Posted by rabble_rouser on July 6, 2005, at 15:37:39
In reply to Re: Finished effexor today. No Withdrawal » rabble_rouser, posted by Shortelise on July 6, 2005, at 13:51:52
Hi ShortE,
You're very welcome! Plus I enjoy sharing :)
In addition I have found that maintaining my 'sleep bank account' of 8 hours a night (if I miss an hour, grab it later in the week - keep the account in the black!), drinking 2 litres of water a day (keeps your focus and your mind fresh) and going to the gym all really help. Distraction is a lovely way of staving off an incoming bad mood. Ive been keeping The comedy section of limewire in business for weeks! Meditation and visualisation are truly awesome - I can't recommend them enough.
I have also kept up the therapy techniques I have learned, and have been keeping a Self Development Journal. This has helped me change my view of my natural human tendencies to be flawed from 'weaknesses' to 'opportunities for directed growth'. If I screw up, I stick it in the journal. If I feel bad, I can't say "I shouldn't feel this way" because thats BS - I DO feel this way, and 'should' won't change that!
I just let the emotion rise, do what its going to do, and then let it fall. Giving up that desire for control is LIBERATING - and suddenly I felt human again. At last - I can feel!
Once it has subsided, I mentally strip away the emotion, and then ask, "what can I learn from this? how could i do it differently next time?"
The buddhist monks say "believing is seeing". Its an unfortunate truth that in humans, we say "whenI am confident enough, thenI will try" But it just doesnt work that way.
We cannot wait for the confidence to strike before we try to change because we only gain confidence by DOING. Riding a bike. Painting a vase of flowers. Surfing. How do we learn? By falling off. Screwing up the flowers. Swallowing seaweed. The same is true of psychological skills.
We can only stick our chests out, take a risk and try our best. Maybe we get rejected. Maybe someone gets upset. Just like wiping out in the surf, these personal mistakes are just that - errors to be learned from. Just think - what an empowering way to view the world!
The thing is once you start enjoying the process, and take your mind off the outcome, your ability to learn from your mistakes increases. And as you learn, something else increases.
Thats right. Your confidence.
Why do human beings have to be such a goddamn paradox?
I have been advocating this book all over the forum. I assure you I have no link with this guy and I make no profit - other than the healing this book is giving me, and the chance to help you guys.
How to Accept Yourself - Windy Dryden.
Dont be scared - this books british! ;-)
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