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Posted by Kath on October 31, 2009, at 11:12:47
In reply to Re: another setting » Dr. Bob, posted by seldomseen on October 31, 2009, at 6:38:34
> I think that would be a great alternative to have an "opt out" as part of our registration.
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> Would this opt out be applied to our older posts, or just the ones subsequent to the opt out?
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> Seldom.~ ~ What I like is that Opt Out would be the default setting & one would have to Opt In in order to have the buttons at the bottom of their posts.
Kath
Posted by muffled on October 31, 2009, at 11:24:07
In reply to I agree with Cactus - ) Dr. Bob, posted by Kath on October 31, 2009, at 11:06:31
IMHO, you said it well.
Thank you.
Its sort of awful to be standing back and seeing people respond as I once did.
Ever hopeful....
Your right, this is all just a repeat, yet again, of events in the past.
This is a PATTERN that has repeated itself, not only once or twice, but MANY times.
I am not talking about buttons. As Dinah said, I am more concerned with the well described behaviour of Bob.
I can't live w/it. I am certainly not willing to risk any more self disclosure with one who seems to have very little understanding of what we are saying re: privacy. YES the 'net is a crazy open place, but why make it worse?
I had never thot of the google thing B4...a board w/o that would be nice.
Anyhow I may respond to that on social.
I have to step back from this.
I still read babble, cuz at one time it meant so much to me.
But I know I can never post anything personal here.
I hope everyone is OK, and will take what Dinah has said into careful consideration....before you invest too much of yourself here.
I have nothing personally against Bob as a person, but I am afraid I am not at all happy w/him as a site administrator.
I was going to say g'head and tweet this post.....but then I thot.....:-( :-( then that gets my name potentially all over, and the neverending past archives hanging ovewr me :-( I do not regret my Babble friends, but I regret Babble :-(
I am going to try and be much more careful in future. Nothing is 100% safe, but there's goto be better than this over advertised place.
Take care,
Ones
Posted by BayLeaf on October 31, 2009, at 11:53:52
In reply to Re: Yes! » BayLeaf, posted by Kath on October 31, 2009, at 11:08:31
you didn't get my point....so what if this little twitter fix occurs? he'll just do something else next moth or the month after that.
this has gone on for ages. you've been around. you've seen it. it's a cycle. over and over as dinah has pointed out. he shows no sign of changing or wanting to change.
i'm not sure why we've put energy into trying for so long. i guess because posters love each other and want a place to be together. I like the idea of finding a new place to be together.
Posted by muffled on October 31, 2009, at 12:04:13
In reply to Re: Yes! » Kath, posted by BayLeaf on October 31, 2009, at 11:53:52
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20090930/msgs/923408.html
Posted by Kath on October 31, 2009, at 13:30:00
In reply to Re: Yes! » Kath, posted by BayLeaf on October 31, 2009, at 11:53:52
> you didn't get my point....so what if this little twitter fix occurs? he'll just do something else next moth or the month after that.
~ ~ Sorry. I knew you meant that but I'm so flippin' freaked out about this twitter thing that I guess that's up-front bigtime for me & I am focussed on that.
> this has gone on for ages. you've been around. you've seen it. it's a cycle. over and over as dinah has pointed out. he shows no sign of changing or wanting to change.~ ~ Yeah. It sure does keep happening over & over about one thing or another. I'd like to see a Whole lot more of what seems like respect shown to us all.
> i'm not sure why we've put energy into trying for so long. i guess because posters love each other and want a place to be together. I like the idea of finding a new place to be together.
~ ~ The one years ago sure worked well.
hugs, Kath
Posted by psych chat on October 31, 2009, at 13:48:46
In reply to Re: another setting » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on October 31, 2009, at 10:13:53
Dinah-The whole thread (started by someone who opted out) would have to be icon-link proof. And a person who opts out could choose not to post on any thread with the stupid icons. Which in effect wouldn't promote supporting others.
Barely anyone wants this. You are right - without us, it would not and could not be "Dr. Bob's site".
This whole thing is ridiculous. He should just get rid of the whole damn idea and just consider this a failed experiment.
Collecting ideas from both Dr. Bob and the members who comprise this site is an excellent idea, and the only one that makes any sense.
Posted by muffled on October 31, 2009, at 14:02:18
In reply to Members' Ideas and Failed Experiment » Dinah, posted by psych chat on October 31, 2009, at 13:48:46
> Collecting ideas from both Dr. Bob and the members who comprise this site is an excellent idea, and the only one that makes any sense.
*Bob has seemingly done this in the past too.
We had amazing discussions...
....then he goes ahead and does what he wants to, regardless of whats been said.
I can only hope you would be successful in helping Bob, but Bob is Bob, and though I and others honestly made huge efforts with him, to try and help him see where we were comming from, it made little difference.
He just appears not to get it, and I don't think he can. It is beyond him. Just like anybody in this world, there is some stuff people will never understand.
I don't think he is intentionally being obtuse, which is why people get hooked into trying to work with him, but it just hasn't worked in the past, as I say again, we TRIED. Many times. Many of us.Try to keep a distance....
You seem real nice, I hate to see you caught up.
Take care,
M
Posted by Kath on October 31, 2009, at 14:09:28
In reply to Members' Ideas and Failed Experiment » Dinah, posted by psych chat on October 31, 2009, at 13:48:46
> Dinah-The whole thread (started by someone who opted out) would have to be icon-link proof. And a person who opts out could choose not to post on any thread with the stupid icons. Which in effect wouldn't promote supporting others.
~ ~ Well then forget it!!
I think 'Failed Experiment' is the only appropriate thing then.
Kath
Posted by Kath on October 31, 2009, at 14:11:29
In reply to A new site is being considered... » BayLeaf, posted by muffled on October 31, 2009, at 12:04:13
> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20090930/msgs/923408.html
~ ~ I just looked into it a bit & it looks pretty easy. Probably the hardest part in setting up the actual site is choosing a name that hasn't already been taken. On the site I went to it's a 3-step process. I went through the first 2 steps just to check it out. I tried using "OurSafePlace" & that name was already taken.
Kath
Posted by Dinah on October 31, 2009, at 16:57:40
In reply to Re: sickening » 10derHeart, posted by psych chat on October 30, 2009, at 10:04:15
I teared right up when I read your post. I felt really *heard* and understood.
Bullying is such a huge issue for me that I can't be in a place where bullying is tolerated, much less enabled. Dr. Bob knows that, or at least he did know it, perhaps he's forgotten. To have him constantly talking about us being afraid of having newcomers come to Babble as the reason we're upset is sooooo distressing to me. I don't know anyone who doesn't want people here. And altogether I think he's focusing on the wrong side of the issue. It's the use of our posts that distresses me, not that I'm afraid of hordes of people joining Babble because of Twitter or Facebook.
Sigh. That's what I love about Babble, what you did. It's a shame that Dr. Bob just doesn't listen, or if he listens, doesn't hear. He's reminding me a lot of my middle school teachers.
Again, I request that no one use Facebook or Twitter this post without my permission.
Posted by cactus on October 31, 2009, at 17:28:24
In reply to I agree with Cactus - ) Dr. Bob, posted by Kath on October 31, 2009, at 11:06:31
Thanks Kath, I feel like you really heard what I'm trying to say.
I don't think we can actually be removed from threads that we appear on once we have been twittered.
I'm leaving, I'll leave my babble mail on, please feel free to contact me anytime. C
I'm looking into psych central at the moment but if you come up with any other ideas please let me know.
Peace C
Posted by cactus on October 31, 2009, at 17:31:00
In reply to Re: another setting » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on October 31, 2009, at 10:13:53
Amazing Dinah, perfectly said. C
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 3:05:47
In reply to Re: I agree with Cactus - ) Dr. Bob » Kath, posted by cactus on October 31, 2009, at 17:28:24
> I can only speak for myself, but I would guess having that option/setting installed - from the registration/update registration - to have or not have Twitter/Facebook linking icons at the bottom of one's posts would keep people here and allow one post more supportively, and possibly bring back those who left.
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> For new users - as far as opting out rather than in - that should work as long as it is CLEARLY stated (as opposed to being covertly imbedded into some jargon) their posts could be linked to Facebook/Twitter using the icons if they choose to not opt out. You should also tell them their initial post will be tweeted out by you to welcome them.
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> psych chat> Yes, this seems like an excellent solution. I really hope this option is put into place. I would be satisfied.
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> fb> I think that would be a great alternative to have an "opt out" as part of our registration.
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> Would this opt out be applied to our older posts, or just the ones subsequent to the opt out?
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> Seldom.> is this option one that applies to the reader of the posts or the poster of the posts?
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> Dinah> YESSS Sounds very good.
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> So just to verify - would this mean that the 'default' would be 'no Facebook' & people would have to request somehow that the buttons be at the bottom of their posts?
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> KathThanks for working with me on this and supporting this plan. It should be working now. Here are links to the setting, the FAQ, and the consent:
http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/settings.pl
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#sharetweet
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/consent.htmlYour setting applies to all your posts. The posts you've posted, not the posts you read. It's opt-out, like the "do not share/tweet" list was. The default is buttons, and you can opt out of the buttons if you don't want them.
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> This would be acceptable for me, as long as people who respond or click on the twittered posts can't see us and our replies at all
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> Cactus> I agree & to me, this is an extremely important aspect.
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> If people join they can see all.
> If NOT - they can't - pretty simple & straightforward.
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> Kath> I don't think we can actually be removed from threads that we appear on once we have been twittered.
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> CactusSome of you may be unfamiliar with Twitter, which could be another source of anxiety. I should explain more. It might be worth a thousand words, so here's a "picture":
http://twitter.com/psycho_babel
That takes you to the "tweets" (posts to Twitter) by @psycho_babel (the @ indicates a Twitter username). You don't need a Twitter account to go there.
A tweet is a short text message. The text can include links. When "a post is tweeted", that whole web page doesn't show up on Twitter. All that's posted is a link and some text, either an excerpt or a request to welcome a new poster.
So that doesn't include replies. But if someone reads the tweet and clicks on the link, that brings them to Babble, and of course once they're here, they do see the whole page. Even if they haven't registered. Like Google doesn't show whole pages, but anyone can click on the links and see them.
> I had never thot of the google thing B4...
> I am going to try and be much more careful in future.
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> muffledPlease do try to keep in mind that this is a public forum. Maybe another way the new buttons can help is to remind people of that!
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> Bob, bigger is NOT always better.
> Having hordes descend into a group is NOT useful.
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> muffled> people specifically looking for a site like this from a need rather than from curiosity after reading a Facebooked or Tweeted post - Those people are the new people who I'd be glad to see arrive here.
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> I think that a large influx of new members over a short period of time isn't ideal. Who knows if that's what would result from Facebooking/Twittering.
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> KathI don't want hordes to descend, either. That could also be a source of anxiety. But I myself think it's unlikely, and if there are in fact hordes, the number of new registrations during a particular time period could be limited, and beyond that new people could be asked to wait.
Again, I have mixed feelings about us-them thinking. I think some Facebook and Twitter users feel a need for a site like this and some current Babble users are here because of curiosity. And some people may come out of curiosity, but stay because they feel a need.
Bob
PS: I haven't gotten to some posts yet, I'll reply to them later.
Posted by henrietta on November 1, 2009, at 6:08:56
In reply to Re: another setting, posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 3:05:47
Thanks. Being able to remove the buttons helps.
Posted by Dinah on November 1, 2009, at 6:43:26
In reply to Re: another setting, posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 3:05:47
Thank you, Dr. Bob.
I do think this is a reasonable compromise.
When you register for the first time, are you directed to the settings page?
(Would it be possible for babblemail on/off to be on the settings page instead of in the registration?)
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 11:50:44
In reply to Re: another setting » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on November 1, 2009, at 6:43:26
> Thanks. Being able to remove the buttons helps.
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> henrietta> Thank you, Dr. Bob.
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> I do think this is a reasonable compromise.
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> When you register for the first time, are you directed to the settings page?
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> (Would it be possible for babblemail on/off to be on the settings page instead of in the registration?)
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> DinahYou're welcome. Thanks for your input, and your patience.
I've included a link from the welcome page, too, that's a good idea. And I agree, babblemail should also be a setting, let me see how hard it would be to change that...
Bob
Posted by floatingbridge on November 1, 2009, at 12:00:49
In reply to Re: another setting, posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 11:50:44
:-)
an icon free,
fb
Posted by cactus on November 1, 2009, at 12:17:55
In reply to Re: another setting, posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 3:05:47
I see you've done a lot of work Dr. Bob, but my main concern has still not been addressed. This is what is forcing me to leave.
The link you provided as an example
http://twitter.com/psycho_babel
still shows my name on a particular tweet, once this particular tweet is clicked on, a psychobabble thread pops up with my name on it.
I don't want my name appearing on any tweets or links.
If anyone responds to a post which then gets twittered, their name will still appear on the related thread.
This is why people are leaving and not responding to any posts because if that post gets twittered they will appear on that thread that could end up anywhere in the world.
Sure the buttons have disappeared from my page after changing my settings but it still doesn't stop me from appearing if I respond to a post that someone tweets off the boards.
I feel like I have been lolled into a false sense of security, it hasn't fixed the problem at all and people will continue to leave in droves.
I feel like you don't understand the implications of what you are doing and how the technology behind it actually works. I also think this site has been seriously compromised and is no long safe.
I just don't understand how you can feel comfortable with the knowledge that our posts can end up anywhere and fellow babblers that do understand how this works have stopped replying to all posts.
This has nothing to do with them and us mentality, it comes down to basic privacy and the trust we put in you, which has been grossly breached.
C
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 13:46:42
In reply to Re: another setting » Dr. Bob, posted by cactus on November 1, 2009, at 12:17:55
> The link you provided as an example
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> http://twitter.com/psycho_babel
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> still shows my name on a particular tweetWhich one? Sorry, I'm not seeing your name anywhere there.
> I feel like I have been lolled into a false sense of security
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> I feel like you don't understand the implications of what you are doing and how the technology behind it actually works.Let's try to come to a common understanding of how things work. You may in fact have a false sense of security. A dialectic of this community is that it is public, yet can feel private. Maybe this discussion is reminding people of that.
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 14:09:01
In reply to Re: another setting, posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 11:50:44
> > (Would it be possible for babblemail on/off to be on the settings page instead of in the registration?)
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> I agree, babblemail should also be a settingOK, I'm going to try to convert it. First, I'm going to take it out of the registration system, then I'll add it as a setting. In between, you won't be able to change it. But babblemail should keep working.
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 18:48:42
In reply to Re: another setting, posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 14:09:01
> OK, I'm going to try to convert it.
It should be converted now. Let me know if you run into any problems!
Bob
Posted by cactus on November 1, 2009, at 21:05:07
In reply to Re: my name » cactus, posted by Dr. Bob on November 1, 2009, at 13:46:42
> > The link you provided as an example
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> > http://twitter.com/psycho_babel
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> > still shows my name on a particular tweet
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> Which one? Sorry, I'm not seeing your name anywhere there.
>**Dr Bob why did you leave the next line of my post out?** which is...
**still shows my name on a particular tweet, once this particular tweet is clicked on, a psychobabble thread pops up with my name on it.**
My name doesn't appear on the twitter hompage, that wasn't my point. It appears on a certain tweet once it's clicked on.
I feel that was rather deceiving of you to dismiss that very valid point, but most computer savvy people know exactly what I'm talking about.
Either you don't understand how it works or you are trying to deceive people. There is only 2 outcomes to this very serious scenario.
I'm very concerned. Cactus
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 2, 2009, at 0:13:08
In reply to Re: my name » Dr. Bob, posted by cactus on November 1, 2009, at 21:05:07
> > still shows my name on a particular tweet, once this particular tweet is clicked on, a psychobabble thread pops up with my name on it.
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> My name doesn't appear on the twitter hompage, that wasn't my point. It appears on a certain tweet once it's clicked on.Tweets are posts on Twitter. Thanks for confirming that your name doesn't appear there. I wouldn't want anyone to think it did.
Your name does appear on the Babble thread that the tweet links to. But that's on Babble, not on the tweet.
Can we agree on that?
But maybe exactly where your name appears isn't the issue and what really concerns you is that it just took one click. Does it also concern you that links are on Google and one click there also brings people here?
Or maybe that's not the issue, either, and what you're really worried about is who the link might bring? Do you feel comfortable with Babble users seeing your name, but not Twitter users?
Bob
Posted by cactus on November 2, 2009, at 2:42:07
In reply to Re: my name » cactus, posted by Dr. Bob on November 2, 2009, at 0:13:08
> > > still shows my name on a particular tweet, once this particular tweet is clicked on, a psychobabble thread pops up with my name on it.
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> > My name doesn't appear on the twitter hompage, that wasn't my point. It appears on a certain tweet once it's clicked on.
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> Tweets are posts on Twitter. Thanks for confirming that your name doesn't appear there. I wouldn't want anyone to think it did.
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> Your name does appear on the Babble thread that the tweet links to. But that's on Babble, not on the tweet.
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> Can we agree on that?
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> But maybe exactly where your name appears isn't the issue and what really concerns you is that it just took one click. Does it also concern you that links are on Google and one click there also brings people here?
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> Or maybe that's not the issue, either, and what you're really worried about is who the link might bring? Do you feel comfortable with Babble users seeing your name, but not Twitter users?
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> BobBob, I have no problem with babblers seeing my name at all. That's why I'm here. I have huge issues with twitter users seeing my name and I'll tell you why but I just don't think you'll ever understand.
Google is a "search", tweets are sent out to others on purpose. It's actually not that different to being spammed with trash in your inbox. It's a massive difference in my book mate.
Good luck Dr. Bob, I feel you are not the ethical person I thought you were and I don't appreciate you trying to sugar coat your deceptive lies using me as an example and taking the excerpts of my posts that suited you. I felt that that was passive aggressive bullying on your behalf. I also felt like that was the biggest bitter pill I've ever had to swallow.
Google is a search engine.
Twitter is spam that is received without asking for it.
I think it will bring bullies in, without question. I hope it doesn't though, for everyone's peace of mind and all the wonderful people who made this place somewhere for me to seek refuge in times of crisis.
Sorry we don't see eye to eye on this. Cactus
Posted by Nadezda on November 2, 2009, at 10:38:18
In reply to Re: my name » Dr. Bob, posted by cactus on November 2, 2009, at 2:42:07
Think of it this way, cactus. Someone who uses twitter is not a "twitter user" and someone from Babble is not a "babble user"-- or, put another way way, there's nothing about being a user of one or the other forum (twitter or babble) that defines what type of person one is, what honor or morality one has, and what respect for other people one has.
There are lots of good people on Babble and lots of good people who use twitter; in fact, there's really nothing per se that distinguishes us from them, except that we happen to have found and come to this site.
Really once someone from twitter does a search for say a drug, and finds a tweet from babble about that drug and comes here-- how is that person different from someone who used google for searches and found Babble by searching for drug information there. --Which, by the way, is how I found Babble several years ago--
Once someone who searched/searches google for information or help-- or searches twitter for information and help-- comes here-- they are, in essence, no longer a twitter user-- they've become a babble user.
Maybe you think of twitter as this negative, superficial place full of bullies and people with bad motives-- But that may also be your fears of the unknown--
There are people here and there with mixed motives and conflicts and strengths and weaknesses. Give this new opening a chance. If it turns out to be a terrible thing, you can reevaluate. But maybe if you can just give it time, you'll find that nothing essential about babble or your experience will change-- and that our community will be what it has been--- with its strengths and weaknesses-- and potential for learning and growth.
Nadezda
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