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Re: I do miss babble.

Posted by alexandra_k on March 19, 2016, at 2:58:45

In reply to Re: I do miss babble., posted by alexandra_k on March 16, 2016, at 3:53:06

the walking thing... I don't get it. just today i was waiting at the lights for the cross signal. so a group of about 4 girls come up. walk in front of me. they want to wait in front of me for the cross walk signal, even though i arrived ahead of them and they could have grouped themselves to the left of me or to the right of me or even behind me. but no, in front of me they want to be. and then the person who stands right in front of me will turn around. like i'm supposed to interact with them all in a group like. i think it is like that. that they want to interact with me. that it's a way of forming a group around me.

but it makes me feel pretty f*ck*ng angry, to tell you the honest truth. firstly, it's fairly f*ck*ng rude to get up the front of someone, like that. with your back to them. second, it's fairly f*ck*ng confrontational to do that to a person by themself when you are in a f*ck*ng group. thirdly, it's pretty f*ck*ng weird to have your back turned to where it is that you want to go... (more on that)... fifthly... they are like 18 and i'm like 37 and i'm not their friend and i'm not their f*ck*ng mother neither...

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so... since... uh... forever... there have been social norms on elevator behavior - right? and those norms involve your getting in to the elevator and your turning around to face where it is you want to go.

and i think there have been studies done (even) on how high status people (male bosses etc) will tend to stand at the back so they have their backs agains the wall and can have people in front of them (where they can look at them) but the people up the front... just have to be looked at.

and there were studies done on breaking the social norms. psychology experiments where people would get into the lift and wouldn't turn around to face the doors. would just stare at the people in the lift all in their faces, like. and how... the 'normal' response to that was that the people would start to turn around (away from being stared at).

so in my building there is a lift.

and here is the game changer: there is a mirror on the back of the lift. and so now... you see the kids get into the lift and they are just enthralled by their reflection... there is something magnetic about it. they certainly aren't going to turn away from it (to where they plan on going. and... if they can... they will even migrate to the back of the lift so they can see themselves better. and if you have gotten into the lift first and you are already at the back of it facing the doors (where you want to go) they... don't even seem to notice. that's how enthralled by themselves they are.

like how at the gym you can be standing fairly far back using the mirror and always... someone will get in in front of you (enthralled by themselves not looking out for other people at all) and get in within 30cm of it to... i don't know... squeeze a pimple or check their hair, or something. it's like other people don't exist when they are communing with themselves in the mirror...

it's pretty f*ck*ng weird, i think...

is it just here?

 

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