Posted by alexandra_k on May 16, 2014, at 20:14:45
In reply to Re: maybe ill post here..., posted by Christ_empowered on May 16, 2014, at 8:05:24
i think often people are attracted to fields (e.g., counselling) because they think they will get to learn stuff that will help them... rather than because they are particularly good at whatever it is that the field is supposed to be about. I mean... Often counsellors seem interested in things like better communication skills. But that isn't to say that their communication skills are particularly great. I find most 'professionals' are overly focused on... 'Fixing' things... And sometimes what is needed is... A little more of something more like a container... Or blank screen... I think DBT came close to communicating the idea with it's talk of acceptance... And the idea of finding a moment of happiness (okayness?) in the focused present moment... I think this is probably why people are drawn to things like orthopedics, too. Because it is probably one of the clearest areas of medicine with respect to 'broken - there, see? and then I did this fairly simple and straightforward thing with powertools and now it is all better yay me'.
I never found happiness in pills... I found moments of... Obliviousness. Which is a needed respite from the world, sometimes. When things really are... Too much. Too overwhelming. Or for when I'm too much. Brain won't shut down. I think... The pain is useful insofar as it motivates us to make things (the world?) a better place. Insofar as it gives us... Some connection with people who care. Empathy. I think it is about that, too. This idea of growing a thicker skin... Of getting totally lost in the process of... Living ones life... With no connection to the pains and ills of society... Seems... Not very authentic, to me. The ideal? If people were merely animals, for sure. THough even animals are better than that...
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