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Posted by tepi on February 29, 2008, at 0:07:04
Bed - Job - Bed - Job , here comes the weeking
saturday - bed , tv , net
sunday - bed , tv , netnot a single human being near to me , not calls
on my phone nor cell, no invitations to parties,
no friend or people in lifehow do I get out of this hole? Im the worst doing
friend. If people feels u r not comfortable
with them then it is almost impossible to continue a frinedshipThere is a rock concert next week, Im not going,
Sadly , dont have someone to go withno idea how to get out of this with my social
phobia , depression , and a lot of things more=(
Posted by Sigismund on February 29, 2008, at 0:59:15
In reply to Lonely life, posted by tepi on February 29, 2008, at 0:07:04
Me gustaria hablar con tu en espanol.
Me gustaria tambien estudiar espanol en Cuzco.
Aqui esta una foto de Cuzco....
http://www.travelphoto.net/photos/pictures/peru/cuzco/cuzco-photos0001a.jpg
Digame que hacer.
Tu amigo
Declan
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 29, 2008, at 3:40:49
In reply to Lonely life, posted by tepi on February 29, 2008, at 0:07:04
It's been like that for almost 8 years of my life. Ya, sounds very bad, eh? I don't know, it seems mostly when I let my weight slip, all of a sudden nobody liked me anymore. So-called friends just got up, packed-up and left town (so-called "best-friends"), others told me not to call them because I was "too depressing". Last year I thought I had made up with an older friend, and then he just stops phoning me, avoiding me, never returns my calls, etc. Women avoid me like the plague, heh. Geezzz..I LOVE to go out to places, go to concerts, do stuff like that, it's so much fun. But, nobody seems to care to want to bother with Jay any more. Maybe except my Niece. Bless her heart. Sweet 24 years old, ready to take on the world, she likes to take her Uncle Jay out. We went to a rock concert last year..20,000 people, it was awesome. That was the first time in all those years I actually had some social fun. Wait another 10 years, if I am lucky. :-(
Jay
Posted by Justherself54 on February 29, 2008, at 7:18:40
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely » tepi, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 29, 2008, at 3:40:49
You sure find out who your friends are when this kind of illness hits. I was a terrible self-isolator..didn't even answer the phone half the time..then started Nardil..I fortunately never had a friend tell me I was too depressing to be around but I had my common-law of 3 years leave me because "I was too emotionally high maintenance"!
Sometimes I think what happens when you're in a deep depression your friends don't know how to deal with it and are not educated about it. After I started feeling more social I started called some of my old friends and reconnecting. I explained what had happened to me and was surprised to hear they thought I was the one who didn't want to be friends anymore..that they didn't know what to do and just ended up leaving me alone, because that was what I was projecting..
I don't think we realize when we're in the depths of depression and so full of social anxiety that it may just be us that's pushing friends away because it's just too hard and exhausting to be around people.
Posted by Squiggles on February 29, 2008, at 10:05:27
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely, posted by Justherself54 on February 29, 2008, at 7:18:40
Hi,
I'm back on this thread. I am getting
used to being independent. My husband and
I separated about a year ago. He has a
lot of friends. It's hard for me to get
used to being alone when i'm sick. But
my parents and family are nearby to
answer a call. They are very concerned
about me. I'm spoiled.
I don't mind being alone; infact
i seem to be more able to connect with
people and relate to the world
more freely, with more self-confidence.
I always felt like a "Manuel" (Manuelle in
my case i guess) from "Faulty Towers" with
my husband nearby, lol.
Strange. Life is strange when the unexpected
happens.Squiggles
Posted by Phillipa on February 29, 2008, at 11:53:03
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely » tepi, » Justherself54, posted by Squiggles on February 29, 2008, at 10:05:27
Same here was always a loner if I compared myself to others but when I chose to be with others no problems. Phillipa ps then this anxiety hit wham out of the blue.
Posted by Squiggles on February 29, 2008, at 12:14:04
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely, posted by Phillipa on February 29, 2008, at 11:53:03
oops, spelling error, that should have read:
"Fawlty Towers" - what a classic!
My favourite episode was with "Basil the Rat"
'you put Basil in the Rattattouille?'unforgettable, excellent antidepressant;
Squiggles
Posted by francineus on February 29, 2008, at 12:42:52
In reply to Lonely life, posted by tepi on February 29, 2008, at 0:07:04
I'm sorry that you are so lonely. Depression can be so isolating. Have you thought of going to therapy or depression support group meetings? Maybe finding people who can relate to your pain would be good friends to seek out now. I'm a social worker and
if you tell me where you live I can do some digging into some groups that may be around that you may want to check out. Best of luck. You are not alone.
Posted by Sigismund on February 29, 2008, at 22:31:49
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely, posted by Justherself54 on February 29, 2008, at 7:18:40
>I don't think we realize when we're in the depths of depression and so full of social anxiety that it may just be us that's pushing friends away because it's just too hard and exhausting to be around people.
That's a good thought.
And it can be surprisingly painful as well.
Posted by tepi on February 29, 2008, at 23:08:54
In reply to Re: Lonely life » tepi, posted by Sigismund on February 29, 2008, at 0:59:15
> Me gustaria hablar con tu en espanol.
>
> Me gustaria tambien estudiar espanol en Cuzco.
>
> Aqui esta una foto de Cuzco....
>
> http://www.travelphoto.net/photos/pictures/peru/cuzco/cuzco-photos0001a.jpg
>
> Digame que hacer.
>
> Tu amigo
> DeclanSi Declan
where is that picture ? CUzco ???? never heard of it Dec
We can speak in spanish anytime you want
Posted by tepi on February 29, 2008, at 23:15:22
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely » Justherself54, posted by Sigismund on February 29, 2008, at 22:31:49
friday again and Im on the bed
I will answer the post , althoguth I just see one for me I thinkI not focused , Im on mexico
Posted by Sigismund on February 29, 2008, at 23:37:06
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely, posted by tepi on February 29, 2008, at 23:15:22
Hola Tep
Cuzco es la capital vieja Inca en Peru.
Cerca de aqui....
http://www.ime.usp.br/~jja/cuzco.jpg
que tu sabes es Machu Pichu.
No esta muy lejos de Mexico.
Posted by yxibow on March 1, 2008, at 3:24:52
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely, posted by tepi on February 29, 2008, at 23:15:22
>
> friday again and Im on the bed
> I will answer the post , althoguth I just see one for me I think
>
> I not focused , Im on mexicoI also feel alone -- but everyone sometimes feels alone inside. Depression of course amplified.
I have suggested in the past as mentioned before by a previous poster depression support meetings, which do exist in parts of Mexico as an auxiliary of our NAMI. I can't promise that they will exist in your location but somehow there is surely a way of connection, through other ways too, religion if you are, or not, hobbies, all sorts of possibilities.
But as you said there was an event to go out to -- sometimes you just have to force yourself to do it, alone, because doing things reinforces that you are capable of it.I have a very hard case of extracting myself back to doing things, being in the public, because of my self-views and all the rare other things that come with my complex disorder.
Sometimes its better though to view what you can do, than what you can't. Turning the won'ts into the wills. Nobody every said it was easy, its a process.
As much as I'm afraid of death, I'm actually really afraid of life. Of living, and doing things and becoming the independent person I so want to be.
And these things are not impossible, but it takes determination, support, and therapy wherever you can get it.
I wish you a good weekend, there are good people here to talk to.
-- tidings
Posted by sdb on March 2, 2008, at 17:12:14
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely » tepi, posted by yxibow on March 1, 2008, at 3:24:52
I wasn't so happy the time when I wanted to be very 'normal' like just the other guys around.
I saw a young group of paraplegics on their wheelchairs smiling and being happy some time ago.
Their laughter gave me a warm feeling.
Posted by Sigismund on March 2, 2008, at 18:52:45
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely, posted by sdb on March 2, 2008, at 17:12:14
Sometimes the act of wanting something makes it harder to get it.
If that is so it is better to accept that for whatever reason there is no hope and try something else.I do know what it's like to be young and that have something preventing me from having the kind of contact I wanted.
You know the Parable of the Talents?
To each who has shall more be given, but to him that has not, even that which he has will be taken away.
Life can be very cruel, no doubt about it.
But the world is a big big place.
Posted by Squiggles on March 2, 2008, at 19:16:21
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely, posted by Sigismund on March 2, 2008, at 18:52:45
"The rain falls
On the Just and Unjust Fella'
But the Unjust doesn't care
Cause he stole the Just's Umbrella"(probably British)
Squiggles
Posted by tepi on March 5, 2008, at 22:57:16
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely, posted by sdb on March 2, 2008, at 17:12:14
> I wasn't so happy the time when I wanted to be very 'normal' like just the other guys around.
>
> I saw a young group of paraplegics on their wheelchairs smiling and being happy some time ago.
>
> Their laughter gave me a warm feeling.That kinds of things do not work with me . It seems I have a heart of rock . I just dont feel
nothing , and this is because of the meds !!!!
Im condem it !!
Posted by tepi on March 5, 2008, at 22:59:52
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely » tepi, posted by Sigismund on February 29, 2008, at 23:37:06
> Hola Tep
> Cuzco es la capital vieja Inca en Peru.
> Cerca de aqui....
> http://www.ime.usp.br/~jja/cuzco.jpg
> que tu sabes es Machu Pichu.
> No esta muy lejos de Mexico.
>Oh yes sure , I know now . Machu Pichu . The Inca Imperio and one of the new seven wonders of the worlds I think
Posted by tepi on March 5, 2008, at 23:02:48
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely » tepi, posted by yxibow on March 1, 2008, at 3:24:52
> >
> > friday again and Im on the bed
> > I will answer the post , althoguth I just see one for me I think
> >
> > I not focused , Im on mexico
>
> I also feel alone -- but everyone sometimes feels alone inside. Depression of course amplified.
>
>
> I have suggested in the past as mentioned before by a previous poster depression support meetings, which do exist in parts of Mexico as an auxiliary of our NAMI. I can't promise that they will exist in your location but somehow there is surely a way of connection, through other ways too, religion if you are, or not, hobbies, all sorts of possibilities.
>
>
> But as you said there was an event to go out to -- sometimes you just have to force yourself to do it, alone, because doing things reinforces that you are capable of it.
>
> I have a very hard case of extracting myself back to doing things, being in the public, because of my self-views and all the rare other things that come with my complex disorder.
>
> Sometimes its better though to view what you can do, than what you can't. Turning the won'ts into the wills. Nobody every said it was easy, its a process.
>
> As much as I'm afraid of death, I'm actually really afraid of life. Of living, and doing things and becoming the independent person I so want to be.
>
> And these things are not impossible, but it takes determination, support, and therapy wherever you can get it.
>
> I wish you a good weekend, there are good people here to talk to.
>
> -- tidingsHello thankyou for your help . I belive someone gave me in the past someting here that is the same you mentioned. But then I entered in a deep depression and forgot and lost all the info
Where can I look that ? is this a free help?
Please see my last post
Posted by tepi on March 5, 2008, at 23:23:25
In reply to Re: Lonely life...ya..VERY lonely, posted by Squiggles on March 2, 2008, at 19:16:21
Doctors alway ask me about my childhood and I
say everything was ok
I just remember to be in all the fights
my parent had in the past. I now some of them
was because my mom was already sick and she
was telling many stupid things to my dad. Anyway
I was there in all the figths because I slept
with them . Sometimes I had to jump between them
because my dad grab the hands of my mom very strong and I just couldn resist this and I just get in the middle of this , telling my dad to stay away from her . He never hit her but was very close , and I was there , that was sh*t I remember and there is nothing I like to rememberNow , next is a rule
No matter wich one of my family member talkd to me I just dont feel that I need to response them.
I had the feeling of , shut up , Im not in the mood of talking to you.
Mom talk to me by phone 1 hr ago , and I did not said anything different from yes or no.
Its like something stronger than me. I prefer to stay quiet and force him tu hung up the phone
Same happen with my sister , my brother , my dadany relation about my childhood?
Posted by Phillipa on March 6, 2008, at 19:18:36
In reply to Root on my family , please read, posted by tepi on March 5, 2008, at 23:23:25
Tepi have you ever had any couseling talk theraphy as to me I feel like this type of childhood could have impacted your depression. Have you considered talk theraphy or even posting a thread on psychology as a different group of posters post there and may have some insight for you. I care about you Tepi. Love Phillipa
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