Posted by SLS on June 8, 2009, at 6:37:59
In reply to Unattractive people find partners too right?, posted by Deneb on June 7, 2009, at 20:40:44
> Unattractive people find partners too right?
Yes.
Attractive or unattractive, if it helps you to feel secure in your aspirations to find a mate, I don't think you have anything to worry about.
You said some pretty health things that render the above paragraph as having little value.
You said:
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"I have no idea why I was rejected by my date yesterday. I thought everything was going really well.I am OK, sometimes things just don't work out. If he can't accept me for me, then that is too bad.
It did make me question things about myself for a bit though. Like, maybe I am not attractive or my personality is bad.
But then I thought, attractiveness is relative. I know of one friend who I don't think is attractive who is very much loved by her boyfriend. She must be very attractive in his eyes. They are extremely affectionate towards each other. It is very obvious they are very sexually attracted to one another.
I think maybe I am not very attractive, and that is why guys never ask me out. Or maybe it is my quiet nature. I dunno. Maybe I am unapproachable, but there must be some guys out there who are attracted to me. The trick is in finding one I am also attracted to.
I was a little bit upset for just a short while from the rejection. I'm thinking it though, being rational about things. It helps to post on Babble.
I will move on."
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Holy crap. I am pleasantly surprised.I would only add:
Yup to all of it. Very healthy
:-)
Oh yes, one more thing. I was not as emotionally mature at your age. If you do experience mood and behavioral instability, you do a good job of coping and working with it. About the only thing I would suggest to you - and I could be wrong - is that you perhaps relax and slow down a bit with your dating activity. It might make it easier and healthier to process what what happens on a date into a learning experience. You will become stronger and more stable - if stability is even an issue.
Impressive.
Continue to grow.
Be well.
- Scott
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