Posted by baseball55 on March 19, 2018, at 17:47:08
In reply to Mortified myself, posted by Clearskies on March 17, 2018, at 23:47:51
I find myself smiling at this, though I understand for you it isn't funny. But really, how would you know this stuff unless you had teenager/young adult children? And I do, but still don't entirely get the FWB concept.
My daughter is 29 and just got married. Then she was working with this guy and pondering an affair - like why can't we just be FWB and my husband and I just have and open marriage. I told her things don't work like that in real life. Affairs are affairs. They don't just skate along as FWB. People get attached. Marriages fall apart. Open marriages end in closed divorces.
But still. Maybe if I was in my 40s, unmarried, not looking for anything deep or lasting, an FWB relationship would be nice. But personally, I think I tend to get too attached to have that work for me.
> (Im using this as a diary, so it is exempt from the 3-in-a-row rule)
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> I didnt know what Friends With Benefits were.
> I got divorced, you see, but I hadnt been unfaithful. Only mentally ill, addicted, and abused.
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> So when someone I considered Someone I know and who I would talk to in the supermarket proposed a different approach to the relationship, I had no f*ck*ng idea what an FWB meant. Was it like LBQT? I was way too embarrassed to even ask. I mean, Im younger.Im supposed to do these things, right?? I havent watched tv in 2 years. I dont know what any of the vernacular means. I mean, I havent even been able to READ because of my depression.
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> I have messed it up every step of the way. Ive misunderstood, not known what phrases mean in the modern vernacular, for goodness sake; and Ive capped it off by now gradually recovering the memory of a conversation that would have removed our present estrangement entirely. Which I caused simply by not remembering a conversation that I much later realised Id had with him, of course.
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> And my massive crush continues unabated.
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