Posted by Partlycloudy on August 30, 2009, at 14:17:38
In reply to Re: Should I stay or should I go?, posted by Phil on August 30, 2009, at 9:16:25
I appreciate the levity, Phil - your tangents are lovely :-)
I'm having a difficult time weighing the risks and benefits of staying here. My therapist long ago advised me to leave, and I've taken babble breaks. I can't go into her reasons for telling me to go in detail as it would break most of the civility guidelines.
But, for someone who's become as isolated as I have with my MI, babble has become a real social outlet over the years. I have valued friendships I've formed through the boards.
I've also developed some major triggers and traumas, and these definitely hinder my recovery at times. I understand by now that my skin isn't about to become any thicker than it already is.
The good doctor of this site has told me to not read posts written my individuals that upset me. That's not like real life though, is it? I reminds me actually of how I grew up being frightened of dogs. I've never been attacked by a dog. My mother has a terrible fear of dogs (relating to trauma suffered during WWII), and so, growing up, every time we'd come across a dog, any dog, no matter the size or breed, being walked on a street, mum would have me cross the street to avoid the animal. So I grew up with no knowledge of how to properly interact with them, how you ask an owner for permission to pet them, none of that. I thought, for the longest time, that dogs were frightening and dangerous animals - no exceptions.Where am I going here? I think that being told to avoid certain posters does the same thing - sends the wrong message. Do you avoid someone whose posts trigger you, or do you find a way to communicate that is less triggering (like a reasonable and intelligent person might do)? Think of your work situations - ah yes, I remember being able to work - there were people I wouldn't necessarily love to work with. But I didn't have a choice whether or not I would get to work with them - we'd all be thrown together at the same place of work. So you (us, I mean) would civilly find a away to work together.
I'm going in circles at this point. But there is something terribly misguided and instinctively wrong about being told to Not Read certain posts, or boards, even. Maybe it has to do with maturity.
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