Posted by alexandra_k on October 25, 2015, at 21:36:27
In reply to Re: Do we ask for help as often as necessary?, posted by baseball55 on October 14, 2015, at 19:49:48
Yes. I guess people are often happy to help if what helps is something that is within their capability.
If it isn't... Then they tend to... Feel frustrated, I guess. Powerless. Whatever. Doesn't tend to bring out the best in them, typically.
Some of what I need/ed was to feel heard by people who understood me. But people were typically too busy telling me they understood me perfectly to listen. And most people weren't really capable of understanding -- because we were too different.
The puppy vs cat person kind of a thing. The puppy people simply don't understand. They can say they do: But they don't, really. Then they are busy trying to get me to do things that make them feel better etc when basically most of my problems were due to my not being allowed / able to do the things that make me feel better (where what makes them feel better is not what makes me feel better).
E.g., what I need to do is to get some menial job to feel useful. What I need is to be surrounded by people all the time. What I need is to look after those people who I'm surrounded by so I feel useful. What I need is to get out of my head. What I need is to stop thinking. What I need is to put myself aside completely and focus myself on looking after the endless succession of people who only care about momentary connection with others constantly all the time always immediately responsive to their cries of absolute intolerance of being all by themselves for .2 of a second.
Ugh.
What I need... Is a bloody big fence.
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