Posted by sunny10 on June 23, 2005, at 11:40:43
In reply to correction, posted by rainbowbrite on June 23, 2005, at 11:25:41
it DID throw me for a second, so thanks for the clarification.
I'm going to tell you what my SO told me just last night.
"stop thinking and allow yourself to just be. Slow down." What he meant was that I was anxious, then engaging in catastrophic thinking, which only panicked me more. He told me to give myself permission to let go of the responsibility I felt toward everything and just "be" for now. Don't take any actions, don't make any decisions.
And he said that because he knew I was feeling extremely overwhelmed.
He said there would be plenty of time for decisive actions after I managed to control my own emotions first.
For me, it means, refuse to react. It means, act after having a chance to rationally think about a situation instead of reacting with chaos and panic.
The truth is, that in our society, there is rarely a need for a true fight or flight reaction.
You know, unless you're being mugged or something...
I'm sure that if you take prescribed meds correctly (or have a slow glass of wine after dinner- one glass) you can manage to slow your thoughts down until you can decide not to react.
Does any of that help you? It helped me, but I realize that we are not the same person...
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