Posted by sigismund on August 16, 2010, at 1:50:30
In reply to Re: new members » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on August 15, 2010, at 22:45:52
> groups often have uncanny, covert, and thinly veiled strategies for getting rid of new members. Feelings of competition for parental love and attention, terror about one's place and where one fits, murderous feelings towards the new sibling, can all be reactivated in the group that is coping with new additions to the group family.
That's quite a reasonable view of things but it's not the whole truth.
People are certainly welcomed.
Perhaps if they fail their probation (so to speak) then they're on notice?
Certainly I have been on the receiving end of friendliness (expressed with beauty and grace) from people here I will always remember fondly.
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