn't have cancelled therapy yesterday, posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 10:08:15
Dinah I am so sorry you feel so badly ..I kind of know the feeling I never cancel but I am T'less due to his trip and it knocks me down. We could talk about cows all sesiion but it stabilizes me some.....Maybe you can get in before Easter?
HUGS
Posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 10:51:02
In reply to I shouldn't have cancelled therapy yesterday, posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 10:08:15
I'll see him Friday morning, and I won't cancel that one.
And I know once I get to work (which is where I'm heading now) I'll be too busy to think about it. Which is why I cancelled, of course. I may even forget about the nights, because I tend to forget things.
But those darn nights!
Posted by fallsfall on April 7, 2004, at 12:57:10
In reply to Re: I shouldn't have cancelled therapy yesterday, posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 10:51:02
"Now, Dinah. You are working so hard these days, and you know what a stress that puts on you. I know how working extra hard makes you feel vulnerable.
But, you know what? I am still here to help you. You can call me, or even schedule another session, even when you have cancelled.
You were trying so hard to make the right choice - focusing on getting the work done does make a lot of sense. And I think that it is really great that you can push *towards* working hard - many times I think that you just want to hope that you'll just make it through somehow. But this time you were not passive at all - you took positive action in an attempt to help yourself to feel better. That is such a good thing. You should be proud of that. Sometimes, though, even our best efforts don't turn out exactly as we want them to. And that's just the way life is. But you *tried* to make the right choice, and that is what really matters.
But always remember, dear Dinah, if you are feeling that you need some support, I am here. I have your time saved on Friday, but you can call me before then if you want to."
Posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 18:42:02
In reply to Re: I shouldn't have cancelled therapy yesterday » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on April 7, 2004, at 12:57:10
I tell you Falls, you're way more nurturing than my therapist. :)
He'd probably just stare at me blankly and tell me that of course I can come in earlier if I wish but that it makes perfect sense to have cancelled.
Wait. That *is* what he said!
Posted by terrics on April 8, 2004, at 10:47:48
In reply to I shouldn't have cancelled therapy yesterday, posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 10:08:15
Hi Dinah, Maybe he is right and this was how you had to find out. Take care. terrics
Posted by 64Bowtie on April 9, 2004, at 3:57:22
In reply to I shouldn't have cancelled therapy yesterday, posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 10:08:15
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> But at night the goblins of anxiety and depression come to toy with my mind and dance across my brain.
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> Therapy seems to protect me from them, darned if I know how.
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<<<(((Dinah))), ya'know I love ya' Darlin', so anything I say is from my heart and brain; the best anyone can do.Like it or not, "...toy with my mind and dance across my brain" is still a habit you have. Linus from the "Peanuts" comics carries his little blue blanket and has his thumb in his mouth. Everyone can relate to that as a habit. He is also a young child and won't do it forever. Someday that blanket will get in his way and he will discard it.
Adults find excuses to lock themselves into distructive, illtimed, unhealthy habits. I have no label for your "demons" other than what you share here. I'll let you call 'em what you want to call 'em. What I want to point out is that they are voluntary on your part. They serve some odd purpose for you, but we worry about you when you can't manage.
Time and timing is most important. Discipline is a time-honoring endeavor. Prioritize your time with the "demons" included. If tasks are higher priority, make that decision. If playing with the "demons" is more important, make that decision.
Remember, denial locks you (by blinding you to what's true) into patterns (habits), and indecision hides the key to that door. Decide to play or not play with your "demons" and amazingly they will stop "blackmailing" you!
Take care. I only want the best for y'alls...
Rod
Posted by Dinah on April 9, 2004, at 20:53:13
In reply to Re: I shouldn't have cancelled » Dinah, posted by 64Bowtie on April 9, 2004, at 3:57:22
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