Re: My grandmother died last night at age 99.

Posted by SLS on April 6, 2009, at 7:37:15

In reply to Re: My grandmother died last night at age 99., posted by desolationrower on April 6, 2009, at 6:03:42

Hi hayley.
Thank you all for your words of wisdom and support.
Tears make things easier. I'm sure that there will be more to come.
My brother was granted by my parents the responsibility of conducting the graveside service in the manner of his belief in orthodox Judaism. Unfortunately, most of the rest of us, including myself, learned for the first time during this service that there was to be no eulogy. It is currently the hebrew month of Nissan. We were told by my brother that eulogies were prohibited during this month. Indeed, they are. I think this left a sense of emptiness in the hearts of many. You know, it is an irony that Grandma had rejected orthodox Judaism long ago. By the same token, I doubt she would have wanted my brother and his family to remain absent from the funeral. I am quite sure as to what Grandma's wishes were to be, and that they were fulfilled as best as was possible. For me, personally, there is a certain beauty in the recognition of the circle she travelled through her life from birth to death. That she was born and buried in an orthodox manner completes the circle. However, another circle has yet to be completed; one that includes those of us who are not of the orthodox Jewish faith.
There were some words that I would like to have said. I am sure that there are many words left unsaid by other members of the family and friends. I thus asked my parents if they thought it might be a good idea to conduct a memorial service next month at the gravesite to eulogize Grandma, and indeed, her whole generation, as she represented the last of it. Such a memorial will afford many the sense of closure that they were so sure they would receive at the funeral but did not.
Here is a picture of Grandma at her 96th birthday:
http://www.slschofield.com/special/grandma_2.jpg

- Soctt

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