Posted by Deneb on July 23, 2009, at 0:07:30
In reply to Re: Sabotaging myself » Deneb, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2009, at 23:30:07
> Deneb, I think you know yourself. What's wrong with not wanting a large amount of stress and responsibility? Some people thrive on it, others don't. Someone in my high school once got really annoyed with me for my lack of ambition. He wanted to go to med school and didn't think he'd get the grades. I got the grades, but I had less than no desire for stress or responsibility. My husband and I both chose not to go to graduate school, because it just wasn't what we wanted in life. I suspect our son will also choose lack of stress and low responsibility - whatever that may look like to him. And as long as he can make a living in the style to which he wishes to become accustomed, why not?
You have a good point there. I look at my sister studying all the time with little sleep and I don't think I'd like a life like that, I like sleep too much LOL. I'm not super smart so I'd have to study very hard. My sister is smart, but she, like me, is not a genius. She needs to study. I think I would love it if I had the motivation and ambition to get that high paying high status job, but I don't. I just hope others don't judge me for that. From you've written though, it seems that the people worth being friends with wouldn't hold that against me.
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> Most people, as they look back on their life, think about their relationships. The people they loved, the good they did. You're looking at it from the other end of the telescope, where education is the focus of your life. I know, it was mine too.I think for me, since I am not very good at relationships, I used take pride in my academic achievements. Now I realize I'm really not that smart nor self motivated.
I think I really like what I'm studying when I do well in it. I start losing interest if I don't understand it. I think I am able to understand organic chem, with the right teacher. I'm doing it for myself, I'm pretty sure.
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> At the risk of sounding religious, you are a child of God. Or if you wish to put it secularly, you are a person who is born with immense worth. You are special right now. People give a darn about you right now. It's wonderful to fulfill your potential. But it is *your* potential. Not a cookie cutter template that you must conform to to be worthwhile.Thanks Dinah (((((Dinah))))) Everyone is special. No cookie cutter life for me. :-)
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